Question About Strange FB Behavior (to me, an Aspie)

[HouseCat71]

Ok, I'm an Aspie and I frequently have no idea how to take certain facebook behaviors.

Last week, a lady from church added me to FB because she wanted to send me a song to listen to. I didn't like the song, so I didn't reply. I figured no reply was better than telling the truth that it sucked, right? I don't know what I was supposed to do there.

Anyway, ever since I added her, she has liked every picture of my husband on my FB page. I went camping last week...took lots of pics of me and him. She likes all of his pictures. THEN, she went through my mobile uploads and liked all the pics of HIM....again. Just him. No pics of me, or me and him...just HIM. Keep in mind that he is 45 and she is sixty-something. She's married too.

Now, I don't feel threatened. It's comical more than anything, but why would a neuro-typical older woman would do this? Either, A. She's got the hots for my Hispanic/Italian husband (which is hilarious to me). B. She wants to make it obvious that she does not like me (because I didn't comment on the crappy song she sent me? Stupid mind games or something. I'm 48 and don't understand how people get their feelings hurt over something stupid like that, but I know they do!) C. It's a weird coincidence and regardless of the reason, she's nothing to worry about. D. A little of all three?

Obviously, I have nothing to worry about, but sometimes, NT behavior like this baffles me as to what the motivator and real reason for it is.

 

[Jude1:3Contendforthefaith]

Who knows. I got rid of FB years ago because of annoying drama.

If anything else weird happens just delete her.

 

[HouseCat71]

Who knows. I got rid of FB years ago because of annoying drama.

If anything else weird happens just delete her.

My husband survives without it. Starting to think I can too. I do like using it to sell stuff and get local updates on events/news.

I think I'll put her on a restricted list. That's the best invention ever for FB. They can see your profile, but not that you posted anything.

As a matter of fact, I think I'll put everybody from church on a restricted list. That's where all the weirdness comes from!

 

[anna ~ grace]

My husband survives without it. Starting to think I can too. I do like using it to sell stuff and get local updates on events/news.

I think I'll put her on a restricted list. That's the best invention ever for FB. They can see your profile, but not that you posted anything.

As a matter of fact, I think I'll put everybody from church on a restricted list. That's where all the weirdness comes from!

If you absolutely must do Facebook, I'd do just a handful of close family. And decades-long friends. And that's it.

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

Ok, I'm an Aspie and I frequently have no idea how to take certain facebook behaviors.

Last week, a lady from church added me to FB because she wanted to send me a song to listen to. I didn't like the song, so I didn't reply. I figured no reply was better than telling the truth that it sucked, right? I don't know what I was supposed to do there.

Anyway, ever since I added her, she has liked every picture of my husband on my FB page. I went camping last week...took lots of pics of me and him. She likes all of his pictures. THEN, she went through my mobile uploads and liked all the pics of HIM....again. Just him. No pics of me, or me and him...just HIM. Keep in mind that he is 45 and she is sixty-something. She's married too.

Now, I don't feel threatened. It's comical more than anything, but why would a neuro-typical older woman would do this? Either, A. She's got the hots for my Hispanic/Italian husband (which is hilarious to me). B. She wants to make it obvious that she does not like me (because I didn't comment on the crappy song she sent me? Stupid mind games or something. I'm 48 and don't understand how people get their feelings hurt over something stupid like that, but I know they do!) C. It's a weird coincidence and regardless of the reason, she's nothing to worry about. D. A little of all three?

Obviously, I have nothing to worry about, but sometimes, NT behavior like this baffles me as to what the motivator and real reason for it is.

You can block her. She sounds like a troll to me.

 

[-Sasha-]

Maybe he reminds her of her son? Idk, this is baffling to me also. Not having facebook really helps to avoid weird situations like that!

For the record, I usually just say thanks for sharing when someone sends me a song I don't like and I don't want to offend them.

 

[Andrew77]

Ok, I'm an Aspie and I frequently have no idea how to take certain facebook behaviors.

Last week, a lady from church added me to FB because she wanted to send me a song to listen to. I didn't like the song, so I didn't reply. I figured no reply was better than telling the truth that it sucked, right? I don't know what I was supposed to do there.

Anyway, ever since I added her, she has liked every picture of my husband on my FB page. I went camping last week...took lots of pics of me and him. She likes all of his pictures. THEN, she went through my mobile uploads and liked all the pics of HIM....again. Just him. No pics of me, or me and him...just HIM. Keep in mind that he is 45 and she is sixty-something. She's married too.

Now, I don't feel threatened. It's comical more than anything, but why would a neuro-typical older woman would do this? Either, A. She's got the hots for my Hispanic/Italian husband (which is hilarious to me). B. She wants to make it obvious that she does not like me (because I didn't comment on the crappy song she sent me? Stupid mind games or something. I'm 48 and don't understand how people get their feelings hurt over something stupid like that, but I know they do!) C. It's a weird coincidence and regardless of the reason, she's nothing to worry about. D. A little of all three?

Obviously, I have nothing to worry about, but sometimes, NT behavior like this baffles me as to what the motivator and real reason for it is.

I don't think it has anything to do with the song she sent you.
I doubt she has the hots for your husband, because if she did, it would be odd to be so overt.

I wager she just liked those pictures, or whatever.

Honestly, I think you are over thinking this... however it is also true that people do odd things on facebook that they would never do in person.

Sounds to me like this isn't something you need in your life. I rarely use facebook. If I'm on it once or twice a month, that's more than enough.

 

[timewerx]

I stopped using FB.

Problem solved!

I kept my account though for the messenger feature. Nowadays I only use the FB messenger app on the phone, never check my page anymore unless I'm adding a friend.

 

[Mel333]

Ok, I'm an Aspie and I frequently have no idea how to take certain facebook behaviors.

Last week, a lady from church added me to FB because she wanted to send me a song to listen to. I didn't like the song, so I didn't reply. I figured no reply was better than telling the truth that it sucked, right? I don't know what I was supposed to do there.

Anyway, ever since I added her, she has liked every picture of my husband on my FB page. I went camping last week...took lots of pics of me and him. She likes all of his pictures. THEN, she went through my mobile uploads and liked all the pics of HIM....again. Just him. No pics of me, or me and him...just HIM. Keep in mind that he is 45 and she is sixty-something. She's married too.

Now, I don't feel threatened. It's comical more than anything, but why would a neuro-typical older woman would do this? Either, A. She's got the hots for my Hispanic/Italian husband (which is hilarious to me). B. She wants to make it obvious that she does not like me (because I didn't comment on the crappy song she sent me? Stupid mind games or something. I'm 48 and don't understand how people get their feelings hurt over something stupid like that, but I know they do!) C. It's a weird coincidence and regardless of the reason, she's nothing to worry about. D. A little of all three?

Obviously, I have nothing to worry about, but sometimes, NT behavior like this baffles me as to what the motivator and real reason for it is.

You could just ask her why? Confront this issue if it's a problem. She could be liking his pics because she wants something like it?

Could be anything until you ask the person or just restrict her like you said and not worrying about it.