See I do not get that thinking. Should a gay man dress 'appropriate' so he doesn't cause offense? Should an attractive woman not wear a skirt so she is'nt raped? It just boggles the mind. The answer to me is no they shouldn't. They have the right to be who they are even if it offends me. It is a foreign rational to me that others owe me comfort by not offending me.
You are right, it isn't the gay person's fault, it isn't the woman's fault.
But none of that matters once he is gay bashed and she is raped.
Noone will blame the victims, but unfortunately they are still victims.
It is not merely about offending people.
If you genuinely fear that what you are doing might encourage people to attack you. If you fear it so much that you feel you must wear a gun, or must post online how fearful you are, well, wouldn't it be wiser to be more careful?
Yes, you absolutely have the right to wear a MAGA hat, and you wearing one doesn't give crazies the OK to attack you.
BUT, if you know there are violent crazies in town, and you fear them attacking you. Why wear the hat?
I mean, surely the MAGA hat doesn't represent your identity? Most people don't go around wearing political statements, most people generally keep their political leanings to themselves, not hidden, but just not showing it off either. It's just politics after all. When all is said and done, we all have the same President/Prime Minister, we all have to live by the same laws, and we all get to vote next time around. We don't have to rub up against each other politically in the mean time.
In society we have people from all sorts of ideologies, we don't have to try to distinguish ourselves apart from each other do we?
Anyway, I'm just saying that if the danger is there, then why provoke it? Even if you are in the right, none of that really matters.
For the gay guy, if the town has some violent gay bashers, I'd be suggesting they tone it down and blend in. I know, they shouldn't have to, I know we shouldn't reward threats. But we do need to choose our fights. Is it really worth it to fight over a hat? And for the girl I'd suggest she makes sure she has company, and avoids dark alleys, and avoids getting too drunk and vulnerable, especially if alone.
Now if you do wear the hat, and the haters come and attack you, lets say you pull out your gun and shoot them.
Are you now proud of yourself? People are dead as a result of you wearing the hat. I know it isn't your fault, but it could have been avoided.
For the girl she could walk with a friend or walk in a well lit, well traveled path, or she could carry a gun and walk alone in the dark. One way she is more likely to be unharmed and no-one dies, the other way she is more likely to have to shoot someone. From an idealistic approach, she could say, well I should be allowed to walk where-ever I like, but in reality, it is just wiser to take the more safe path.
You can control yourself, but you can't control them. I really don't see this idealistic (but I'm right and they are wrong) attitude as very wise, it isn't brave either, it's just stubborn.
There are more important things to life.
Personally, my family needs me, my wife needs me, my kids need me. It would be stupid for me to risk that over fighting for my right to wear a hat.
Anyway, I've said all I can say on that. You can make your own choices obviously. I hope you stay safe which ever path you take.