You're welcome. I wanted to be sure you were aware that there are many 'church find' sites. You might still have to contact a lot of home church groups before finding what you're looking for, of course. Since no church of any 'flavor' will be ideal, it makes sense to find one or a few to share ideas with. Unfortunately (in my opinion at least) the most important properties of a church are usually not their stated doctrines, but an attitude and approach to service. Just finding any person willing to talk about their experiences and thoughts in an honest way may be difficult.
I wondered if you are familiar with Frank Viola's ideas? I don't know a lot about him, but in the past he was very home church oriented. Now it seems he does not stress the 'ideal' form for the ecclasia, but has general ideas about letting the Spirit have control of the way the Church is built. I fear he is a bit too money oriented, but I'd like to understand his views better.