Citanul
Well, when exactly do you mean?
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I'm not sure if any of this has already been said as I may have missed it in the discussion around Christian death metal which dominated the thread, but my suggestion to the OP would be to let him know that you are uncomfortable about it, but that does stem from not liking the music and there being a lot of stereotypes and misconceptions around it (some of which have been mentioned in this thread). Having an open and honest discussion with him is definitely the way to go.
And not just with him. Since he would be going to spend a lot of time with his bandmates, try making an effort to get to know them e.g. inviting them around to your house for a barbecue. That way you would have an opportunity can find out more about why they like the music and what sort of lyrics and imagery they're planning to use. Even though it's called "death" metal, not all bands sing about death, and despite what I think may have been said in this thread, it is not the case that most metal bands are satanic.
And you would also be able to discover what their interests and plans are outside of music as a lot of metal musicians are just regular people who you wouldn't give a second glance to if you encountered them on the street. I used to work with the drummer for a metal band (not death metal, although they did have some elements in their music), who was well-liked by everyone, well-respected in the company and a big loss when he left, has an MBA, and has been happily married for a couple of years now. Apart from the drumming, he was into watching sport, binging on TV series, and video games - all completely normal pastimes. And if you were to see him, you'd probably think he was a hipster rather than a metalhead, so in most aspects of his life just a regular guy.
That's not to say that you should necessarily just give your son the green light as maybe your fears aren't completely unfounded. But it's definitely a good idea to first take the time to find out a bit more rather than simply raising objections at the words "death metal".
And not just with him. Since he would be going to spend a lot of time with his bandmates, try making an effort to get to know them e.g. inviting them around to your house for a barbecue. That way you would have an opportunity can find out more about why they like the music and what sort of lyrics and imagery they're planning to use. Even though it's called "death" metal, not all bands sing about death, and despite what I think may have been said in this thread, it is not the case that most metal bands are satanic.
And you would also be able to discover what their interests and plans are outside of music as a lot of metal musicians are just regular people who you wouldn't give a second glance to if you encountered them on the street. I used to work with the drummer for a metal band (not death metal, although they did have some elements in their music), who was well-liked by everyone, well-respected in the company and a big loss when he left, has an MBA, and has been happily married for a couple of years now. Apart from the drumming, he was into watching sport, binging on TV series, and video games - all completely normal pastimes. And if you were to see him, you'd probably think he was a hipster rather than a metalhead, so in most aspects of his life just a regular guy.
That's not to say that you should necessarily just give your son the green light as maybe your fears aren't completely unfounded. But it's definitely a good idea to first take the time to find out a bit more rather than simply raising objections at the words "death metal".
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