- Jun 28, 2017
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hello..
So I live in liberal California, where they basically made weed legal here this last year for recreational and medical purposes. (I know it's been medically legal for a little while here). I know this is a highly debatable topic. We could talk for hours.
My 2 best friends who are both Christians (and don't know each other very well) decided to pick up weed. They both hid it from me at 1st. One of them uses every medical excuse in the book to use it, but I know her so well.. I know a large part of it is her new boyfriend smokes it and she wants to do it too. The other friend is my best friend and roommate. She has been a christian a lot longer. But she has struggled with weed for a while now. She was clean almost 2 years and was so proud of herself. But she picked it back up.
Like I said, I'm not out to start a debate. But I really don't agree with using pot. I fully recognize and realize that in SOME cases it can be a miracle "drug" and help out people who don't have much of a quality of life. But everything in me is not ok with it. I can go on for ages. But mostly, I am worried about my friends. I saw what weed did to the one friend a few years ago and it brought her really deep down into a depression. She was so addicted to it before she could hardly function. She was doing so well! And then boom out of no where. The other friend who this is basically new to, has already shown not so great signs. To be blunt, I feel like legalizing weed made them feel like it was ok now. But I just don't see how God would be ok with it! I should also note that the friend that's the roomie also promised me she just needed a "vacation" and it was only temporary. But it hasn't been temporary at all. (I should also note I am her accountability partner too)
Where I need advice is this: I am struggling. They hide it from me, mostly due to respect, but I'm also not stupid. When it takes them over an hour to get home and they only work 10 min away with traffic. Or I smell it on them Or their cars. I tried being patient and not saying anything. I've tried just pushing away negative thoughts. I've even tried joint around with them about it. I have prayed about it every day and night. But something isn't sitting right with me. I feel so burdened and sad for them. Honestly, it's hard to be around them sometimes because I don't agree with their choices.
How can I still be the best friend I can be to them but still hold them accountable? (They both have said at one point or another that they agree smoking weed is not good). One friend had asked me to help keep her clean, and now she is asking me to just let it slide for a bit. But when I pray, I get a deep sinking feeling and I know something just isn't right. How do I push my feelings aside and keep being friends?
How do I love them without pushing them away?
Please be kind. I know that there might be people here who don't see things they way I do and that's ok. I just want to get over this hump and move on without worrying about my friends. Thank you all in advance!
So I live in liberal California, where they basically made weed legal here this last year for recreational and medical purposes. (I know it's been medically legal for a little while here). I know this is a highly debatable topic. We could talk for hours.
My 2 best friends who are both Christians (and don't know each other very well) decided to pick up weed. They both hid it from me at 1st. One of them uses every medical excuse in the book to use it, but I know her so well.. I know a large part of it is her new boyfriend smokes it and she wants to do it too. The other friend is my best friend and roommate. She has been a christian a lot longer. But she has struggled with weed for a while now. She was clean almost 2 years and was so proud of herself. But she picked it back up.
Like I said, I'm not out to start a debate. But I really don't agree with using pot. I fully recognize and realize that in SOME cases it can be a miracle "drug" and help out people who don't have much of a quality of life. But everything in me is not ok with it. I can go on for ages. But mostly, I am worried about my friends. I saw what weed did to the one friend a few years ago and it brought her really deep down into a depression. She was so addicted to it before she could hardly function. She was doing so well! And then boom out of no where. The other friend who this is basically new to, has already shown not so great signs. To be blunt, I feel like legalizing weed made them feel like it was ok now. But I just don't see how God would be ok with it! I should also note that the friend that's the roomie also promised me she just needed a "vacation" and it was only temporary. But it hasn't been temporary at all. (I should also note I am her accountability partner too)
Where I need advice is this: I am struggling. They hide it from me, mostly due to respect, but I'm also not stupid. When it takes them over an hour to get home and they only work 10 min away with traffic. Or I smell it on them Or their cars. I tried being patient and not saying anything. I've tried just pushing away negative thoughts. I've even tried joint around with them about it. I have prayed about it every day and night. But something isn't sitting right with me. I feel so burdened and sad for them. Honestly, it's hard to be around them sometimes because I don't agree with their choices.
How can I still be the best friend I can be to them but still hold them accountable? (They both have said at one point or another that they agree smoking weed is not good). One friend had asked me to help keep her clean, and now she is asking me to just let it slide for a bit. But when I pray, I get a deep sinking feeling and I know something just isn't right. How do I push my feelings aside and keep being friends?
How do I love them without pushing them away?
Please be kind. I know that there might be people here who don't see things they way I do and that's ok. I just want to get over this hump and move on without worrying about my friends. Thank you all in advance!