Are people really happy single!

[Angeleyes7715]

I hear some people volunteer and have lots of friends and stuff but I can't see how anyone could be happy with shallow relationships like that long term. No real family, no kids, your friends will have their own family so they'll have less time for you. And the physical desires that come with being single, hobbies and volunteer work doesn't fix that. How can some people they are okay with being single forever?

 

[RC1970]

I hear some people volunteer and have lots of friends and stuff but I can't see how anyone could be happy with shallow relationships like that long term. No real family, no kids, your friends will have their own family so they'll have less time for you. And the physical desires that come with being single, hobbies and volunteer work doesn't fix that. How can some people they are okay with being single forever?

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." ~ Philippians 4:6-7

 

[rockytopva]

It is all in personal and spiritual motivation. Without which one cannot be happy married or single.

 

[MotherFirefly]

I think this is one of those topics which will get only unique answers.

Perhaps some people require less social stimuli than others, even preferring moments spent in solitude.
Also, since it is possible to be single and have children, maybe some of them find it difficult to provide the amount of attention someone who is single without children is looking for.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Some people don't give relationships a priority, or find other ways of having their needs for companionship and affection met. But not everyone is happy single, not by a long shot.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[Toro]

In order to find happiness with anyone, one must first find peace and joy in themselves.

(Speaking generally, not at anyone directly)
If YOU can not make your life happy and meaningful yourself.... how is it fair to expect someone else to bring that to you? Outside of Christ of course, He is the only one we can TRULY look to, to bring us fulfillment and NOT be met with disappointment.

If you find your joy SOLELY in someone other than Christ they WILL inevitably disappoint you. Looking to others for happiness is one reason I believe so many get married, then divorced. They think being married will "fix" something in them. When it doesn't it just becomes a burden and toss their marriage aside.

 

[Saucy]

I hear some people volunteer and have lots of friends and stuff but I can't see how anyone could be happy with shallow relationships like that long term. No real family, no kids, your friends will have their own family so they'll have less time for you. And the physical desires that come with being single, hobbies and volunteer work doesn't fix that. How can some people they are okay with being single forever?

I've often wondered if it was something most people say when they want to be okay with it, but I guess people go through different things at different times. Sometimes that drive isn't always on. It might be off for many years while they're focusing on college or getting their career going and then BOOM one day it kicks on.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Right, if I had friends that care for me deeply that I could have fun with. If be happy too. But to have no friends or a significant other... That's torture..

So I'm not happy single, I'm lonely and I'm being honest. I have god but sometimes I wonder if I really do as he's always silent, when I ask for help ... Nothing happens.

I don't know what to tell you Angel eyes , just to keep waking up everyday and hopefully you'll run into a miracle eventually.

Praying we both do.

 

[sundewgrower]

Not forever. Hope differed is hard but no hope at all is impossible for me.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

In order to find happiness with anyone, one must first find peace and joy in themselves.

(Speaking generally, not at anyone directly)
If YOU can not make your life happy and meaningful yourself.... how is it fair to expect someone else to bring that to you? Outside of Christ of course, He is the only one we can TRULY look to, to bring us fulfillment and NOT be met with disappointment.

If you find your joy SOLELY in someone other than Christ they WILL inevitably disappoint you. Looking to others for happiness is one reason I believe so many get married, then divorced. They think being married will "fix" something in them. When it doesn't it just becomes a burden and toss their marriage aside.

NOT ENTIRELY TRUE, my friend loathed himself and I know this because he vented to me often about how he hated himself and tried to kill himself..but he is now engaged..,though he couldn't love himself he was able to love his fiance and love her enough to make her marry him and now because she was so patient,loving and kind to him..he is now coming around to loving himself.

So that saying ," you have to love yourself before u love others isn't really true.,,,if you know how to treat someone and be kind toward them..,you're fine.

You should love yourself because you deserve it...not to keep someone.

I think people through that phrase around bc they don't know what else to say or have no idea how to remedy their pain caused by singleness and turn the issue inward so the one in pain has something to work on .,,and they can stop complain for a bit.

At least that's my take on it.

 

[com7fy8]

How it can work >

While you are giving to others, you are satisfied.

Because you love someone, it is easy to have self control.

 

[Toro]

NOT ENTIRELY TRUE, my friend loathed himself and I know this because he vented to me often about how he hated himself and tried to kill himself..but he is now engaged..,though he couldn't love himself he was able to love his fiance and love her enough to make her marry him and now because she was so patient,loving and kind to him..he is now coming around to loving himself.

So that saying ," you have to love yourself before u love others isn't really true.,,,if you know how to treat someone and be kind toward them..,you're fine.

You should love yourself because you deserve it...not to keep someone.

I think people through that phrase around bc they don't know what else to say or have no idea how to remedy their pain caused by singleness and turn the issue inward so the one in pain has something to work on .,,and they can stop complain for a bit.

At least that's my take on it.

Never said ANYTHING about loving yourself before you can love others.

I said if you cant be happy in yourself, its not fair to put that weight of your happiness on someone elses shoulders.
(again, being general not direct)
(Aside from peace and fulfillment of Christ) Your happiness is YOUR responsibility, not someone elses burden to carry.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Never said ANYTHING about loving yourself before you can love others.

I said if you cant be happy in yourself, its not fair to put that weight of your happiness on someone elses shoulders.
(again, being general not direct)
(Aside from peace and fulfillment of Christ) Your happiness is YOUR responsibility, not someone elses burden to carry.

My friend wasn't happy with himself and made sure his gf was though, as well as loved.

A relationship is a give and take.. In a relationship it IS your responsibility to make that other person feel loved and happy... Or else it won't work. That's one of the many responsibilities of a relationship. Maintaining your happiness as well as there's

Also, I wish people would stop acting as if happiness exists in a vacuum, it doesn't. If that's the case, take away your parents, siblings, friends, job, finances, clothes, and house ... Live in the woods and if like to see how happy would actually be if they all had to live like John the Baptist,

If people are honest, they wouldn't.

Even God said it's not good for man to be alone.

 

[Sketcher]

What keeps me somewhat content is looking at 1) the stress, self-sacrifice, and expense of having a wife and kids, and 2) people I've known who went through divorces or their live-in relationships ended badly.

 

[Toro]

My friend wasn't happy with himself and made sure his gf was though, as well as loved.

A relationship is a give and take.. In a relationship it IS your responsibility to make that other person feel loved and happy... Or else it won't work. That's one of the many responsibilities of a relationship. Maintaining your happiness as well as there's

Never said one does not serve the other.... but if ones joy is found SOLELY in the other person there is turmoil because people have bad days.

If my joy is based SOLELY on the joy of the woman I love, how can I possibly be there for her and support her if her bad mood towards me has me thrown off and has robbed me of my joy because as you say its "her responsibility" to make me happy.

It is up to a couple to serve eachother, NOT to be eachothers SOLE source of happiness.

I find GREAT joy in the woman I love..... but she is not my ONLY source of joy.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Never said one does not serve the other.... but if ones joy is found SOLELY in the other person there is turmoil because people have bad days.

If my joy is based SOLELY on the joy of the woman I love, how can I possibly be there for her and support her if her bad mood towards me has me thrown off and has robbed me of my joy because as you say its "her responsibility" to make me happy.

It is up to a couple to serve eachother, NOT to be eachothers SOLE source of happiness.

It works for my friend. If people are honest, they find joy in alot of things and people too. Its natural, no one should be your everything..but wanting and desiring connection with people and getting joy and happiness from that isn't a sin.

 

[Swan7]

To keep it real short and simple, if a relationship is God-centred then it's gonna be healthier and happier living.
That is my own experience.

 

[Toro]

It works for my friend. If people are honest, they find joy in alot of things and people too. Its natural, no one should be your everything..but wanting and desiring connection with people and getting joy and happiness from that isn't a sin.

Never said it was a sin.

In fact, finding joy in multiple areas of life is exactly what I have been saying (by finding it in ones self, by doing, seeing experiencing life single or taken. Relying on others as a sole source of that fulfillment will only result in disappointment) . People put FAR too much weight of their happiness on "not being single any more".

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Never said it was a sin.

In fact, finding joy in multiple areas of life is exactly what I have been saying (by finding it in ones self, by doing, seeing experiencing life single or taken. Relying on others as a sole source of that fulfillment will only result in disappointment) . People put FAR too much weight of their happiness on "not being single any more".

I never said you said it was a sin., was just putting it out there.