The young lady is open to learning and willing to marry in a Christian church, with a Christian service. She is at the start of her journey, not the end.
I hope she encounters people who welcome her with open arms. And that she does not ever read this thread; the impression given of our faith in some parts is not the most edifying.
He asked about the children and I answered honestly. We should NEVER marry someone hoping that they will change into someone differently than they are .... spouses are not "fixer up projects". My advice is solid. We don't let children decide whether or not they learn to read...we teach them to read. If you want you children to have a faith as they grow up, you have to teach and model it. This woman is not Christian. She can't model it or teach it. She may be a very lovely person but she isn't a Christian. If she is lovely and delightful, the kids are likely to follow her beliefs because they love their mom....unless dad is planning on being the primary caregiver or an outside source is going to be the primary caregiver (then I'd look to see what the nanny/babysitter/daycare teacher's belief is because that will be the religion that is modeled).
Agreeing to be married in a Christian church with a Christian service means nothing....because the place is not sacred to her nor are the vows. It is a building and it is just words. She isn't at the beginning of her journey unless she is seeking the Christian God. He hasn't said that she is interested in becoming a Christian...only that she is open to learning about Christianity which is very Buddist...wanting to learn for the sake of learning. One day she may or may not become a Christian, but is he comfortable with her never becoming a Christian? which means when he/she dies one day, they will be eternally separated. Let her come to Christ before he marries her....not marry her and hope for the best because his "best" may not be the one she chooses.
This is not judgmental but rather very pragmatic and practical marriage advice.
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