Why are you Single?

[BadHabit]

What's so shocking? In my experience (which I admit does not cover the gamut of all women), but my limited experience has shown me women to be manipulative, disloyal, fair-weather, harlots.

My dog loves me no matter what. That's all I ever wanted. Shame I have to find what I am looking for from a lesser creature than another human being.

 

[Toro]

What's so shocking? In my experience (which I admit does not cover the gamut of all women), but my limited experience has shown me women to be manipulative, disloyal, fair-weather, harlots.

My dog loves me no matter what. That's all I ever wanted. Shame I have to find what I am looking for from a lesser creature than another human being.

Thats not a woman condition its a human condition.

That is why we choose those people that we allow in our lives carefully. Because a VAST majority of people on this planet are manipulative, disloyal, fair weather in one way or another (Some with malice some times not so much). Its not a gender trait.

 

[Jack of Spades]

Thats not a woman condition its a human condition.

That is why we choose those people that we allow in our lives carefully. Because a VAST majority of people on this planet are manipulative, disloyal, fair weather in one way or another (Some with malice some times not so much). Its not a gender trait.

I think men and women just tend to develop different types of unpleasant traits by average. Men commit a lot more violent crimes than women do. I think it was as much as 5-10x more proportionally. Men and women are different, so men and women tend to have different good sides and dark sides too. By average, that is.

btw. Dogs can have rabies or aggression problems too. I can't help thinking what would a person, who's only seen those dogs, think about this rosy idea of a dog being the ultimate loyal partner.

 

[MotherFirefly]

What's so shocking? In my experience (which I admit does not cover the gamut of all women), but my limited experience has shown me women to be manipulative, disloyal, fair-weather, harlots.

My dog loves me no matter what. That's all I ever wanted. Shame I have to find what I am looking for from a lesser creature than another human being.

When I was younger, I couldn't stand dogs. In fact I despised, even was a little afraid of them, all due to having an awful experience with some when I was a kid. For years, I refused to ever have anything to do with them, because in my mind they were all snarling, un-washed, monsters who would hurt you the first chance they got. I was very close-minded about the entire thing due to bitterness from my past experience.

Then, one day, I was visiting a friend and what do you know, she had a dog. I was very uncomfortable, even a little awkward around him. However, as the day went on, he really won me over with his cute little eyes and the way he would roll over on your lap and force you to rub his belly... sigh. I gave in. After a few scratches he was basically my new best friend.

That is when I realized, not every dog can be defined by the select few who are awful creatures, because hidden among them there are plenty who are sweet, lovely gems and will be loyal to you. So long as you scratch their belly and play with them.

I am not sure what you can learn from this story, but I guess the general idea is, dogs aren't so bad if you put the effort into finding the right ones. or something like that.

I think there is a lesson hidden in there about keeping an open-mind, but I am not sure.
I still prefer cats.

 

[Noxot]

i'm single because I have rabies and i'm floating in outer space. the time says it all but hardly anyone even knows what 318 means. barnabas knew, he was the one who told me.

 

[Servant68]

Every serious girlfriend that I had from age 16 to 24 ended up cheating on me. Then I got saved and married a Christian woman for 20 years, who ended up re-connecting with her high school boyfriend on Facebook and "cheated" on me by developing a relationship with him behind my back and asked for a divorce.

So, I could be bitter and say that all women cheat and are liars.

Nope. I made horrible choices in women and there was something wrong with me to cause infidelity.

 

[Jack of Spades]

When I was younger, I couldn't stand dogs. In fact I despised, even was a little afraid of them, all due to having an awful experience with some when I was a kid. For years, I refused to ever have anything to do with them, because in my mind they were all snarling, un-washed, monsters who would hurt you the first chance they got. I was very close-minded about the entire thing due to bitterness from my past experience.

Then, one day, I was visiting a friend and what do you know, she had a dog. I was very uncomfortable, even a little awkward around him. However, as the day went on, he really won me over with his cute little eyes and the way he would roll over on your lap and force you to rub his belly... sigh. I gave in. After a few scratches he was basically my new best friend.

That is when I realized, not every dog can be defined by the select few who are awful creatures, because hidden among them there are plenty who are sweet, lovely gems and will be loyal to you. So long as you scratch their belly and play with them.

I am not sure what you can learn from this story, but I guess the general idea is, dogs aren't so bad if you put the effort into finding the right ones. or something like that.

I think there is a lesson hidden in there about keeping an open-mind, but I am not sure.
I still prefer cats.

I'd have similar "from hate to love and finding good friends" story about cats, but it's so similar to yours, that I'll just skip it and thumbs-up your story.

 

[MotherFirefly]

My excuse used to be that good boys were like The Oscar and I was Leonardo Dicaprio..

..Perhaps we do have a chance afterall.

 

[faithisaunicorn]

Tinder didn't work. Too many dudes asking for hookups and none looking for proper relationships :/

 

[TonyLee]

I am single since I do not ask anyone on dates. My last date was in 2003. I am 48 and have never married.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[Owlette]

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[MotherFirefly]

So you're good looking and good at putting on a show do but the main prize always eludes you? Fair enough.

lol.

 

[mojoboy31]

@Owlette - not quoting you

I know what you mean. It can be a very difficult thing. Trust doesn't come easy and a lot of people simply don't stick around long enough to earn it.

 

[Sir Robbins]

I respect your comment Owlette and won't quote. My best friend lives in Washington DC, I'm in Orlando, Florida. He and I both went to school and hung out in Atlanta... Big city, many people but when he moved, it became very lonely. Lots of people though around me. Sadly, lots of the wrong people. He and I are still best friends and call each other every couple of months and talk like it was yesterday when we last chatted. It's different when you don't see them though. I haven't really reconnected with anyone down here since moving back for a similar reason to you. It's hard to let people in and in my case of facing a disabling disease, it makes everything worse. I just don't have the energy for people and sadly and oddly enough, I don't want the energy for it. I almost see my state of pain and suffering as a blessing and that in itself is weird to me. Alone for life is my destiny. Not what I planned but what I deserve and am only worthy of. Sorry this was long. Haven't been on in a couple weeks.

I can't say I know how you feel because I don't. I constantly hear people say "God should be enough" but the contradiction is relationships on earth. I am sorry you are going through with this. Trust as stated in the post above mine is hard to earn these days.

 

[CCHIPSS]

What's so shocking? In my experience (which I admit does not cover the gamut of all women), but my limited experience has shown me women to be manipulative, disloyal, fair-weather, harlots.

My dog loves me no matter what. That's all I ever wanted. Shame I have to find what I am looking for from a lesser creature than another human being.

Are you saying out of all your friends that are husbands and wives, you have yet to see even one single loyal and honest wife? I find that impossible.

 

[Rasnosauj]

My prayer for God to give me a good woman is alive. So I wait and don't pursue easy women. I'm single because I'm waiting on $. Then I'll start dating. Has anyone made a step not to be single in the past month?

 

[Rajni]

Then we could have a whole new forum for "unhappily married ex-singles" on CF...

I wonder if we'd really need it; whenever I skim the list
of topics in the Married Couples section, it very much has
the feel of an Unhappily Married Ex-Singles forum.


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[Rajni]

why are you single?

Because he was my husband, not my hostage, and I wanted him to be happy.


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[James of Arc]

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