Is masturbation wrong. Is it wrong to imagine a male(has no identity) and yourself on your wedding night? Is it totally wrong to have taught about a fable chracter (from a book)? Is it totally bibically wrong to have sexual taughts?
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Having sexual thoughts is not wrong at all, but natural. Sexuality is a big part of our human being and this is not a shame at all! Denying a part of our being is wrong, and even dangerous. Thoughts are not acts. You have to learn how to control your body and how to control your thoughts, like every adult does: nothing wrong in all that. Every being has to control its passions and feelings to live quietly.
If you imagine yourself and an another man on your wedding night, then you should truly worry for the future of your marriage. Sexuality is a big part of a successful marriage and if you already ignore your husband after your first night together...
When it comes to a fictional character... When having a crush and compassion for a non real character is totally normal (I do it all the time, especially when I read/watch the Lord of the Rings...), forgetting that a character is a character (a projection of a distorted or subjective reality) is wrong: it prevents you for discovering how true and real are the people around you. Not good if you are looking for any kind of relationships.
If you imagine yourself and an another man on your wedding night, then you should truly worry for the future of your marriage. Sexuality is a big part of a successful marriage and if you already ignore your husband after your first night together...
When it comes to a fictional character... When having a crush and compassion for a non real character is totally normal (I do it all the time, especially when I read/watch the Lord of the Rings...), forgetting that a character is a character (a projection of a distorted or subjective reality) is wrong: it prevents you for discovering how true and real are the people around you. Not good if you are looking for any kind of relationships.
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Thank you for your answer but I am not married yet. The idea that I was you a young woman before marriage. No one that I find sexually attracted to. But it's the idea of sex that 'does it's.
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Depends. Poetry often talks about detailed sexuality, but in a beautiful and sensitive way. Nothing to do with basic lust, as it gives to sexuality its pure beauty, poetry, melody.
Theater of the Antiquity also talks a lot of sex, but not always with the same delicate side. Can be funny, but not really edifying.
Now if you are talking about 50 shades of Grey this is surely a different thread. That book, as a commercial thing, plays with the naivety of young girls to describe an objectification of the woman, submitted to a dominant male, by portraying an easy sexuality which only causes lust (no artistic or intellectual interest. No, I don't like that book at all)
It depends on you. If you know yourself enough to know what can be interesting or not.
Theater of the Antiquity also talks a lot of sex, but not always with the same delicate side. Can be funny, but not really edifying.
Now if you are talking about 50 shades of Grey this is surely a different thread. That book, as a commercial thing, plays with the naivety of young girls to describe an objectification of the woman, submitted to a dominant male, by portraying an easy sexuality which only causes lust (no artistic or intellectual interest. No, I don't like that book at all)
It depends on you. If you know yourself enough to know what can be interesting or not.
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Yes, yes it is. Especially since you are not married. If you did it with yours huband/wife, then it would be a different case, but since you're single, you are feeding your mind with images that will only cause you to lust. The more you lust, the more the urge to touch. Simple as 1,2, and 3.
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Masturbation is iffy. I don't believe there is a verse in Scripture that expressly forbids it, but given its close ties with lust I'd avoid it if at all possible. We all have sexual desires, but you must keep yourself from lust. And masturbation opens a huge window for lust to come in. You might start innocently enough, thinking you're just releasing steam, but how long before you start thinking about real people, maybe even people in relationships, and lusting after them in your heart?
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My friends started talking about this last year and I didn't really understand but now I guess I am catching up to them and wanted to talk about it but now they are all shy about it. So it's really confusing meeeeeeee 
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