Yes. Just like when you are with your family at the diner, the phrase, "We should all get to eat what we ordered" is the truth. However, if it's coming from your spouse after the kitchen gave you the wrong order (while everyone else got the right order) and you said, "I should get to eat what I ordered", it might come across as dismissive and mean. "What, does she think I don't think they should get what they ordered? They already got what they ordered; everyone else is doing just fine!" Fundamentally, this is the problem here:
It doesn't. It just doesn't. In a vacuum, with absolutely no cultural context, it's an equitable, reasonable statement. But we aren't in a vacuum, and given the context, it's what your hypothetical spouse said to you at your hypothetical restaurant: a dismissive response to a group of the populace saying, "Hang on, we're being treated unfairly", dismissing their claims as irrelevant and saying "we all should be treated fairly" as if their problems didn't matter.
The problem here is that everyone else already is being treated fairly, and nothing in #BlackLivesMatter devalues anyone else's life. What, do you think the people saying "Save the rainforest" mean "Save only the rainforest and slash and burn all the others"? No, they're drawing specific attention to a specific issue. Same deal with #BlackLivesMatter. Of course the people saying that understand that white lives matter too. EVERYONE UNDERSTANDS THAT WHITE LIVES MATTER. Even the police. At the same time, it seems like people don't understand that black lives matter. Not in the same way, anyways.
I think part of it was the delivery, because they certainly didn't give the impression of what you speak of.
I know where I live MANY people of all backgrounds are extremely concerned about certain black neighborhoods, because of the violence. The gangs just plain took over those areas, and they terrorize those that live there. Majority of people have found ways of getting out, and majority of those were blacks also. Who could blame them? It's a war zone.
It's hard to get anything in there as far as stores or other things, because the insurance rates are sky high there. Why? The break-ins, vandalism, hold ups, muggings, etc. Once upon a time even the police didn't like going there, although that has changed. If you want a cab? Good luck! They won't come! Yet, those wimpy 'protest' organizers won't acknowledge that reality...it goes against their 'police brutality' theme. They don't want to deal with that - its easier to grab a microphone at a political rally.
The politicians in that city are worthless, and yet they are encouraged to keep voting them IN. I haven't seen hardly anything happen to help improve their lifes, and yet they certainly do have lip service to make you think they do. Children can't play outside, or use the neighborhood park...without a huge risk of getting shot! Yep, those gun control laws are do them so much good...no doubt they appreciate it (yes, sarcasm).
Those are the individuals people think of when these pantywaist 'protest' organizers claim no one feels black lifes matter, and need to be reminded of it. I mean please. They can't even be honest enough to say they are just plain to afraid to go in there, and help those poor souls. I mean what is easier? Yelling RACIST in cop's face, or making progress where lifes don't matter LITERALLY...and you could risk getting blown away? Hmm.
That's why it falls on deaf ears, because they don't help, don't organize, and won't acknowledge that those lifes DON'T matter in those neighborhoods...even though people have been having FITS for years and years over it. Yes, those poor, ignorant white souls have been pitching fits and helping fund things in those neighborhoods (along with black individuals and every other background). Yet, please give us the lectures again about how WE don't think THEY matter! Condemning everyone isn't helping anything, and yet that is all we hear.
Many think they need to get their priorities straight, and help the many MANY more people that could truly use their energy! Yet, they are to busy lecturing us about how we don't think black lifes matter...and need to be reminded. To me? It's disingenuous to say the least. I think their cowards in that aspect.
So, it seems there is a lack of understanding going both ways. Many feel they are devaluing those lifes, and feel they don't seem to matter to them. They sure do a good job running away from the subject from what I have seen in interviews.