I'm curious, does anybody else find it difficult to date and have meaningful relationships after 30? 30 seems to be that age, that it feels like all is lost when it comes to dating. If you don't find anybody in your 20s, hopeless is probably too strong of a word, but it sure feels that way sometimes.
In my geographical area, going to church, spiritual integrity and morality are practically lost on my generation. I go to church on Sundays, the closest aged peers that go to church are 45 and 21. There is nobody in my age group that goes to church. Everybody my age is married or has kids.
I don't mean to be insensitive and I'm not sure how to say this in a sensitive manner, I'm not interesting in dating someone that already has kids, either out of wedlock or a failed marriage. I've been careful to save myself for marriage (which puts me in the company of nobody for my age group in this geographical area) while I'm not so naive to expect the same from my future spouse, having a family I could call my own has always been a dream. Again, I don't mean any disrespect to anybody that finds themselves being a single mother, it's just not what I'm looking for.
The women that are my age and are single and do have moral integrity, I get the sense that they have been hurt from past relationships and I have difficulty getting close to them. I understand completely why they are guarding their hearts, I've been disappointed a lot too in past relationships. The refrain "I'm not like other guys" I'm sure has been used on them over and over again on them. But I genuinely don't see myself as being like other guys. I wish I knew how to prove that, how to gain their trust.
I've always said that we never fully understand God's will for our lives. But it doesn't mean that we won't try. It's human nature to want to understand life's meaning. I don't know what God's plan is for me. While I trust God's plan, it's also frustrating and it wears me down sometimes. But you can always count on the comfort of Christ. That's why I always pray for God to comfort us whenever we are feeling down and hurt. Just asking for prayers of comfort.
In my geographical area, going to church, spiritual integrity and morality are practically lost on my generation. I go to church on Sundays, the closest aged peers that go to church are 45 and 21. There is nobody in my age group that goes to church. Everybody my age is married or has kids.
I don't mean to be insensitive and I'm not sure how to say this in a sensitive manner, I'm not interesting in dating someone that already has kids, either out of wedlock or a failed marriage. I've been careful to save myself for marriage (which puts me in the company of nobody for my age group in this geographical area) while I'm not so naive to expect the same from my future spouse, having a family I could call my own has always been a dream. Again, I don't mean any disrespect to anybody that finds themselves being a single mother, it's just not what I'm looking for.
The women that are my age and are single and do have moral integrity, I get the sense that they have been hurt from past relationships and I have difficulty getting close to them. I understand completely why they are guarding their hearts, I've been disappointed a lot too in past relationships. The refrain "I'm not like other guys" I'm sure has been used on them over and over again on them. But I genuinely don't see myself as being like other guys. I wish I knew how to prove that, how to gain their trust.
I've always said that we never fully understand God's will for our lives. But it doesn't mean that we won't try. It's human nature to want to understand life's meaning. I don't know what God's plan is for me. While I trust God's plan, it's also frustrating and it wears me down sometimes. But you can always count on the comfort of Christ. That's why I always pray for God to comfort us whenever we are feeling down and hurt. Just asking for prayers of comfort.