Defer: To put off; postpone. Synonyms: defer, postpone, shelve, stay, suspend. (Thefreedictionary.com)
Sorry but you can't do that. You can't "defer" what a verse is stating to make it fit your narrative. These verses are in reference to a woman having birth pangs and giving birth to a man
child. (Rev 12:2-5) Jesus was no longer a child when he was on the cross at Calvary.
Firstly, this is a logical non sequitur. Secondly, Mary probably did suffer but she certainly did not share her son's suffering. She was not lashed, humiliated and hung on a cross. Neither was she made to be sin for us so that we might become the righteousness of God in her (2 Corinthians 5:21)
So Jesus came down from heaven only to be swept up to heaven again right after his birth? ...Yeah, that sounds very unlikely.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Cu0LkglQgw