I am kind of a simple dude, so if I have a problem understanding something, I make a little illustration about it. I'll share my illustrations about both sides, and let me know where they are wrong, if you will. I don't mean to insult anyone's belief... I simply wish to share what makes me conclude this way.
I imagine a hundred orphaned kids and the master of the orphanage. He tells them that there is a wildfire just outside of town, so they are not to go into the playground down the street today. The kids don't know what a wildfire is, and being naturally rebellious kids, they go to the playground anyway and begin to do the things they think are fun.
The master of the orphanage, now, does one of two things. He chooses a fifteen passenger van, drives down to the playground, and hand-selects his favorite fifteen kids. He walks up to each of them, distracts them from their play, points to the horizon where the fire is getting closer so they understand, and they eagerly follow him back to the van. He leaves the remaining 85 kids playing at the playground so they can burn to death. After all, he told them not to and they disobeyed, right, so why shouldn't he let them burn?
On the other hand, the master of the orphanage may choose a large bus with a hundred seats and drive that over to the playground. This master, however, just throws a bunch of maps into the playground with a note about the impending fire, instructions to find the way back to the bus, and instructions to share the map with the other kids. Some of the kids find the maps and some of them don't. Some of the kids who find the maps tell the other kids about it, and a few of them follow. At the end, fifteen kids board the bus and the other 85 are either still doing their own thing or they're arguing about who would make a map to stop them from playing in the first place. They burn to death because they chose not to follow the map home or believe the other kids.
I'm sure that both sides will be able to show me what my illustrations are lacking. Again, I'm not trying to be sarcastic... this is how I'm seeing it.