I spent some time with my 21 year old son, his first girlfriend, her mother and brother at a comedy theatre.
I am seeing that my son is overselling his good quatlities and going so over the top, being the nice guy, getting all of us our drinks and snacks etc. I was in ear shot of his girlfriend complaining to her mum how my son is so stressful, being drama about getting drinks food etc, and blah blah blah, her words verbatim.
Later after the musical we went to mc donalds to get coffee on the outskirts of the city and again he is doing all the running around while they are sitting on their lazy behinds.
He finally sits down with all the coffee, girlfriend peels a 'play it to win' sticker from her coffee and gets a free bonus bag of apple and her mother says 'go get the free bag of apple' to my son.
I believe we show people how to treat us, and this is what is happening.
His girlfriend reeks of 'diva' attitude and i have to say I really dont like her at all, not after spending 6 or so hours in her company. She yelling, 'fat, cow' from the car to people, and ugly.
She said she wants one of my son's pay packets to go to an exclusive shopping precinct, 'Chadstone' She feels so deprived and jealous she has not been shopping in forever. She was openly laughing in front of two women who were taking their own photos with an iphone, and says gosh what are they, 50?
She kept whining about her $130 dress.
I believe a person can speak well and have elocution to do this. Is there a difference between speaking well and being a plum in the mouth? Her content is definitely not classy like is is desperate to portray.
I can see so many red flags,and if I dont want to lose my beautiful son, I just have to sit and smile.
I know I am being judgemental right now, but I sense as a mother he is going to be either run off his feet or hurt badly.
Do I do anything to help him, he has not asked for it, I sense I need to stay out of it. I just hope he realises. She is so fixated on her hair, color of her lips, her clothes. i have never seen the natural color of her lips. Always 'fire engine red'
He is clearly head over heels, but I hope if there are any red flags he says them, and doesnt sell himself short.
He even held her head while she sprawled her self sideways (there were three of us in the back seat of the car on the ride home. His arms were not supported either and she was asleep.
Please dont tell me to get over it, as a mother. I am one of those people that is so sensitive, that sees things too quickly and can empathise on both sides.
If he is happy I will be happy for him, but I have already seen him, change what he loves for her.
No body really respects someone that gives up their own self for others.
When he comes home for a visit, he collapses on a bean bag and sleeps.
Please, I would dearly appreciate another perspective and or support, thankyou and God Bless.
I am seeing that my son is overselling his good quatlities and going so over the top, being the nice guy, getting all of us our drinks and snacks etc. I was in ear shot of his girlfriend complaining to her mum how my son is so stressful, being drama about getting drinks food etc, and blah blah blah, her words verbatim.
Later after the musical we went to mc donalds to get coffee on the outskirts of the city and again he is doing all the running around while they are sitting on their lazy behinds.
He finally sits down with all the coffee, girlfriend peels a 'play it to win' sticker from her coffee and gets a free bonus bag of apple and her mother says 'go get the free bag of apple' to my son.
I believe we show people how to treat us, and this is what is happening.
His girlfriend reeks of 'diva' attitude and i have to say I really dont like her at all, not after spending 6 or so hours in her company. She yelling, 'fat, cow' from the car to people, and ugly.
She said she wants one of my son's pay packets to go to an exclusive shopping precinct, 'Chadstone' She feels so deprived and jealous she has not been shopping in forever. She was openly laughing in front of two women who were taking their own photos with an iphone, and says gosh what are they, 50?
She kept whining about her $130 dress.
I believe a person can speak well and have elocution to do this. Is there a difference between speaking well and being a plum in the mouth? Her content is definitely not classy like is is desperate to portray.
I can see so many red flags,and if I dont want to lose my beautiful son, I just have to sit and smile.
I know I am being judgemental right now, but I sense as a mother he is going to be either run off his feet or hurt badly.
Do I do anything to help him, he has not asked for it, I sense I need to stay out of it. I just hope he realises. She is so fixated on her hair, color of her lips, her clothes. i have never seen the natural color of her lips. Always 'fire engine red'
He is clearly head over heels, but I hope if there are any red flags he says them, and doesnt sell himself short.
He even held her head while she sprawled her self sideways (there were three of us in the back seat of the car on the ride home. His arms were not supported either and she was asleep.
Please dont tell me to get over it, as a mother. I am one of those people that is so sensitive, that sees things too quickly and can empathise on both sides.
If he is happy I will be happy for him, but I have already seen him, change what he loves for her.
No body really respects someone that gives up their own self for others.
When he comes home for a visit, he collapses on a bean bag and sleeps.
Please, I would dearly appreciate another perspective and or support, thankyou and God Bless.