Let's take a close look at the "lake of fire".
First, being tormented "for ever and ever" is better translated "for ages and ages". The Greek term "aionios" means "age". It doesn't necessarily have the connotation of "forever" in the sense of "unending". Not to mention, we have to give room for hyperbole in Eastern writings such as the Bible. Hyperbole is often used by the prophets and Jesus. We use it today too. For example, one might say, "I stood in line for ever and ever at the grocery store." The meaning is that one stood in line for a long and undesirable period of time. The person didn't literally stand in line "forever".
Second, the "lake of fire" is actually called "the lake of fire and brimstone". That's important. Because "brimstone" is defined as being:
2303 // yeion // theion // thi'-on //
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2304 (in its original sense of flashing); TDNT - 3:122,*; n n
AV - brimstone 7; 7
1) brimstone
1a) divine incense, because burning brimstone was regarded as having
power to purify, and to ward off disease
Thus, we see that "brimstone" is a "divine incense" that "purifies". Thus when we read the phrase "lake of fire and brimstone" we should read "lake of judgment and purification".
The phrase "second death" is very important. Remember, believers die through faith... we are crucified with Christ. We are dead to sin and the world. We experienced a "death" the moment we repented. The term "second death" indicates a state wherein those who died without the Lord are brought to a second stage of death... a death to self... and absolute surrender to God. In the end the result will be...
Philippians 2:9-11
English Standard Version (ESV)
9 Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, 10 so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, 11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
Every means every. No exceptions. Every soul that has ever lived will one day bow in reverence and worship before Jesus... to the Father's glory.
God doesn't run an eternal Aushwitz wherein the wicked are tortured forever or vaporized. God's fire is a purifying, refining fire. The wicked are brought to absolute surrender in it's flames. The end result being their correction, surrender, and worship. And all of this is made possible through the cross.
1 John 2:2
He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world. (ESV)
Jesus gives us an example of this corrective judgment:
Luke 12:46-48
King James Version (KJV)
46 The lord of that servant will come in a day when he looketh not for him, and at an hour when he is not aware, and will cut him in sunder, and will appoint him his portion with the unbelievers.
47 And that servant, which knew his lord's will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes.
48 But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.
Punishment is just, fearsome, and corrective in nature. Notice, if all were vaporized, or if all burned forever, all would suffer the same fate equally. However, there is greater and lesser punishment in eternity. This DEMANDS that punishment must cease at some point else the entire point Jesus makes is null and void. No one can receive greater or lesser punishment unless punishment comes to an end, correction being the end result.
The cross was the Father's grand design to save ALL of mankind. Now... that's "good news". Tradition wants to tell us that only a select few will be saved... the vast majority of mankind cast into Hell to burn forever or be vaporized. How is that "good news"??? And interestingly enough... EVERYONE who believes this tradition assumes that they are a part of that select few. How convenient! LOL