Brother, I don't have time to answer all of your questions right now, but hopefully I can answer some of the important ones!
Oh, thank you! When asking from others, I try to be content with anything I get, and you, here, have given quite a bit.
If I may, I wish to continue to ask questions; to prod around this doctrine, to better understand it.
It seems you think that sinners are saved irregardless of their choices. That is not true. God uses means to accomplish his ends. Sinners are saved by choosing to trust in Jesus Christ, or not. The question is, who will do this? I think the Biblical answer is: The elect will.
"My sheep hear my voice, and follow me". Notice, they are sheep already, that's why they follow Jesus. You don't become a sheep by believing, but rather, you believe if you are a sheep. The proof of this is in John 10 where Christ says "But you do not believe because you are not my sheep"
Consider Christ's real life example that he is drawing on. If a Shepard calls for his sheep, his sheep will respond. Other people's sheep will not respond. Hence Jesus is saying "You are not my part of my flock, that's why you don't believe in me (follow me)".
The sheep example is certainty something Jesus used often!
Above, you state that "Sinners are saved by choosing to trust in Jesus Christ, or not."
That line raises some questions for me, since we are talking about predestination, which is almost consistently contrasted against free will.
My overarching question on this matter is: Do we, as sinners, really have a choice?
In other words, can a non-elect choose to join Jesus' sheep, and in doing so gain the benefit of being one of Jesus' sheep?
On the other hand, can an elect choose to leave Jesus' sheep, and in doing so suffer the eternal torment reserved for the non-sheep?
The thing is, only God knows who the elect are. There is nothing in the Bible that tells us to try to "guess" what we are and then act on that basis. God commands us to repent and believe. That goes for elect and non elect. The divine imperative is not to sit around wondering, but to obey.
The elect will obey, why? Because they want to obey. Because they are born again.
Along the same lines as the questions above:
Do the elect always obey, without fail?
Do the non-elect never obey, without fail?
As I think about these comments, I am taken back to the sermon on the mount, when Jesus said:
Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheeps clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they? So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. So then, you will [m]know them by their fruits.
Not everyone who says to Me, Lord, Lord, will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. Many will say to Me on that day, Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many [n]miracles? And then I will declare to them, I never knew you; DEPART FROM ME, YOU WHO PRACTICE LAWLESSNESS.
Wow. That certainly is a heavy teaching. I guess where one stands on predestination must really shape what this teaching really means.
From my perspective right now, I would guess that a predestinationer reads this passage and says, "There is no decision being made by the elect in this passage. It is simply a statement by Jesus on the reality of what an elect person would do vs. a non-elect person. The elect will do the will of His Father who is in heaven, and will enter. The non-elect will not."
However, when I take in the entire context of the Sermon, it strikes me as a guy instructing people on what to do, and inviting Him to follow that instruction. Perhaps it is me reading my preconceived notions into it, but doing so, especially after God has already instructed His elect on how they ought to behave through Moses, indicates to me that the speaker believes His hearers have a choice to follow or not, and that the choice they make will actually effect their future results.
There isn't really a need for the "or". It's all the same thing. Consider these verses:
Mat 1:21 His name is Jesus because he will save his people from their sins.
John 11:51-52: His death will gather into one all the children of God who are scattered abroad.
John 17:2 since you have given him authority over all flesh, to give eternal life to all whom you have given him.
Joh 17:9 I am praying for them. I am not praying for the world but for those whom you have given me, for they are yours
These verses are clear to me that there already existed a "People" that God had in mind that He intended to save through Christ's death. His death will "gather the children of God" and Christ came to save "his people" and Christ says "I don't pray for the world, but for the ones you have given me. They are yours (The Fathers).
So the answer is: Both. You are saved because God chose you to have grace on you, and he saved you through the finished work of Jesus Christ. In time, during your life, God orchestrated things so that in your life, you would be exposed to the gospel message, and God worked through that to change your heart and take off the blindfold and bring you to the knowledge of the truth.
Salvation is all of God and all of grace!
Hmm. Interesting.
It occurs to me that I have always believed, based on the overall context of the Bible and its message up until this point, that the "people" were the Jews/Israelites.
I know it sounds, I don't know, racist, to say things like that. But until Paul's push to incorporate the Gentiles, the Bible is centered around the Jews as God's chosen people.
Is there no chance those are the people Jesus is referring to here?
No, because God cannot have planned wrongly. Thus God could not change his mind. He has no shadow of turning in him. What he decrees is a perfect plan. And it will be brought to pass. He is infinitely wise and does not fail.
So, while I totally agree with you that God couldn't have planned wrongly nor failed, I think I'm asking a different question than that.
The Gospel is that I have been saved? Yes?
Well, if I was never in any danger, then from what have I been saved?
That's the tricky part for me. Because, in my understanding, I couldn't have been saved from something that was never a possibility.
Furthermore, if all the people for whom Jesus died were never in any danger to begin with, then that, at least to me at this time, would render Jesus' death as vain.
I know that can't be right that Jesus died in vain, which is exactly why I want to know the true way to approach this. If predestination is the true way, I don't want to just reject it because I don't understand it. You know?
The Bible never says that it was due to what you did, but rather, it is based on and predicted on the good pleasure of God's will, and it is his own purpose and plan.
Eph 1:4 even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love
Eph 1:5 he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will,
Etc
When you say that God saved me (from what, I'm still not clear) just because He wanted to (according to His pleasure), that sounds really great.
However, to say the other: God condemned me to eternal damnation just because He wanted to (according to His pleasure), that sounds really awful.
Maybe this is where theology, particularly this doctrine, really misses the mark for me. Please, let me explain why, knowing that I mean not disrespect in saying so:
Evil exists. There is no denying that. God is good. The Bible says that explicitly. God is able to control every detail. There is no denying that, either.
So, to explain the existence of evil, in light of a good God, I have often heard it said that while He is able to control every detail, He has allowed things to happen, and He allowed their consequences, regardless of what He may have ideally wanted.
This explanation works well with the explanation for why we creative and decisive humans exist in the first place. I have heard it said that we were given the freedom to sin so that when we chose not to--when we chose instead to glorify God through praise--our praise would be genuine and not forced.
To achieve this goal--genuine praise--He had to make a creation that was not micro-managed by His own will, but had the faculty of its own will. By using that will to choose God, God gets precisely what He always wanted: genuine praise.
Granted, the Bible teaches us that no one chooses God. We all choose sin.
That's where Jesus' role comes in. As Savior, He delivers us from the sin we chose, cleanses us, and restores our relationship with God, as we now choose Him.
Therefore, when God saves according to His good pleasure, He is saving according to His desire for genuine praise. When He is condemning for His good pleasure, it is also because He was looking for genuine praise.
Anyway, that's been the story I've known all my life. I'm open to have any of those notions challenged with respectful questions, just as I'm actively questioning a new way to look at these things.
I hope these short answers go a little ways in helping you my friend

Let me know if I can do anything else for ya.
Yes, they definitely helped a lot. Thank you!