I just had some questions come up and I thought it would make sense to make another poll with different answers.
Basically there is the argument which goes like God made sex for marriage and this means that any sexual activities outside of marriage, including masturbation, which do not "please" another person (the wife or husband) are an abuse of sexuality and also a sin.
What do you think about this argument?
The problem I have with this is that it would be a totally different scenario if those who did not get married also weren't sexual beings. For example if the sexuality of every human was only activated after marriage then it wouldn't be a burden. But if you can't get married then it's nothing but a burden isn't it? Then it would be better to be asexual wouldn't it?
And simply marrying in order to finally be allowed to have sex and to not run around horny anymore and thinking about sex all day is also silly. A marriage based only upon finally being able to have sex cannot last and I think that it's not a coincidence that many christians marry very young already at 20. They're most likely simply totally horny and they know that they can't last much longer without getting into sin. Then wouldn't it be better to simply touch and not marry in a hurry?
But again the question to which it all boils down to is wether sexuality must only be "enjoyed" in marriage and a lot of christians would say this.
ps: Am I the only one who find the argument that sex is all about pleasing the spouse a bit ridiculous? Or am I simply too selfish? I have a hard time believing that married people are totally selfless and that they only have sex to make the other person happy. I mean come on... if for 1 of the persons sex was as much fun as digging up the garden or as washing dishes then I bet they wouldn't be very interested it in. I think this argument that it's all about making the other person happy is hypocritical.
Basically there is the argument which goes like God made sex for marriage and this means that any sexual activities outside of marriage, including masturbation, which do not "please" another person (the wife or husband) are an abuse of sexuality and also a sin.
What do you think about this argument?
The problem I have with this is that it would be a totally different scenario if those who did not get married also weren't sexual beings. For example if the sexuality of every human was only activated after marriage then it wouldn't be a burden. But if you can't get married then it's nothing but a burden isn't it? Then it would be better to be asexual wouldn't it?
And simply marrying in order to finally be allowed to have sex and to not run around horny anymore and thinking about sex all day is also silly. A marriage based only upon finally being able to have sex cannot last and I think that it's not a coincidence that many christians marry very young already at 20. They're most likely simply totally horny and they know that they can't last much longer without getting into sin. Then wouldn't it be better to simply touch and not marry in a hurry?
But again the question to which it all boils down to is wether sexuality must only be "enjoyed" in marriage and a lot of christians would say this.
ps: Am I the only one who find the argument that sex is all about pleasing the spouse a bit ridiculous? Or am I simply too selfish? I have a hard time believing that married people are totally selfless and that they only have sex to make the other person happy. I mean come on... if for 1 of the persons sex was as much fun as digging up the garden or as washing dishes then I bet they wouldn't be very interested it in. I think this argument that it's all about making the other person happy is hypocritical.
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