Don't Want Kids

[invisiblebabe]

Just as some people don't know how they could live with kids, I don't know how I can live without them.

Same here Maybe it's an INFJ thing? hehe

Not sure if my body would be able to handle having kids (of course, does anyone really know if they'd be able to, before they actually try?), but I'd absolutely love to adopt, regardless.

 

[jugglindrummer]

i've always said that I'll be a virgin forever 'cause I'm never getting married

 

[Hound]

Personally I have my hands full with everybody else's kids. I don't think I would be able to handle my own. Of course, the transient nature of my life prevents me from even having a steady girlfriend much less a wife.

 

[volite27]

jugglin, what makes you think you'll never get married? Or rather, why are you so averse to it?

I go back and forth on whether or not I want kids. I grew up in a decent sized family and at one time I couldn't fathom not having that kind of family around me, but then I got to live on my own and now I don't even know.

 

[HeavyMetalDude]

Some people are just not destined to have children. Nothing wrong with that. If you had kids on purpose because you think you should and you don't want them that would be really wrong.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

I don't think it's wrong at all. If someone doesn't want/like kids, then I don't want them to have any.

 

[MyEverything]

Like everyone else has said, I don't think it's wrong. I really don't want kids either. I don't think I'm "mother material". To have kids when you don't want them is so unfair to the children.

 

[Trashionista]

I have no qualm about saying I hate kids ATM. It's Summer, and they're invading all the haunts and parents think it's cute to bring them into coffee shops and tea houses, and order them like, hot chocolate. Sometimes a place is just for double cappucinos and not double strollers (thank you, Samantha Jones.)

I'm sure by the time Fall rolls around I'll go from general despise to casual annoyance and avoidance. When they're not again, invading every place that isn't carded for under 21s.

Anywho, I'm about 90% sure I don't want kids. Then again, maybe I am just one of those people who doesn't like kids and only loves their own. Who knows. Though the way JBNY and NARS Holiday is shaping up, the likelihood I'll want to share my disposable income with annoying ankle-biters in the next decade (forseeably) I'll probably be uninterested in becoming a mother until at least my mid-thirties.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

Then again, maybe I am just one of those people who doesn't like kids and only loves their own.

I'm kind of like this. I adore my daughter and love her with everything in me..but other kids..meh, not so much. It's not that I don't love them, in general I love all children, but I really don't want anything to do with most of them. And I'll be honest, it's because most of the time they don't behave the way I expect children to behave, I know that's a reflection of parenting, or lack thereof, but if kids aren't behaving the way I think they should they get on my nerves and test my patience really quickly.

 

[SwissMiss]

Personally I have my hands full with everybody else's kids. I don't think I would be able to handle my own. Of course, the transient nature of my life prevents me from even having a steady girlfriend much less a wife.

LOL! OMGosh that's almost my very thoughts on the whole thing....personally, I don't plan on having kids, because I work with kids in my job. As far as for getting married, it's not something I'm planning on, but if something works out, that's OK with me I don't think there's ANYTHING wrong with NOT having kids. Not everyone should. And, if someone feels called to raise a 'herd' of kids, I would HIGHLY recommend adopting! There's too many kids in the world who don't have homes and have never been loved. If someone feels that they're a 'have lots of kids' person, they are SORELY needed to adopt a 'herd' of their own, and get busy loving them! I know that would please God very much, sharing His love with those who need it most but there's nothing wrong with not having kids, or even NOT getting married. The apostle Paul talks about that in the Bible. It's not wrong to be married, but it's not wrong to stay single. It's sad how in so many churches 'push' everyone into thinking there's something wrong with them if they stay single, or don't have kids. They make the single people and the childless couples feel like freaks! In truth, there's nothing wrong with being an individual and choosing not to marry or have kids.

 

[RobertMerton]

didnt anyone else notice the 7 year thread bump?

 

[seavessel44]

I have always been unsure if I want kids..but if I ever want kids, I want to wait until I am in my 30s..20s are for fun and enjoying life..30s are more for settling down and starting a family.

 

[Umaro]

Here's a question for you all. When researching getting snipped, one of the most common things I heard was "shouldn't your future spouse get a say in the matter?" My inclination is "of course not," but what do you all think?

 

[liesje]

Here's a question for you all. When researching getting snipped, one of the most common things I heard was "shouldn't your future spouse get a say in the matter?" My inclination is "of course not," but what do you all think?

Of course they should get a say. Or if you don't give them a say you at least need to tell them BEFORE you get married, so they can decide whether it's a deal-breaker or not.

 

[SwissMiss]

Of course they should get a say. Or if you don't give them a say you at least need to tell them BEFORE you get married, so they can decide whether it's a deal-breaker or not.

I agree. Both parties should talk about children BEFORE they get married, and make themselves very clear what they do and don't want. That way, after they're married, there's no problems between them. Sometimes fights over having a family can really ruin people's lives.

 

[TanteBelle]

Is there anyone else that doesn't want children..ever? Is that wrong? I don't think it is, but I would love to hear other opinions.

Personally, yes, I do that it is not what God had in mind with marriage. I can't think of one God-fearing woman in the Bible who never ever had kids when she was married. I believe that is because they understood God's plan when it comes to marrying. If it is God's will for me to marry, crikey, as many as I can have heathfully would be just a bash!!!! I loooooove kiddos!!!

 

[Umaro]

Of course they should get a say. Or if you don't give them a say you at least need to tell them BEFORE you get married, so they can decide whether it's a deal-breaker or not.

When the people who tell me this say "future spouse," they're referring to someone I haven't even met yet. I would agree with you if they were already in the picture or whatnot, but telling a single person that someone who comes along later should have a say in my vasectomy choice seems strange to me.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

I would never marry anyone who's been "fixed" and if my husband got "fixed" without asking me or telling me, I'd probably leave him.

 

[pressingon17]

I want kids,my fiancee wants them as soon as we get married. :O Looks like I'm going to be a dad in only a couple of years.

She wants 7 kids too,and wants to adopt at least 2. :O

 

[SwissMiss]

I want kids,my fiancee wants them as soon as we get married. :O Looks like I'm going to be a dad in only a couple of years.

She wants 7 kids too,and wants to adopt at least 2. :O

YAY for adoption! My sister wants 10 kids, all adopted. I told her "go for it babe! I support you all the way!"