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This is my first post, but I'm wondering if anyone else has encountered what I have. I currently go to a church where I've occasionally noticed that their way of praying for non-Christians and also anyone who is not "where they should be" with God is to pray that bad things would happen to them so that they would turn to God. I even mentioned to one of the ladies in the church that I wasn't sure I could stay at a church with people that had a tendency to pray this way. She said she never noticed that that was the case. But a few weeks later during prayer meeting she was praying for a relative of hers and praying that they would be miserable until they accepted the Lord. I know that no matter what church I go to I would find probably find something going on that I disagreed with. But I'm wondering if this is a bad situation, or if I'm making a big deal out of nothing.
In reply to Michael Collum, no I don't think this is God's way of doing things. I'm a Word person at heart, and I believe words are important. As a former completely sold out but now slightly disallusioned Charismatic I realize that no one (at least nobody I know) has really arrived at the fulness and stature of Christ yet. (Eph 4:13 "Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ") So sometimes it's just frustrating to put up with all the imperfection until that time comes. But that's why I like CF, because it is a place to work out our own salvation alongside others who are trying to do the same.
This is my first post, but I'm wondering if anyone else has encountered what I have. I currently go to a church where I've occasionally noticed that their way of praying for non-Christians and also anyone who is not "where they should be" with God is to pray that bad things would happen to them so that they would turn to God. I even mentioned to one of the ladies in the church that I wasn't sure I could stay at a church with people that had a tendency to pray this way. She said she never noticed that that was the case. But a few weeks later during prayer meeting she was praying for a relative of hers and praying that they would be miserable until they accepted the Lord. I know that no matter what church I go to I would probably find something going on that I disagreed with. But I'm wondering if this is a bad situation, or if I'm making a big deal out of nothing.
I pray exactly like Kingzzub mentioned, but I can't say that I've had very satisfying results (compared to the woman above and Jessee Duplantis's mom).
Do you ever feel like people try to control you to get you to believe what they want you to believe? Whether they be pastors, fellow believers, associates, friends, etc...
Do you ever feel others try to manipulate you either by critisizing or marginalizing your viewpoint, or by trying to hold some perceived intellectual insight over your head?
Have you ever shared something intimate and personal with someone only for them to turn around and use it to try and manipulate you into their cause?
Do you ever feel forced, cohearsed or manipulated to do something that you are not personally inclined or have decided to do on your own?
Have you ever been guilty of manipulating or trying to control others?
I know I have and I truly regret it.
The big question here is what role does control have in Christianity?
Is it ever permissible to try and control or manipulate others into our way of thinking?
My answer is absolutely not!
Christianity is an invitation into relationship with God. Our job is to present the invitation, not be like Hagar and try to do God's work for Him by getting people to believe or follow.
It robs and devalues people on a very fundamental level and it destroys trust and meaningful, intimate relationships.
One of the major reasons I believe there is a huge backlash against Evangelical Christianity is because so many ministers have used witchcraft (AKA: control and manipulation) in the name of winning people to the Christian faith. I think society is catching on to this and I think the falling away from these systems of control and manipulation that run under the banner of the Christian faith are spots on our love feasts and I am exceedingly pleased to see them go (they can't get out of the door quick enough). I also deeply regret the times I have taken part in such practices.
What are your thoughts on this?
(Personal prayer: God help me to live and share your message of love that you died to give to each one of us so we could all freely choose to accept it.)
When I first posted on this thread, I only brought up something that was vaguely disturbing me, but now I think I've opened up a can of worms, at least for myself.
Last night at church, our pastor told of a story of sometime earlier in the 20th century, about a wife who would go to church and her husband would beat her when she got home. One night after being beaten she went to her bedroom to kneel and pray. The husband came to the door and angrily threatened her again. Her response to him was that she wasn't worried, because she was praying that he would either become a christian or die. That night in bed he started sobbing as conviction took over, and the next Sunday he was in church and became a radically changed christian. Also, it seems to me that I've heard stories of Jessee Duplantis's mother radically praying for him that God would get a hold of him and not let him go, which made him miserable until he surrendered to God.
This morning when I woke up, I was thinking about the 2 witnesses in Revelation. They call down fire from heaven and cause all kinds of trouble on the earth.
I guess what I'm wondering is where does Christianity end and what some people would perceive as witchcraft begin. True Christians have been considered witches in times past, and also Jesus was accused of being of the devil.
I doubt if anyone can answer this question at this point except God. My thinking is that currently the body of Christ is not at a place where we have full understanding of this subject. (At least I don't)
I pray exactly like Kingzzub mentioned, but I can't say that I've had very satisfying results (compared to the woman above and Jessee Duplantis's mom).
Do you ever feel like people try to control you to get you to believe what they want you to believe? Whether they be pastors, fellow believers, associates, friends, etc...
Do you ever feel others try to manipulate you either by critisizing or marginalizing your viewpoint, or by trying to hold some perceived intellectual insight over your head?
Have you ever shared something intimate and personal with someone only for them to turn around and use it to try and manipulate you into their cause?
Do you ever feel forced, cohearsed or manipulated to do something that you are not personally inclined or have decided to do on your own?
Have you ever been guilty of manipulating or trying to control others?
I know I have and I truly regret it.
The big question here is what role does control have in Christianity?
Is it ever permissible to try and control or manipulate others into our way of thinking?
My answer is absolutely not!
Christianity is an invitation into relationship with God. Our job is to present the invitation, not be like Hagar and try to do God's work for Him by getting people to believe or follow.
It robs and devalues people on a very fundamental level and it destroys trust and meaningful, intimate relationships.
One of the major reasons I believe there is a huge backlash against Evangelical Christianity is because so many ministers have used witchcraft (AKA: control and manipulation) in the name of winning people to the Christian faith. I think society is catching on to this and I think the falling away from these systems of control and manipulation that run under the banner of the Christian faith are spots on our love feasts and I am exceedingly pleased to see them go (they can't get out of the door quick enough). I also deeply regret the times I have taken part in such practices.
What are your thoughts on this?
(Personal prayer: God help me to live and share your message of love that you died to give to each one of us so we could all freely choose to accept it.)
One of the major reasons I believe there is a huge backlash against Evangelical Christianity is because so many ministers have used witchcraft (AKA: control and manipulation) in the name of winning people to the Christian faith.
I think society is catching on to this and I think the falling away from these systems of control and manipulation that run under the banner of the Christian faith are spots on our love feasts and I am exceedingly pleased to see them go (they can't get out of the door quick enough).
Cherie-amour has described something very close to witchcraft in the church, in people praying destruction upon unbelievers.
What about believers who pray destruction upon believers?
I was in an AOG church from 1999 to Christmas 2007. 2001 new pastor came.....
My final meeting there I went in late, maybe 5 minutes into the service. There was no worship time that day. The pastor was up front praying, something like this:
'Thankyou Lord that when those sanballats in South Africa opposed me you struck them and they burned to death in a car crash the very next day. Thankyou Lord that you will also smite those who oppose me here'.
After the service I spoke to another member, a lady who used to babysit me years ago. She was very sad and said she would never attend another pentecostal church again. Neither of us were involved in the disagreements in the church, but were broken hearted by what we heard.
The strange thing was that those who opposed the pastor were at the meeting, they had to sit and listen to that prayer and the following ranting sermon, apart from one or two who got up and left, slamming the door.
That was my last meeting there! I now use extreme care when visiting a p/c meeting.
God Bless You![]()
Lis,
I was talking to a great friend and someone I consider a spiritual father and a genuine prophet. We both agreed that Dundee ia probably the worst place to be a charismatic Christian in the UK.