You see that is the difference, separatoin from God does not have to mean torture but that is what God has made it, how is that loving. Unsaved/unrepentant people could be separated from God without being tortured but God chose to involve torture and that does not sound loving to me. I sometimes feel like I believe and work on doing the right thing because of lack of better options not because I want to. When the consequences of 2 different actions are so radically extreme how can we call that free will, sure there is a choise but not much of one. Free choise is picking a play station instead of an Xbox not picking eternal torture vs not torture.
What about a drug addict who is working to get off the drugs and dies in a car accident. He is a believer but is not off the drugs yet, is he considered unrepentant and subject to hell
What about a male and female that are having sexual relations and are planning to get married but in the mean time cant keep there hands off each other. but they are both believers is it unrepentant sin
What about people who divorce and remarry for something other than cheating.

Well, what about it? How about what God says. If God says something is
sin and they neglect the Saviour who paid the way for them, then
all sins will be counted against them at the time of their judgment.
What this amounts to looks like apathy towards different sins that,
to you, don't seem as bad as others.
We can't create our own scale for which sins are ok and which aren't.
I'm not sure when God handed human beings a throne to judge which sins
are acceptable? :o
ALL sin is from the same source - Evil itself. Satan. Without
the blood of Christ to atone and cover for just ONE SIN, you
cannot enter heaven.
That's why everyone who refuses to recieve their forgiveness
thru Christ can't enter eternal life with Him and has to pay their
own sin debt.
It isn't about which sins, it's about refusal to recieve forgiveness.
If you have a free ticket and don't take the ticket, who's fault
is it? God's? He did all the work for us.
It's not like people are clueless & unable to accept Jesus,
they don't WANT Jesus.
People don't just commit one sin in their entire life either.
The adultery gets added to thousands & thousands of curse words,
words that harmed other people thru malicious lies & gossip.
Pride, coveting, hating. . . treating people poorly, etc.
people are full of sins that add up year after year.
I guess it does not really matter, God is going to do what God is going to do, do I call torturing people for eternity love, no but what are you going to do about it ... nothing.
How about LOVE OF GOD first?
The 2 greatest commands Jesus kept us under are Love of God first,
love of man 2nd. What of man's love towards God in this?
Do you care if people don't love God? Don't honor Him? glorify Him?
worship Him? Return gifts of offerings to Him? Give Him their lives?
You're basically advocating that God be benevolent towards us
no matter what we do and how much we reject Him.
Right?
Plus, you're putting God on a human level as if He
has to love us our way (which means: no pain, no punishments, no trials,
no harm, supporting our sin and justifying it away, etc.)
You're demanding or wanting God to be a person who isn't holy
or pure or loving essentially.
Have you stopped to think any of your reasoning through?
You see that is the difference, separatoin from God does not have to mean torture but that is what God has made it, how is that loving.
How is what THEY did loving towards God? And how is what they did
to other people loving towards others?
Each sin we commit violates God's love laws - either love of others
as self or love of God above all else.
But God's supposed to ignore all that? And the rejection of Him -
His sacrifice of life ?
And when one is separated from God, aren't all God's attributes
taken away from them that they benefit from today?
What is God? Light, truth, goodness, love, justice, peace...
how would life be without light, love, goodness or peace?
Take those away and I'd say that's torment.
I know it's become a cliche' line in Christianity, but it's true -
God doesn't people there, they send themselves by refusing
God's grace to save them from that fate.