I do pray one day most of the same sex community will find somone they love of the opposite sex and grow to have they're own children and familys. The same way a mother or father wants they're children one day to get married and have they're own children.
And to me, this sounds a lot like someone saying they hope one day we will have world peace. While a nice dream, it isn't likely to happen -- at least not anytime in the near future.
Currently, we know of no way for the vast majority of homosexuals to change their sexual orientation. It may, if you believe some of the statistics from ex-gay groups, be possible to change the orientation of a small minority of homosexuals. The evidence, however, would indicate that at best maybe 10% of all homosexuals might be able to change and, realistically (based on the comments of those that have researched ex-gay groups), that number is probably closer to about 2%.
Now maybe, someday, we will "fix" whatever causes people to be "born" (or whatever is the cause) homosexual -- I personally think it might happen about the same time we completely wipe out birth defects. In other words, sometime between not likely and never.
So it comes down to this, at least for me. Christians give lip service to the idea that fornication is a sin. Most of what I see, they do little to actually discourage or prevent it. As wrong as they may think it is, the fact is that most Christian youth end up fornicating at some point. Instead, Christians seems to dislike that it happens, preach against it, but are resigned to the fact it will happen and take comfort in knowing that almost all these fornicators will get married and 'repent' of their fornicating (though there is some question of how true the repentance is, if the majority ever really regret their fornication).
By contrast, these same Christians know that most homosexuals won't get married (to a woman), and even if they do, past results show they will have difficulty remaining married. So, they tell homosexuals they should be abstinent their entire lives.
And this is the point of this thread. Christians basically know that most of their own kids, prior to marriage, won't be able to refrain from sex for even a few years prior to getting married -- yet they somehow expect gays to remain celibate for decades? Evidence shows even priests -- who are allegedly the best of Christians and have sworn an oath to celibacy -- have problems remaining chaste and many break their oath at some point. So it seems a double standard for Christians to demand from homosexuals what they, themselves, seem unable to do.
And then there was Paul. Paul basically was the author of the idea that marriage is to prevent people from being separated from God because of sexual immorality. And, to prevent that, God gave marriage so that man "might not be alone". Better to marry than "to burn", as Paul stated it.
Now I understand that most Christians don't believe Paul meant this to extend to homosexuals -- nor am I trying to claim that is what Paul is saying. It does seem odd to me that Christians seem to prefer, knowing that homosexuals will have sex, that gays have sex with random strangers rather than wanting them, since they will sin anyway, to form a relationship with a single partner and forge a life together. Especially with the way relationships tend to improve individuals, not to mention the health problems that are caused by promiscuous lifestyles.
