Hell is a real place no matter what you say. Just hope you realise the truth before you die.
You may be right, but claims in and of themselves are not tantamount to evidence. I might reply:
Hell is not a real place no matter what you say. Just hope you realise the truth before you die.
...But that won't have gotten us anywhere, will it?
Not really, no. It wouldn't. Besides if they do get upset, it would be your own fault for rejecting Jesus.
What an incredibly callous thing to say. Even if you think that this is the case, one might think that you'd at least demonstrate a heart sympathetic enough to find difficulty with this.
Words like yours contribute to my partial shame in calling myself 'Christian.' Many people are looking for answers, and even among those who aren't, many more still are willing to accept what others have to say provided they like where it's coming from. I'm not calling for the Make Everybody Happy doctrine, but really, who reaches for the burnt cookie?
One problem I've always had with hell is, if I'm going to hell because I don't believe in God.. doesn't that turn Heaven into Hell for my Mom/Dad?
Yes, I think it would. Some Augustinian (with respect to hell) philosophers--William Lane Craig comes to mind--try to circumvent this issue by claiming that God will partially "erase" the memories of those who have loved ones in hell. I don't find this an acceptable answer if we include the prerequisite characteristic of unbounding love in our conception of God (and when we're dealing with the Christian God, this love has, or at least is supposed to have, an inextricable relation with him). I would not want my own memory of my children erased, be they in hell or not, and I would claim that this desire of mine is based on my (hypothetical--I have no children) love for them.
Is infinite torture acceptable punishment for finite sin?
Some opponents of the doctrine of hell claim that the punishment is disproportionate to any crimes that could be committed, an overkill Humans apparently can commit only a finite amount of sin, yet hell is an infinite punishment. In this vein, Jorge Luis Borges suggests in his essay La duración del Infierno that no transgression can warrant an infinite punishment on the grounds that there is no such thing as an "infinite transgression".
Acceptable? Acceptable to whom, and in reference to which of his or her ideals? These are pertinent questions. =)
Personally, I do not find it acceptable. In fact, it was because it seemed so antithetical to the idea of a loving God that I began to search for alternative--more internally consistent!--perspectives. I happened upon a lot of the writings of Thomas Talbott, who is professor emeritus of philosophy at Willamette University in Oregon, and it is in large part through the penetrating analysis of his writings that I no longer feel convinced that an eternity in hell awaits anyone. Hell, yes, to be sure--but only for the purpose of reforming the individual before they are welcomed into heaven. Some call this heresy, but some also claim that the blind spots built into
homo sapiens eyes is evidence of "intelligent design," and that Noah really did get a kaleidoscopic number of animals on a leaky boat in the middle of nowhere. I digress. Suffice it to say that there is always a deeper layer to unearth, and this theological position has a very credible, centuries-old tradition of thought.
I should mention that Talbott
does not make these claims solely on philosophical conjecture. He doesn't try to fit any square pegs ('eternal punishment!') into round holes ('everyone gets in!'). You'll be interested, though, in his discussion of the original Greek words
aionios and
kolasis, translated into "eternal" and "punishment," respectively (this is from the oft-quoted Matthew 25:46). His exegesis of other related verses, too, are enlightening. You can find a brief overview in PDF form here (17 pages minus the endnotes):
http://www.willamette.edu/~ttalbott/PICTURES.pdf
As a worldview, Christianity has its share of questions and concerns like any other. But I don't think this should be one of them.
[Also, if the esoterics of other worldviews
really interest you, you can knock yourself out on this topic here:
http://www.tentmaker.org/books/Aion_lim.html ]