Turn On's and Turn Off's..

[onlinecheerio]

well it wasn't a guy. but yes i know what you mean. some people are just rude

 

[KristyAnne]

Kristy Anne, I'd agree on a lot of these. Some pretty good ones. I definitely like guys who have a willingness to consider other viewpoints, in CHristian circles this can be hard to find. I don't mean open to anything though, that's maybe universalist or one with God type thought, that's too out there for me, not attractive at all.

I agree with the last part you said, too, I didn't mean open to anything either, not like an anything goes attitude, but realising that everyone is different, and just because someone does something differently to you, it doesn't make it wrong.

For example, my ex (the guy I have pretty much based my turn offs on), our daughter, and I were eating porridge. He likes his really runny, with brown sugar. I like mine moderately runny with raw sugar. I made our daughter's porridge the same way, simply because I was making mine at the same time, it was easier. He completely went off at me, something like "I've lived all around Australia, and never seen anyone else eat porridge the same way you do, you're the only one who eats it like that, this is the proper way to eat it, now our daughter will grow up being a raw-sugared porridge eating freak!" and on and on (can you see why I don't like drama queens? ). Seriously, it's porridge, I could care less how she eats it, people can eat however they darn well please, and it doesn't bother me, get over it already! He was like that with everything, his way was the only way.

I'm so glad I'm out of that situation now.

 

[sampa]

I agree with the last part you said, too, I didn't mean open to anything either, not like an anything goes attitude, but realising that everyone is different, and just because someone does something differently to you, it doesn't make it wrong.

For example, my ex (the guy I have pretty much based my turn offs on), our daughter, and I were eating porridge. He likes his really runny, with brown sugar. I like mine moderately runny with raw sugar. I made our daughter's porridge the same way, simply because I was making mine at the same time, it was easier. He completely went off at me, something like "I've lived all around Australia, and never seen anyone else eat porridge the same way you do, you're the only one who eats it like that, this is the proper way to eat it, now our daughter will grow up being a raw-sugared porridge eating freak!" and on and on (can you see why I don't like drama queens? ). Seriously, it's porridge, I could care less how she eats it, people can eat however they darn well please, and it doesn't bother me, get over it already! He was like that with everything, his way was the only way.

I'm so glad I'm out of that situation now.

Kristy,I'm so glad your out of that situation also. I call these people "boxers". Everyone fits into a neat little box.

Definite thumbs up again for independent thinkers. The guy I'm interested in right now has his own set of convictions and I have mine. He said its the thing we probably both like about each other, but it could also be what tears us apart. But we both have the basis of respect for wanting to get to know one another and not impress or force our ideas on one another, if that makes any sense?

 

[HisW0rd]

And I do not mean the physical, but the inner self.

What turns you on and off about someone, based on their inner selves and personality?

ex) Love For God(Turn On)
a complete liar (Turn Off)

What are your Turn On's and turn Off's?

Turn On: A person who has a strong relationship with our Lord
Turn Off: A person who tries to be something he/she is not

 

[Im_A]

turn on-sarcastic and cynical.

turn off-overly pritzy/giddy

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

turn on: sense of humour. I know everybody says this but for me, I' REALLY mean it. I'm one of the funniest people I know (hard to say that without sounding conceited ) If a guy cant joke around, understand sarcasm and laugh, i'm not going to be able to have much fun with him.

Confidence- without being conceited/arrogant as arrogance is a big turn off for me. However confidence in ones self and abilities says a LOT about a person.

patience - To me, this goes side by side with being a good listener. I think it can take patience to be a good listener with me sometimes because I am very detail oriented and can go on and on about stuff. I also feel like if a guy can be patient and quick to forgive with me about little things, then he would probably be able to handle the bigger things also.

Genuinely cares about my life, past and experiences-speaks for itself.

Desire to change, grow, improve Thi pretty much speaks for itself. If they are to stubborn to recognize what an amazing thing growth can be and if they dont have the innate desire to grow and improve themself then I will feel very little in common with them and we will likely get stuck in a rut. I think we are made for change as humans and should constantly be being conformed into God's image. (I would also add that guys who are too proud/arrogant against the idea of getting counselling, this would be a major turn off!

Turn offs:

overly serious, arrogant, rude, impatient, unwilling to grow as a person, insecure, unwilling to put time and effort into communication, prone to anger or conflict

 

[GQ Chris]

Turnons:athletic brunettes who love God

Turnoffs:sedentary females with mullets

 

[GRC18]

Turn Ons: A sense of humor (or the ability to grasp one at least), open minded, truthful, tough and loving at the same time, and realistic in her ways of life

Turn Offs: The constant obsession with sex, dressing like someone off of Girls Gone Wild, completely void of any humor what-so-ever, doesn't know how to tow a line between taking things serious and taking things lightly, controlling, and expecting something for nothing

 

[skysthelimit]

Turn Ons: Intelligence, sense of humor, friendliness, wide range of interests

Turn Offs: Super serious personalities, anger, constant depression.

 

[srobinson]

Turn on: sweet, has a career or in college, can be cynical and sarcastic, radomness.
Turn offs: Ladies that have ex husbands or kids, dominating women( I dont mean like has a strong head on her shoulders and can think for herself, I mean a stone cold .......), women that are crazy ie take tons of pills for depression etc

 

[gottabemore2life]

This is weird but...

Turn on: Confidence
Turn off: Arrogance

And I know we said nothing physical but I think a smile can say a million things. A guy with a great, pure, open smile really piques my interest.

 

[frenzy]

Hmmmm...

Turn-ons: humor, wit, cleverness. sensitivity, a good heart.
Turn-offs: "macho men", making fun of others, ignorance, cruelty.

 

[A Taffer]

biggest turn offs are arrogant and disrespectful women, it does not matter how attractive they are, if there's any arrogance or disrespect, that is the worst, I can't respect them.

I have to agree with you there. Thats a major turnoff!

 

[soccerdad66]

This is weird but...

Turn on: Confidence
Turn off: Arrogance

And I know we said nothing physical but I think a smile can say a million things. A guy with a great, pure, open smile really piques my interest.

Why is that weird?

 

[Laurie919]

Turn on - being aggressive
Turn off - shy guys

 

[Luther073082]

Turn on - being aggressive
Turn off - shy guys

Grrr

Turn on: Women who know how to behave in polite company
Turn off: Women who either don't know or don't care how to be a lady in polite company.