It's interesting how this topic always brings out the self-righteousness indignation on all sides.
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Forgiven, brother.
When is the last time that you, my brother, looked in the mirror and asked yourself whether your pants would cause someone else to sin? I'm gonna go ahead and guess that it has never happened.
Yet I see this with my sisters all the time. Now, the answer is not 'those pants are fine' or 'those pants are out', because that just backs the same question up until tomorrow morning. The real answer is the question: Why are you so concerned about your pants?
How can one boldly proclaim the love of Christ if they can't even boldly get dressed in the morning?
So my answer to the OP is: Wear what everyone else is wearing. Do not seek to stand out for your 'righteous' or 'unrighteous' clothing. Rather, seek to be known for your love.
It's interesting how this topic always brings out the self-righteousness indignation on all sides.
When is the last time that you, my brother, looked in the mirror and asked yourself whether your pants would cause someone else to sin? I'm gonna go ahead and guess that it has never happened.
Yet I see this with my sisters all the time. Now, the answer is not 'those pants are fine' or 'those pants are out', because that just backs the same question up until tomorrow morning. The real answer is the question: Why are you so concerned about your pants?
How can one boldly proclaim the love of Christ if they can't even boldly get dressed in the morning?
So my answer to the OP is: Wear what everyone else is wearing. Do not seek to stand out for your 'righteous' or 'unrighteous' clothing. Rather, seek to be known for your love.
bornofGod888 I also for some reason got confused and posted on another thread that is the same topic as this one I feel better that I'm not alone in my oops moment
You find that to be humorous?
I'm sorry, but, c'mon, let's not bury our heads in the sand here. I personally have a very serious problem with the way that my own wife dresses, although I no longer even mention it to her. I'm not trying to be disrespectful to her, nor am I trying to be the least bit flippant myself, but I honestly believe that almost every single person who has ever seen my wife has seen her butt crack (can I say that here?). And by "butt crack", I mean enough of it to mail a normal sized letter in. Seriously (I'm not joking), when she bends over, you can almost hear Andy Williams singing "Moon River". In fact, our own children have commented to my wife about this several times...all to no avail. By dressing in such a manner, I believe that my wife dishonors God, dishonors me as her husband, dishonors our children who are openly embarrassed by my wife's manner of dressing (and I haven't even addressed other forms of her attire) and, quite frankly, dishonors herself by lowering herself to "a piece of meat" to whet the ungodly appetites of others.
I don't know what size your wife is but I have actually had trouble in those years of "low cut" pants (which fortunately seem to be coming to the end) finding pants that do NOT do that. I compensate by wearing longer shirts, but I am not really up on fashion so I don't know if that's something anyone else would want to try.
But yes, it is distracting even to me as a woman when I am teaching Sunday School with someone who appears to be dressed perfectly fine otherwise, and she bends over and I can see that. I blame the low-cut pants craze.
Where, then, does not being conformed to the world come into play?
But seriously, the only way I know I'm wearing something I should not is when the wife asks< "You"re not wearing that,are you'? i guess she sees something wrong with black slacks and brown shoes.
Well that seems like great advice. Problem is we really don't like the truth and therefore hide. There are many layers of hiding. Man is outright scared.Well, everywhere except how we dress, I suppose. Jesus didn't stand out for his clothing choices. Paul didn't stand out for his clothing choices. Peter didn't stand out for his clothing choices.
I don't believe that Christians are called to stand out in such an external way. Otherwise, Christian men wouldn't dare wear suits on Sunday morning.
But the example of your wife is a good one, because the problem is that her clothing is standing out in a way that makes her family uncomfortable, and yet she refuses to change it. This is a problem of the heart, not the crack.
Then again, her uncompromising view of fashion is only a problem because it clashes with your own uncompromising view of fashion. All dishonor falls away with a little humility on either side. Ask yourself this: If you had this argument in front of Holy God, who would win? The woman who refuses to buy longer shirts in order to comfort her family? Or the man who harbors resentment with the wife of his youth over her pants?
Everyone loses.
Therefore, have salt in yourselves and live at peace with one another.
Anyone can put a suit on Sunday morning and call themselves righteous, but our God sees the heart. Let's be more like our God who sees what's underneath, than the world that only sees what's on top.
Believe me, I went through years of offering to buy my wife longer shirts and different cut pants and she would have none of that. In her case, at least, I believe that there are underlying spiritual issues which haven't been dealt with and which manifest themselves in different ways outwardly.
Hey I was desocialized for sock color.In my case you'd be correct. Can't say I've ever thought my pants would cause a gal to sin. But I do watch my words when speaking to women as they are more audibly fixated where men are visual.
I also do not remember ever asking if my pants make my butt look big. I just assumed it was my big butt making it look that way.
When one is my age and shape we don't worry about showing off our six-pack or large pectoral muscles. I have chest of drawers syndrome. My chest has fallen down around my drawers and my six pack is now a keg.
But seriously, the only way I know I'm wearing something I should not is when the wife asks< "You"re not wearing that,are you'? i guess she sees something wrong with black slacks and brown shoes.
I don't know what size your wife is but I have actually had trouble in those years of "low cut" pants (which fortunately seem to be coming to the end) finding pants that do NOT do that. I compensate by wearing longer shirts, but I am not really up on fashion so I don't know if that's something anyone else would want to try.
But yes, it is distracting even to me as a woman when I am teaching Sunday School with someone who appears to be dressed perfectly fine otherwise, and she bends over and I can see that. I blame the low-cut pants craze.
Well, everywhere except how we dress, I suppose. Jesus didn't stand out for his clothing choices. Paul didn't stand out for his clothing choices. Peter didn't stand out for his clothing choices.
I don't believe that Christians are called to stand out in such an external way. Otherwise, Christian men wouldn't dare wear suits on Sunday morning.
But the example of your wife is a good one, because the problem is that her clothing is standing out in a way that makes her family uncomfortable, and yet she refuses to change it. This is a problem of the heart, not the crack.
Then again, her uncompromising view of fashion is only a problem because it clashes with your own uncompromising view of fashion. All dishonor falls away with a little humility on either side. Ask yourself this: If you had this argument in front of Holy God, who would win? The woman who refuses to buy longer shirts in order to comfort her family? Or the man who harbors resentment with the wife of his youth over her pants?
Everyone loses.
Therefore, have salt in yourselves and live at peace with one another.
Anyone can put a suit on Sunday morning and call themselves righteous, but our God sees the heart. Let's be more like our God who sees what's underneath, than the world that only sees what's on top.
I don't know what size your wife is but I have actually had trouble in those years of "low cut" pants (which fortunately seem to be coming to the end) finding pants that do NOT do that. I compensate by wearing longer shirts, but I am not really up on fashion so I don't know if that's something anyone else would want to try.
But yes, it is distracting even to me as a woman when I am teaching Sunday School with someone who appears to be dressed perfectly fine otherwise, and she bends over and I can see that. I blame the low-cut pants craze.
Forgiven, brother.
When is the last time that you, my brother, looked in the mirror and asked yourself whether your pants would cause someone else to sin? I'm gonna go ahead and guess that it has never happened.
Yet I see this with my sisters all the time. Now, the answer is not 'those pants are fine' or 'those pants are out', because that just backs the same question up until tomorrow morning. The real answer is the question: Why are you so concerned about your pants?
How can one boldly proclaim the love of Christ if they can't even boldly get dressed in the morning?
So my answer to the OP is: Wear what everyone else is wearing. Do not seek to stand out for your 'righteous' or 'unrighteous' clothing. Rather, seek to be known for your love.