Bams...my heart goes out to you, it really does. I looked at your profile, and noticed that you are only 4 days younger than my oldest son--
I had a really horrible childhood as well, which in no way negates yours....I can remember raking my fingernails down my face in sheer frustration so many times at the things that were going on (I had never heard of cutting)--the inside of my fingers splitting open and bleeding (doctor said it was 'nerves'...I won't ever understand why a doctor didn't question something like that in a 13 year old...but then, that was a long time ago, and they just...didn't really.)--a lot of physical things that happened to me as a direct result of things that were going on in my life- it was a total misery, and to this day, I can't hardly look at the things that happened because it does have a tendency to make me very uncomfortable and panicky. You said that in order to deal with those things, you need to face them- but in facing them, you are terrified- I can't blame you at all---we don't understand the 'why' of so many things that happened to us, that we weren't responsible for....but...here's what I DO know....what has happened to you, while by no means was it a 'good thing', God can turn this into something that you can help others with--you have an 'inside', as it were- the ability to relate to others who have gone through this on their own level, you're able to say, 'you know what...ive been there, and I know exactly how you feel, and im hurting with you in this'.....and sometimes, that can help so much. I don't have an answer as to how to deal with your past.....all I can say, is ask God to help you deal with it- He created you, He knows everything about you- and He can bring healing and closure into your life regarding these things. I know that a lot of mine has had to involve forgiveness, and it's so hard, because I feel that I was so victimized, and my life, my emotional life was devastated through the acts of my own family, the people who were supposed to love and care for me. But I know that hanging on to it, not forgiving, is so...detrimental to any healing that could take place. Don't believe for a minute that God isn't going to see you through this, even though you feel like there is absolutely no way out- if there is anything ive learned over the years, and heaven knows I don't know much....it's that the bottom line, the only thing left at the end of the day...is our God is the one we need to ultimately turn to---He is the ultimate Counselor...Therapist...you name it. If you have a church that you attend, see if you can find a mentor of some sort, someone who can listen to you, pray with you- be there for you. I will be praying for you, one thing ive noticed is that kids today seem to have it soooo much rougher than they did when I was a kid- I feel for all of you, dealing with what you have to deal with, and living in the world you live in- but God is watching over each and every one of you- we don't understand why things happen the way they do, but He is in control. I know....it seems like such a pat thing to say, and I don't mean it that way, I really don't- I wouldn't dare minimize any of what any of you are going through--but like I said, ultimately, we need to cast all of our cares on God, even these...the hurts, the pain, the feeling of hopelesness...and He will be faithful to help us- we might not feel like He is, but He will.