My mother-in-law only calls my husband and me when she wants money or a favor. We usually don't take her calls because when we do, we end up having to drive her somewhere (she doesn't work or have a car), give her money for things like getting her nails done, or having her come over here to use our food to cook something only to leave a mess in the kitchen. We are sure she is mentally ill and she was extremely abusive to my husband and his sister as they were growing up.
But anyway, since Mother's Day is coming up, she has started blowing up our phone and leaving messages with my sister-in-law with her "wish list" for things she wants for Mother's Day. I am opposed to people just demanding gifts. She wants an expensive hairdo, pedicure, dinner out, and movies. I'm currently out of work and my husband has a low wage job. We still have my own mom to consider for Mother's Day and then our dads for Father's Day.
I'm resentful that my MIL always has such nerve to call and list off what she wants us to buy her. That is so rude, in my opinion. Gifts should be given freely, not demanded. I would never call my mother-in-law and tell her what to give me for my birthday...in fact she never once acknowledged my birthday verbally let alone with a card! Yet when the holidays or her birthday come around, here she is calling and taking advantage of an opportunity to get some freebees!
Can anyone relate to this? Her daughter is defensive and when I complained, she said "well what's just how she is, so do whatever you want" but now I'm the black sheep. How do I handle such rudeness?
But anyway, since Mother's Day is coming up, she has started blowing up our phone and leaving messages with my sister-in-law with her "wish list" for things she wants for Mother's Day. I am opposed to people just demanding gifts. She wants an expensive hairdo, pedicure, dinner out, and movies. I'm currently out of work and my husband has a low wage job. We still have my own mom to consider for Mother's Day and then our dads for Father's Day.
I'm resentful that my MIL always has such nerve to call and list off what she wants us to buy her. That is so rude, in my opinion. Gifts should be given freely, not demanded. I would never call my mother-in-law and tell her what to give me for my birthday...in fact she never once acknowledged my birthday verbally let alone with a card! Yet when the holidays or her birthday come around, here she is calling and taking advantage of an opportunity to get some freebees!
Can anyone relate to this? Her daughter is defensive and when I complained, she said "well what's just how she is, so do whatever you want" but now I'm the black sheep. How do I handle such rudeness?