These texts do not talk about God "not acting" but they show that choice is required instead of the simple "mind-zap" model.
And they show that when God does act - not all even then will choose the Gospel.
By contrast... in the mind-zap model the robot always does as it is zapped to do. Thus if the robot maker says "what more could I have done that I have not done"... well that scenario "cannot exist" in the mind-zap model.
In 4 and 5 point Calvinism - God is the cause of His own "lament".
"
He came to His OWN and His OWN received Him not"
John 1:11
"
Jerusalem how I WANTED to spare your children..but YOU would not" Matt 23
"
what MORE Could I have done - that I have not done?" Is 5:4
In 4 and 5 point Calvinism there is a big answer to the question God asks in Is 5:4 - the Calvinist answer is --- "
you could have done the necessary as with all the cases where you cause someone to be saved and to remain faithful"
And when the person chooses to respond to the "Drawing" what then?
Romans 10
8 But what does it say? “
The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart”—that is, t
he word of faith which we are preaching,
9 that
if you confess with your mouth Jesus
as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;
10 for with
the heart a person believes,
resulting in righteousness, and
with the mouth he confesses,
resulting in salvation.
11 For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes in Him will not be disappointed.”
12 For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same
Lord is Lord of all, abounding in riches for all who call on Him; 13 for “
Whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved.”
(Not - "is already saved" before doing that)
vs 8 shows God at work and still choice is needed, action of man taken "resulting in salvation"
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Each time this is pointed out that response is "yes but man is not doing all of that in a vacuum in the complete absence of God" -- but that is a "given" for "
I will DRAW ALL MANKIND unto Me" John 12:32 is God acting not man acting by himself.