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wow -- you are being very hard on yourself. I married my wife who was with 5 men before me and I was aware of this before we married. I KNEW she was the one God intended for me and I don't regret marrying her 1% Her past has been very difficult for me to cope with - but I keep that as my 'issue' - I certainly don't hang it over her. I keep telling myself 1-we all make mistakes/sin 2-she IS remorseful. And #2 is the trick - as you are also remorseful and repent your sin - then God can forgive you and your future spouse will RESPECT that.Yes, because now I don't think any christian man would be able to accept me for my past, and I still get text messages from various ex's and STILL have deep-rooted and permanent emotional attachments which I can't break....in fact, I am going to meet an ex boyfriend tomorrow night, as I don't feel like I have a future and have sort of got addicted to texting him again....hoping I can behave myself, and know it's stupid on some levels, but if you don't feel like you have a future until you get to Heaven, it can seem like an awfully long time to wait without male company, even if you just look and don't touch!!! Please pray for me....
Yes, because now I don't think any christian man would be able to accept me for my past, and I still get text messages from various ex's and STILL have deep-rooted and permanent emotional attachments which I can't break....
You are mistaken. We have been forgiven that much by God that we should forgive others and so the past doesn't matter. It's clear that some men would find it easier to forget - I am a virgin and I can't guarantee that were my future wife not to be, that it would make me worry.
....in fact, I am going to meet an ex boyfriend tomorrow night, as I don't feel like I have a future and have sort of got addicted to texting him again....hoping I can behave myself, and know it's stupid on some levels, but if you don't feel like you have a future until you get to Heaven, it can seem like an awfully long time to wait without male company, even if you just look and don't touch!!! Please pray for me....
To me that seems unwise. If your ex boyfriend is not a Christian (or even if he is) and you have sinned with him in the past, the best thing to do is to avoid meeting him. That might seem harsh on him, but you need to put your own relationship with God first. We should flee from temptation (1 Corinthians 6:18) and must be ruthless (Matthew 5:29-30) when keeping ourselves from sin.
I pray that you can remain pure from now on, as I do for myself also. God will help us if we ask.
Just looked at your picture -- were you in ZZ Top?Shame, guilt, feelings of dirtiness. All forms of condemnation. So what does it mean to have those feelings while "there is no condemnation to them that are in Christ?" It means that those feelings are coming straight out of the pit of hell. Recognizing that one has sinned is honesty; regretting it is humility. Letting it color your self-image or change your spiritual condition can only happen if you are not taking seriously the power of Christ to wash you clean.
And to those who fear that a Godly person will not accept them because of their past: a Godly person follows the example of Christ. If Christ considers you washed clean, then any person who does not is not a Godly person in that respect. You should not even value their opinions.