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GlennK
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i turned 21, i don't do drugs, and none of that stuff, and have been home for college break. things have been great. but.. last night i was going to go hang out with this girl, (my friend's little cousin). i tell my parents im going to go out. They're like oh, okay, with who? and I just tell them some girl, and they get mad because i'm not giving them a name. i tell them, oh, Jennifer.
And they start getting very emotional telling me they will not let me go out with her, because they say she used to be into drugs, sleep around with men, work at a bar, etc. I had no idea about all this, and she is in the drive way waiting for me to come out while this is happening. (i always just make plans to go hang out.. i never ask my parents.. in fact.. my parents haven't even met a lot of my friends because they trust me!)
I calmly tell them I understand but I have to go because I gave her my word, and they insist on me not going, saying she could take me to drug addicts, etc (which definitely wasn't going happen, that's ridiculous, she doesn't even do any of that anymore, and she wouldn't even think about taking me around that!). They start yelling at me for no reason. Then my dad starts accusing me of knowing that she used to do all these things, and that's why i wouldn't tell them at first. That's when I loose it and we start screaming at eachother, and it gets pretty bad. We start screaming even more at eachother.
my dad accused me of knowing she used to be into: 'drugs, sleeping around with men, working at a bar' when I did not! My parents insisted on me not going out with her. (which I didn't because... while i was emotionally blowing up, i told them, i always do the right thing and get my parents blessing, because that's how God meant for it to be), So because of the fighting that went on, I stood her up (which made me feel like i didn't do the right thing going against my word when i had previously promised her), which made me blow up even more (getting in my dad's face, breaking my mom's chair, cussing them out, calling them names), and i felt like my mom and my dad both were in my face pretty bad, and had damaged my reputation with this girl. We exchanged a lot of harmful words. They started yelling at me first, for no reason in the beginning, when they could have talked about it calmly to me!
i don't even have romantic interest in this girl, i was just going to hang out and be around some people!
i keep reliving the experience in my mind of my mom almost crying because i broke one of her chairs, and my dad flinching because he thought i might hit him. It's really bringing me down. if i try to talk to my mom she just brings up things i said last night. my dad just gives me short answers.
was i completely in the wrong? should i expect an apology?
i've already apologized. what am i supposed to do?
And they start getting very emotional telling me they will not let me go out with her, because they say she used to be into drugs, sleep around with men, work at a bar, etc. I had no idea about all this, and she is in the drive way waiting for me to come out while this is happening. (i always just make plans to go hang out.. i never ask my parents.. in fact.. my parents haven't even met a lot of my friends because they trust me!)
I calmly tell them I understand but I have to go because I gave her my word, and they insist on me not going, saying she could take me to drug addicts, etc (which definitely wasn't going happen, that's ridiculous, she doesn't even do any of that anymore, and she wouldn't even think about taking me around that!). They start yelling at me for no reason. Then my dad starts accusing me of knowing that she used to do all these things, and that's why i wouldn't tell them at first. That's when I loose it and we start screaming at eachother, and it gets pretty bad. We start screaming even more at eachother.
my dad accused me of knowing she used to be into: 'drugs, sleeping around with men, working at a bar' when I did not! My parents insisted on me not going out with her. (which I didn't because... while i was emotionally blowing up, i told them, i always do the right thing and get my parents blessing, because that's how God meant for it to be), So because of the fighting that went on, I stood her up (which made me feel like i didn't do the right thing going against my word when i had previously promised her), which made me blow up even more (getting in my dad's face, breaking my mom's chair, cussing them out, calling them names), and i felt like my mom and my dad both were in my face pretty bad, and had damaged my reputation with this girl. We exchanged a lot of harmful words. They started yelling at me first, for no reason in the beginning, when they could have talked about it calmly to me!
i don't even have romantic interest in this girl, i was just going to hang out and be around some people!
i keep reliving the experience in my mind of my mom almost crying because i broke one of her chairs, and my dad flinching because he thought i might hit him. It's really bringing me down. if i try to talk to my mom she just brings up things i said last night. my dad just gives me short answers.
was i completely in the wrong? should i expect an apology?
i've already apologized. what am i supposed to do?