I've been contemplating the idea of dating again. (Only thinking stage). I'm not sure that I even would know how to do a close "relationship" without sex or touch. This isn't like when I was a kid was "saving myself". There was an obvious purpose then. Now, I can't even imagine a "relationship" without the physical aspect after a certain amount of time ... to me that sounds like a platonic friendship...and I'd never want to marry a platonic friend. If I were childless, then it seems like that 'point' might be the point to discuss marriage...however, with kids living under the same roof, I would need to invest a LONG amount of time to make sure that this was also a good decision for them, too.
Maybe this is why I'm still alone. God has still has some work to do on me. I wish the Bible had more to say about this. How do you go from everything to nothing?
Greetings blackribbon:
When I married my wife I did so forever. My heart told me, as did hers, that she and I would be together forever. I know that eternity is forever. So without a doubt she and I will praise the Lord Jesus forever when we are both in Heaven.
Then there is Earth. I was and remain on various levels, rather shocked to have NO contact with my wife. I am an attentive man and enjoyed sharing touch and affection with her. She and I were a match made in Heaven indeed. We could never get enough of one another on any level. This is very difficult to come to terms with. I understand your thoughts. I also understand that when couples have a family the entire family unit requires sober-minded consideration prior to making any decision, especially when contemplating venturing out into the dating realm.
You raised a good question in terms of how to go from everything to nothing?
I am of the thought that I will continue to venture through this world one step at a time and remember my relationship with the Lord Jesus has NOT changed at all. My marriage has drastically change in a way that I never desired to have it change!
Also I realized that I am not the type of man that cares to hibernate and not relate. Still I remain in love with my beloved wife. I loved being married to my beloved wife. Indeed there are so many variables one must consider prior to making a decision that is layered with so many things to consider, especially when those of us have loved and been loved and now are without our beloved spouse. And more importantly have the best welfare of children to consider.
For myself, I cannot wrap my mind around the whole dating concept. For myself I would venture to say that it is best to make choices that are made from a place that are devoid of any left over emotional familiar remnants that are more than likely from a time that shall never be recreated with my beloved being with the Lord Jesus. Focusing on my relationship with Jesus soothes what NO human touch could ever in a million years.
So, you asked..."How do you go from everything to nothing?"
I would venture to say after careful consideration and much prayerful time of seeking guidance, and then trust with your whole heart, soul and mind what the Holy Spirit has to say about the matter. IMO of course, but then I'm totally consumed with this love in my heart for my beloved wife who is with the Lord Jesus in Heaven. Nothing new here, always have been and I more than likely will continue loving her with my all even until I step out of this world into Heaven in the presence of the Lord to find that indeed our love bond is as I always knew...eternal!
In HIS redeeming Love...