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Wow. I never knew so many girls (and obviously guys) didnt mind kissing after like the third date. It kind of weirds me out. I mean seriously, how well do u actually know someone by a third date
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My first time had to be after we were going out. I dont remember how long after, but it really only happened as fast cuz one of her friends gave us the whole "u havent kissed yet? whats wrong with u?" attitude, and us being young, we both must of got the feeling we werent doing something right in the relationship, even though we had only seen each other in person (talked more often) like two or three times maybe i think when that girl said that. That said, it was kinda awkward. I was getting ready to leave her house, she said wait, i knew exactly what she was planning, but it being both our first kiss, we kinda went in all slow and awkward and touched lips. Nothing spectacular.
And if i were to start a relationship now, i wouldnt be kissing a girl until right after i dropped on one knee, and even then, i might save the second kiss til after the "i do". Either that, or i mess up and make a mistake cause of hormones and kiss her and regret it. And the reason i have realized is, is simply because that desire to get physical is really just me trying to get pleasure as an escape. All that time i might be kissing or making out could be better spent in quality time getting to know the girl, and if it just isnt satisfying spending quality time with her, i really need to ask myself why.
I still have that urge that if something is wrong, to try to kiss the girl to try to make it better, but i think am getting a tiny bit better about that, and i think i will get better at actually dealing with the situation instead of simply to avoid pain by dulling it out with physical pleasure.
Of course, i think i must be wierd. I started a thread on cf on discussing the morality of having mini-skirts on this site (knowing what all they represent in real life, and us being a christian site), since they made them on here and still have them as far as i know, and i thought i would get a pretty even split about how people felt about it, and to my surprise, i had a vast army of people who were for it, and i think like one person who actually was either against them, or just liked to argue for arguments sake. So maybe im the odd one out here, and i just have high hormones or something (the mini-skirts was a value judgement, not a hormone one). I dont know. Anyway, thats my 2 cents.
Oh, and i think it wouldnt hurt for all girls to pray for understanding about how guys hormones and turn on system works (TM). The reason being so they can avoid unintentionally drawing their bf or so's into undesired sexual temptation.