You were a child once!

[snoochface]

They aren't renewing it! Evil!! Does that mean this one is the last season? I hope not!

That's what they're saying. Apparently there is supposed to be somewhat of a wrap-up of the story, but there'll still be a big cliffhanger because the writers didn't know it would be the last season when they wrote the final episode. They are supposed to wrap it up in the DVD release (which my husband thinks is a big conspiracy to get us to buy the DVDs, heh).

LOL Kyle is a good 16-17 year old, but a lot of other teenagers aren't!

That's true, but you only have to deal with it for two years instead of 18

 

[invisiblebabe]

Boooo! I want more Kyle XY! haha

 

[Robinsegg]

Yes, this statement comes from the idea that if you choose not to have children that you automatically *must* hate them! This is, of course, a ludicrous generalization!

That said, as a parent (and person who works with kids at church and *loves* kids), there are kids who I have trouble dealing with . . . usually because the parents don't train the kids well.

No, this "bingo" makes no sense and should be taken as such.
Rachel

 

[Rebekka]

I also like:

What if your parents had felt that way.

What a stupid question and next person to say it to me will get - well it might do me a favour because I wouldn't be talking to you right now.

Pffffffffffff - as if I chose to be born! I lost count of how often I wished I had never been born.

If only my parents had felt that way!

(Don't worry, I'm very happy to exist now, most of the time.)

I didn't like children when I was one myself (I didn't like me, either, but I wasn't a typical child, I was weird), and I don't really like them* now.


Also, I don't understand why having been x (or even being x) means you should love x. I have a history of self-loathing, so the "you were a child once" argument is completely pointless IMO.




*Except for my new neigbours' daughter, Emma, 1.5 years old, one of the cutest girls I've ever seen! Extremely chatty and cheerful. Clever too.

 

[Nella Fantasia]

So I was hit with this bingo a few days ago...by my husband Yep. I don't think he knew what he was saying. He'd signed up for the Big Brothers, Big Sisters program, and if you want you're able to bring the child back to your home to hang out, or stay the night, or whatever. I told him I'd really rather he didn't do that, and just stay out with the kid. He became a little defensive, and said, "I mean, we were all kids once."

Ack! Unfortunately for him, I went off on a bit of a tangent I don't think he'll be saying that again though.

Edit: On that note, however, what would you all do? I thought my husband becoming involved with volunteer work would help as long as he was hanging around kids...but I didn't want to have to be involved, too. And I really don't relish in the thought of entertaining a child that's not even mine. Am I right to not want him to bring the child back or should I just let it go and deal with it?

 

[127.0.0.1]

I don't think he knew what he was saying. He'd signed up for the Big Brothers, Big Sisters program, and if you want you're able to bring the child back to your home to hang out, or stay the night, or whatever. I told him I'd really rather he didn't do that, and just stay out with the kid. He became a little defensive, and said, "I mean, we were all kids once."

Pfft!

I give him 5min, 10min tops!

 

[snoochface]

I wouldn't want him to bring the kid home! No way!

 

[LoisGriffin]

I can understand not wanting a child in your home. My home is not childproof at all. I have breakable things and one of my cats is very very nervous of strangers.

I am on edge whenever my nephew is home. After a couple of hours me and dh are exhausted.

Though I did love it when my nephew threw my husbands Bon Jovi collection into the bin. That was very funny and the kids is obviously going to grow up with great taste.

 

[Nella Fantasia]

Oh good. Sometimes I feel like I come across as a total jerk regarding kids

Though I did love it when my nephew threw my husbands Bon Jovi collection into the bin. That was very funny and the kids is obviously going to grow up with great taste.

 

[Epoh99]

I don't think it would be safe to have your husband bring some strange kid to your house. First of all, you don't know this kid or his background. He could rob you blind or plant drugs in your house. Also, he could accuse you guys of doing bad things to him. Does the program let people take kids to their houses? Maybe I'm too paranoid but I wouldn't go for it. Even if I liked kids and wanted kids I think it sounds dangerous.

 

[LoisGriffin]

Thats a very very good point Epoh.

Staying out in public is better for everyones safety.

 

[Nella Fantasia]

I don't think it would be safe to have your husband bring some strange kid to your house. First of all, you don't know this kid or his background. He could rob you blind or plant drugs in your house. Also, he could accuse you guys of doing bad things to him. Does the program let people take kids to their houses? Maybe I'm too paranoid but I wouldn't go for it. Even if I liked kids and wanted kids I think it sounds dangerous.

Yes, after a certain amount of time. I think it's after one month (or it might be three), and then you can bring the kid back to your place. But I agree with you...

 

[Amélie Unbound]

Yeah, I was a child once, but even when I was a child, I didn't enjoy being around other children. Other than certain rare individuals whom I became good friends with, other children were always so loud and hyper and silly, and didn't talk about anything interesting. I always wanted to hang out with adults and talk to them. I used to dread Christmas dinners with the extended family where I had to sit at the "children's table". What an annoying and nerve-shattering waste of time that felt like!

 

[browndogmom]

I was also a teenager once, which makes me seriously son consider whether or not I actually want to create one of my own.....

 

[BusyLizzy]

I've never wanted children. Never! I've never been sure exactly why, but only recently it dawned on me that it was at least partly because I was afraid that I might turn out to be the same sort of mother that mine was. Both of those arguments "You were a child once" and "What if your parents had felt that way?" are full of insight for me.

1. My mother certainly felt strongly that she did not want children - she became pregnant by mistake and it was an unpleasant shock for both my parents. It meant they were unable to live their lives as they had hoped, and had to go off in directions that made both of them absolutely miserable.

2. "You were a child once" - yes I certainly was, and I remember very clearly the utter misery of being a child that was unwanted and resented.

So no, I will not be repeating the pattern. Much as I love babies, like children and feel for them when things go wrong for them, it would be foolish of me to think that I could just brush under the carpet the fact that I would find it very difficult not to repeat the patterns of my own childhood.

Even though I am still speaking to my mother, who has apologised to me more than once for the way she treated me as a child, I think it would be wrong to take the risk, especially since neither I nor my husband has any desire to have children.