So they aren't really the children of God--more like the grandchildren of God?
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But now that faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian, for in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ." - Galatians 3:25-27
But of course it's forcing...they just have no way to resist or to express their displeasure in the coercion
Listen, if you want to view it as forcing. Then have at it. But I simply don't view God's love and grace as force. God so loved the world that He gave His only-begotten Son, not forced His only-begotten Son on the world. But if you want to view God's grace and love as force, then by all means, don't let me dissuade you of this. But it does sadden me that so many Christians today are so antagonistic against the Gospel.
If you're comparing it to circumcision, that was forced, too. The question you need to ask yourself is whether forcing is morally and spiritually acceptable for a fellow heir of the King.
See above. I'm not going to try and dissuade you.
And then you need to ask whether it means anything if the infant might eventually leave the church and his parents' faith. If so, then it goes back to that conversation about baptismal regeneration we were having. Are these infants really regenerated by being baptized without their consent?
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I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in Me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing. If anyone does not abide in Me he is thrown away like a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned." - John 15:5-6
The one who lapses and falls into apostasy is not abiding in Christ. And without Christ there is no salvation. This is not the fault of God's grace, as though God's word failed. Instead, see the Parable of the Sower,
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And He told them many things in parables, saying: 'A sower went out to sow. And as he sowed, some seeds fell along the path, and the birds came and devoured them. Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they did not have much soil, and immediately they sprang up, since they had no depth of soil, but when the sun rose they were scorched. And since they had no root, they withered away. Other seeds fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them. Other seeds fell on good soil and produced grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty. He who has ears, let him hear.'" - Matthew 13:1-9
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'Hear then the parable of the sower: When anyone hears the word of the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what has been sown in his heart. This is what was sown along the path. As for what was sown on rocky ground, this is the one who hears the word and immediately receives it with joy, yet he has no root in himself, but endures for a while, and when tribulation or persecution arises on account of the word, immediately he falls away. As for what was sown among thorns, this is the one who hears the word, but the cares of the world and the deceitfulness of riches choke the word, and it proves unfruitful. As for what was sown on good soil, this is the one who hears the word and understands it. He indeed bears fruit and yields, in one case a hundredfold, in another sixty, and in another thirty.'" - Matthew 13:18-23
Don't blame the Sower or the seed, they are perfect. The word of God is perfect, and it does what He sets it out to do (Isaiah 55:11). But, and this is tragic but true, not everyone who hears will believe, not everyone who initially has faith will remain in faith. Sometimes, very tragically, Christians fall away. That's why we are always to call one another back, to preach repentance, and even more importantly to continually preach the Gospel. For we must abide in Christ, remain in Christ. To stay here and kneel and abide at His cross. Come before the cross and remain here, His blood covers you and washes you. There is no where else to go, everything else is death. Christ alone has life, and life abundantly. He is the Vine, the Source, the Foundation, the solid Bedrock and Well of living water, His words are life, His body and blood is life, He is life.
-CryptoLutheran