Yelling

[RileyG]

I hate when people yell, especially when it's unnecessary. (e.g. When someone yells from room to room). My mother does it A LOT, and it drives me NUTS. It immediately gives me so much anxiety, and makes me irritable. How do you cope with this?

Am I overreacting?

God bless

 

[Tolworth John]

I hate when people yell, especially when it's unnecessary. (e.g. When someone yells from room to room). My mother does it A LOT, and it drives me NUTS. It immediately gives me so much anxiety, and makes me irritable. How do you cope with this?

Am I overreacting?

God bless

If you mother is not willing to change there is not a lot you can do.
What I would suggest, in an attempt to help her change this habit, would be to go to the dor of what ever room she is in and say something sarcastic like, Did you scream, are you in need of help? " In the following conversation repeat, she has only to speak to you and you will reply, but screaming and shouting stresses you out, please just speak normally.

It might work, you won't know till you try.

 

[subtlecollision]

You're not overreacting at all. I also hate yelling or even when people raise their tone in a mean/aggressive way. That's because it literally puts your body into danger/crisis mode.

I would explain to your mom how it affects you and how it only makes matters worse. When someone yells at you, your body goes into danger mode and it makes it harder to think. So, if she is yelling at you to do something, that makes it less likely that you will actually do what she wants you to.

My dad was very snappy and short with us growing up. If my husband raises his voice, I literally will run to the bed and under the covers. That kind of stuff stays with you for a while. My husband understands now how it affects me and how it isn't effective anyway, so he has gotten better at not using a tone with me.

I pray that your mom would be understanding in this situation.

 

[frank1234]

Have you told them about it, that it bothers you?