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also awesomeYes, it was very rewarding and gratifying!
Yay!! Did you notice a change in your in laws' behaviour, or is it more your reaction to it has changed?
It really is, sis. Did you feel more peaceful, or was it a case of consciously staying calm? Either way, God is seriously awesomeNope, it was definitely *MY* reaction; they were the same as always. I was just overall more accepting unconditionally, more carefree (generally I would be on edge trying to avoid and prevent any conflict amongst any of them with each other or myself), etc. It truly, truly was great. Amazing huh?
It really is, sis. Did you feel more peaceful, or was it a case of consciously staying calm? Either way, God is seriously awesome
Awesome, God IS GOODExcellent question GreenMunchkin! No, there was absolutely, positively no conscious effort on my part by any means whatsoever.
Gosh. Then I really think that genuinely comes under the category of miracle. You made a commitment to Him, and He absolutely stuck to His part of the bargain. How amazing. You went out on a limb of faith in a way, and He totally met you half way by giving you serenity.Excellent question GreenMunchkin! No, there was absolutely, positively no conscious effort on my part by any means whatsoever.
So here's an update on me. Words cannot relay how all the different areas in my life are changing. I really feel extremely close to God. He's in the front, back and middle of my mind at all times. Before, yes I always talked to Him, or so I thought. This has been an eye opener to say the least.
Anyway... onto some things-- good and not so good. We'll start with the good and end with the lesson of the bad.
I've noticed an huge increase of patience with my children. I'm normally very patient anyway, but like any parent and child relationship my patience does get tested. When they didn't clean their rooms like I told them, and it was more than apparent their time spent *cleaning* was really playing and goofing around, I didn't get angry, frustrated or irritated. They were simply told they would finish after dinner instead of being outside in the warm weather. And when they finished in record time I didn't comment about why they couldn't do it in the first place.
My youngest (8) is like me (God bless my husband for tolerating me!). She is a go getter. There is no procrastinating, it's... get it done and get it done NOW. Well she has a major project coming up (take that lightly-- it's not due for some time) and in her opinion it must be done, and done now. (Yes, I now know how my husband feels when I need something done and done now!). Instead of brushing her off or anything else we sat down and worked out a time plan. She has her duties and knows when they are to be turned into me. Whereas before I would've told her let's talk about it in a week or so, or come back to me when she had her game plan ready.
I'm also much more tolerable of the non-stop desire to chit-chat as I'm putting them to bed. Some nights I would tell them I was really tired and could we talk in the morning at breakfast or whatever. But now I genuinely cherish those extra two to twenty-two minutes spent talking at bed time.
Goodness I may be sounding like some crazy non-tolerable mother. And that statement would be just as accurate as it is inaccurate. I'm more tolerable than I probably should be, but at the same time I may not have been totally focused (making a list in my mind as we chatted) or grumbled under my breath even though I still did it. It's not like that at all anymore.
Now, where I did stumble was yesterday. Instead of allowing God to take over and help me I fought it. We've been talking about an upcoming vacation since last fall. Hubs had me book it last night. And I couldn't because there are literally NO rooms available. I was angry, hurt, frustrated and disappointed. Let's add cranky and tired to it also!
I was lead to walk away and deal with the dilemna today, but instead I dealt with it last night. Big no, no. It ended up causing an arguement about me being angry hubs took so long to give me an actual date; frustrated because this happens ALL the time; hurt because the kids will be heartbroken since we've been looking forward to this; disappointed because I was also really looking forward to a nice Spring Break weekend getaway. But you simply cannot book a hotel reservation with less than two weeks notice this time of year.
I'm certainly not perfect in obeying, and that was a prime example. But I am learning how easy it is to turn everything over to God, to listen more closely to Him and to speak to Him about everything. It's been awesome!
I can totally relate to that.God is definately moving in your life! Satan is definately fighting hard though. He hasn't given me much of a break from his attacks either. Living as Jesus would is not easy, but it is definately worth it. The rewards outweigh the trials.
That's good to hear, obeying our parents is a command, even if we don't like it.I guess I'll give my update now as well. I don't have much time, so this will be short and to the point.
I have been planning on going on a foreign missions trip for quite a few months. I finally found one that I was interested in going on, and was already getting excited. But, last night, my parents said that they didn't think I should go to a foreign country on my first missions trip. They wanted me to stay in the country so they would be able to come and get me if anything happened. I feel called to foreign missions though, and was really looking forward to going on that trip. So, when they told me that if I was going to go on a missions trip, I would have to do it in the US, I wasn't to happy. I didn't want to, but I submitted to their authority. I didn't get mad and tell them what I thought about it like I was tempted to. I just calmly asked questions about it and tried to understand their point of view.
I did understand the reasons why they had said this, but I still felt that I was old enough to handle a foreign missions trip. I did submit, but I still had a few angry thoughts go through my head. Now I understand completely why they said what they did, and as long as I can do something useful for God on my missions trip, it doesn't matter that much if I'm in the US or some other country.
I still do and say wrong things, but with God's help I am drawing closer to Him and walking a path that will lead to a better life. My life has already gotten better. I already feel as if I am drawing closer to my Savior.
Oh Eldaah! I'm sorry to hear of your parents disapproval, but I'm glad you handled it with grace and dignity.I guess I'll give my update now as well. I don't have much time, so this will be short and to the point.
I have been planning on going on a foreign missions trip for quite a few months. I finally found one that I was interested in going on, and was already getting excited. But, last night, my parents said that they didn't think I should go to a foreign country on my first missions trip. They wanted me to stay in the country so they would be able to come and get me if anything happened. I feel called to foreign missions though, and was really looking forward to going on that trip. So, when they told me that if I was going to go on a missions trip, I would have to do it in the US, I wasn't to happy. I didn't want to, but I submitted to their authority. I didn't get mad and tell them what I thought about it like I was tempted to. I just calmly asked questions about it and tried to understand their point of view.
I did understand the reasons why they had said this, but I still felt that I was old enough to handle a foreign missions trip. I did submit, but I still had a few angry thoughts go through my head. Now I understand completely why they said what they did, and as long as I can do something useful for God on my missions trip, it doesn't matter that much if I'm in the US or some other country.
I still do and say wrong things, but with God's help I am drawing closer to Him and walking a path that will lead to a better life. My life has already gotten better. I already feel as if I am drawing closer to my Savior.
I can totally relate to that.
I need to spend time in prayer suring up some weak spots in my armor, and trusting more and more on God's strength to get me through.
Glad to hear that, happy for you, God is so great, when we let Him take over he can do such awesome and inspiring things through us and for us, Amen!Thanks Eldaah for the compliment. I too agree wolfman is doing great.
Goodness me, I can't believe I didn't post about Saturday. It was GREAT! Really it was. Remember how I said it was time to stop talking and start walking? Well, I really wanted to do that because I know I've been wrong in how I've acted, thought and moved forward with them. And He was there helping me step-by-step. PTL!
EldaahI guess I'll give my update now as well. I don't have much time, so this will be short and to the point.
I have been planning on going on a foreign missions trip for quite a few months. I finally found one that I was interested in going on, and was already getting excited. But, last night, my parents said that they didn't think I should go to a foreign country on my first missions trip. They wanted me to stay in the country so they would be able to come and get me if anything happened. I feel called to foreign missions though, and was really looking forward to going on that trip. So, when they told me that if I was going to go on a missions trip, I would have to do it in the US, I wasn't to happy. I didn't want to, but I submitted to their authority. I didn't get mad and tell them what I thought about it like I was tempted to. I just calmly asked questions about it and tried to understand their point of view.
I did understand the reasons why they had said this, but I still felt that I was old enough to handle a foreign missions trip. I did submit, but I still had a few angry thoughts go through my head. Now I understand completely why they said what they did, and as long as I can do something useful for God on my missions trip, it doesn't matter that much if I'm in the US or some other country.
I still do and say wrong things, but with God's help I am drawing closer to Him and walking a path that will lead to a better life. My life has already gotten better. I already feel as if I am drawing closer to my Savior.
Yep............totally amazing, good job cristianna.Nope, it was definitely *MY* reaction; they were the same as always. I was just overall more accepting unconditionally, more carefree (generally I would be on edge trying to avoid and prevent any conflict amongst any of them with each other or myself), etc. It truly, truly was great. Amazing huh?
Wow.........keep it up I think you're doing great.......I cheer for you.So here's an update on me. Words cannot relay how all the different areas in my life are changing. I really feel extremely close to God. He's in the front, back and middle of my mind at all times. Before, yes I always talked to Him, or so I thought. This has been an eye opener to say the least.
Anyway... onto some things-- good and not so good. We'll start with the good and end with the lesson of the bad.
I've noticed an huge increase of patience with my children. I'm normally very patient anyway, but like any parent and child relationship my patience does get tested. When they didn't clean their rooms like I told them, and it was more than apparent their time spent *cleaning* was really playing and goofing around, I didn't get angry, frustrated or irritated. They were simply told they would finish after dinner instead of being outside in the warm weather. And when they finished in record time I didn't comment about why they couldn't do it in the first place.
My youngest (8) is like me (God bless my husband for tolerating me!). She is a go getter. There is no procrastinating, it's... get it done and get it done NOW. Well she has a major project coming up (take that lightly-- it's not due for some time) and in her opinion it must be done, and done now. (Yes, I now know how my husband feels when I need something done and done now!). Instead of brushing her off or anything else we sat down and worked out a time plan. She has her duties and knows when they are to be turned into me. Whereas before I would've told her let's talk about it in a week or so, or come back to me when she had her game plan ready.
I'm also much more tolerable of the non-stop desire to chit-chat as I'm putting them to bed. Some nights I would tell them I was really tired and could we talk in the morning at breakfast or whatever. But now I genuinely cherish those extra two to twenty-two minutes spent talking at bed time.
Goodness I may be sounding like some crazy non-tolerable mother. And that statement would be just as accurate as it is inaccurate. I'm more tolerable than I probably should be, but at the same time I may not have been totally focused (making a list in my mind as we chatted) or grumbled under my breath even though I still did it. It's not like that at all anymore.
Now, where I did stumble was yesterday. Instead of allowing God to take over and help me I fought it. We've been talking about an upcoming vacation since last fall. Hubs had me book it last night. And I couldn't because there are literally NO rooms available. I was angry, hurt, frustrated and disappointed. Let's add cranky and tired to it also!
I was lead to walk away and deal with the dilemna today, but instead I dealt with it last night. Big no, no. It ended up causing an arguement about me being angry hubs took so long to give me an actual date; frustrated because this happens ALL the time; hurt because the kids will be heartbroken since we've been looking forward to this; disappointed because I was also really looking forward to a nice Spring Break weekend getaway. But you simply cannot book a hotel reservation with less than two weeks notice this time of year.
I'm certainly not perfect in obeying, and that was a prime example. But I am learning how easy it is to turn everything over to God, to listen more closely to Him and to speak to Him about everything. It's been awesome!
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