Would YOU wait?

[Beth1231]

Today, my employer and good friend went to the doctor to hear a heartbeat (she was ten weeks pregnant). It was such a sad day today. The doctor didn't find a heartbeat and my friend tested negative on the pg test. I am this friend's nanny and I work in her home. She knows Hubby and I plan to TTC come September. Would you wait (in case we succeed right away) or would you go ahead with your plans and keep it a secret for as long as you could? Or maybe you thought of a third option?
Thanks, ladies

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I wouldn't wait, and you won't be selfish. When I had my misscarriage, I didn't want everyone to stop all their plans for their families. But I also didn't want to hear if they were sucessful either, try and don't tell unless she asks, I assume that she knows you and hubby are going to start trying.

 

[seamonster]

I wouldn't wait, but I wouldn't rub it in her face if I did get pregnant right away.

 

[Linnis]

I personally wouldn't wait either. It is not your fault that she lost her baby.

Like BlueNovember said, if you do get pregnant right away don't be overly excited around her, break it to her gently and see how she reacts. Take your Qs on how to proceed from how she reacts.

 

[Beth1231]

Well...I will do my best to follow the advice given. This is strange, now I'm half looking forward to TTC and half hoping I don't succeed for a few months. Thank you, ladies for your comments.

 

[SweetBella]

i wouldn't wait! the Lord has different plans for all of us....