Would you marry someone you find physically unattractive?

[yam]

Nope, why married someone that you are not attracted to?

 

[briiiyonce]

no....but God knows who my mate is. and he probably matches everything i want physically ;D

 

[Kevin_Wright]

Sometimes I think it would be cool to be blind and dating. You could just imagine every chick is a super model!

 

[Quoth]

So this person's look (both body and face) happens to be a look that you find very unattractive. The thought of kissing this person and even seeing this person naked does not appeal to you at all. Would you still marry this person?

Blind post.

There would have to be a very compelling reason for me to be in a relationship with that person in the first place. A prerequisite to a relationship for me is that there be a mutual physical attraction. That does not mean that she has to cripple me with elation at the sheer awesomeness of her physical beauty, because I certainly don't expect that I would do the same for her. However, I do intend on having a healthy relationship with my wife, which means healthy sexual activity as well. That wouldn't work out so well if either of us is hesitant to get "up close and personal".

 

[Spirit_Star]

I can’t say I have heard of people who ended up with someone who they were not remotely attracted to but ended falling for the person because of the persons personality. Even ended up finding them attractive in some way though they didn’t have that when they first meet the person.

 

[Satt]

I can’t say I have heard of people who ended up with someone who they were not remotely attracted to but ended falling for the person because of the persons personality. Even ended up finding them attractive in some way though they didn’t have that when they first meet the person.

That is exactly my story.

 

[OGM]

That is exactly my story.

Do tell

 

[penNpaper]

I look for personality in a woman. Then when you get to know her better and have a good soft spot for...you going to fall in love with the physical looks.

Doesn't matter if my future wifey is a thin super model with an Texan accent or a 1,000 pound gal from Michigan...if she has an amazing personality, same beliefs, values, and morals...looks isn't important...I will love the woman doesn't matter waist size or even looks.

I will LOVE a woman for who she is whether pretty or "ugly" in the world's eyes.

God Bless,
Drew

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I don't think I would be interested if I could not find them attractive in some way, and likewise for them with me. I don't want someone to be with me even though I'm not a model type or what have you. I would want them to be attracted to me as well.

 

[BRISH]

So this person's look (both body and face) happens to be a look that you find very unattractive. The thought of kissing this person and even seeing this person naked does not appeal to you at all. Would you still marry this person?

No, let them go so they can find the person that sees them as overwhelmingly attractive.


What is attractive is defined within each person, in each situation.

 

[Satt]

Do tell

Well, since you asked...where to start...

I dated a girl named Cassy for a short time when I was visiting my dad for a month one summer. I was very good to her and when I left to go back home to my mom, she moved across the street from my future wife and started talking about me. (After she started dating someone else)

About a year later, my dad just happened to move in next door to Cassy. I met my wife when she was 13 and I was 16. I had run away from my mom and her crazy husband and was moving to Detroit to live with my dad. I met my then future wife (Lena) the first day I got there. After hearing about me from Cassy, she was “already in love” with me. (According to her)

Anyway, I didn’t like her at all. I wasn’t physically attracted to her and she was raised VERY different from how I was raised and I wasn’t having it. I was a very good kid and was raised in a very strict Christian home (until my step-dad came into the picture) and she was raised by a single dad who let her drink and smoke and basically, to summarize, we were complete opposites.

I completed my last two years of high school there. Lena actively pursued me the WHOLE time I lived there and I never gave her the time of day. But she never gave up no matter how much of a jerk I became to her. Over time though, we started hanging out together at Cassy’s house with her and her boyfriend. Lena and I became really close friends over the next two years. I still wasn’t very physically attracted to her, but she had the type of personality you couldn’t help but love. When she walks in a room (to this day), it is like the place comes alive! She has this natural feminine sexuality and shine about her. I can’t truly describe her personality in this post.

Anyway, I never intended to be with her although she told her friends that she would marry me one day. I left for the US Navy soon after high school and I assumed I would never see her or any of my crappy family ever again. She would later tell me that this was the hardest time of her life.

While I was in boot camp, she was the ONLY person who sent me letters. When I got out of boot and was in school, she would always call me no matter how much it cost her. (Not my family or anyone else though) Over time I finally started to realize what I had. Lena would love me and do anything for me no matter what happened. (Even if I didn’t show any interest) I would have been stupid to let her slip away.

We started actually dating while I was in the Navy. She would come to see me and sometimes I would drive to see her on a long weekend. I never asked her to marry me. We just sort of decided to get married one day. We got married on March 6, 2001. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made. She is the most wonderful person I have ever known.

It took time for me to be more physically attracted to her. She isn’t a supermodel, but neither am I. Over time I started to notice the “cute” little things about her and that made me even more attracted to her. We have been married almost 10 years now and our love for each other continues to grow continually. I thank God for her EVERY day!!!

So, in conclusion, no, I don’t think you have to be physically attracted to the right person for you in the beginning. If you just can’t get past the top layer and dig deeper, then maybe you should move on, or maybe you should try harder to dig deeper. I was immature when I first met Lena. I didn’t know what I needed at that age, but of course, God did.

 

[Kevin_Wright]

No, let them go so they can find the person that sees them as overwhelmingly attractive.


What is attractive is defined within each person, in each situation.

yeah thats true, ive noticed a lot of guys dont have my taste in women.

 

[lostaquarium]

Well, since you asked...where to start...

I dated a girl named Cassy for a short time when I was visiting my dad for a month one summer. I was very good to her and when I left to go back home to my mom, she moved across the street from my future wife and started talking about me. (After she started dating someone else)

About a year later, my dad just happened to move in next door to Cassy. I met my wife when she was 13 and I was 16. I had run away from my mom and her crazy husband and was moving to Detroit to live with my dad. I met my then future wife (Lena) the first day I got there. After hearing about me from Cassy, she was “already in love” with me. (According to her)

Anyway, I didn’t like her at all. I wasn’t physically attracted to her and she was raised VERY different from how I was raised and I wasn’t having it. I was a very good kid and was raised in a very strict Christian home (until my step-dad came into the picture) and she was raised by a single dad who let her drink and smoke and basically, to summarize, we were complete opposites.

I completed my last two years of high school there. Lena actively pursued me the WHOLE time I lived there and I never gave her the time of day. But she never gave up no matter how much of a jerk I became to her. Over time though, we started hanging out together at Cassy’s house with her and her boyfriend. Lena and I became really close friends over the next two years. I still wasn’t very physically attracted to her, but she had the type of personality you couldn’t help but love. When she walks in a room (to this day), it is like the place comes alive! She has this natural feminine sexuality and shine about her. I can’t truly describe her personality in this post.

Anyway, I never intended to be with her although she told her friends that she would marry me one day. I left for the US Navy soon after high school and I assumed I would never see her or any of my crappy family ever again. She would later tell me that this was the hardest time of her life.

While I was in boot camp, she was the ONLY person who sent me letters. When I got out of boot and was in school, she would always call me no matter how much it cost her. (Not my family or anyone else though) Over time I finally started to realize what I had. Lena would love me and do anything for me no matter what happened. (Even if I didn’t show any interest) I would have been stupid to let her slip away.

We started actually dating while I was in the Navy. She would come to see me and sometimes I would drive to see her on a long weekend. I never asked her to marry me. We just sort of decided to get married one day. We got married on March 6, 2001. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made. She is the most wonderful person I have ever known.

It took time for me to be more physically attracted to her. She isn’t a supermodel, but neither am I. Over time I started to notice the “cute” little things about her and that made me even more attracted to her. We have been married almost 10 years now and our love for each other continues to grow continually. I thank God for her EVERY day!!!

So, in conclusion, no, I don’t think you have to be physically attracted to the right person for you in the beginning. If you just can’t get past the top layer and dig deeper, then maybe you should move on, or maybe you should try harder to dig deeper. I was immature when I first met Lena. I didn’t know what I needed at that age, but of course, God did.

Wow, that's an incredible story. You're so blessed!

 

[MicArmstrong]

Interesting story, Satt.

 

[RobertMerton]

no
im a guy

perhaps yes when my hormones subdue