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QFT!Its hard for one to have self-confidence when one has been despised for his whole life by every girl in whom he has been interested. I'm getting better, but I assure you it is HARD TO DO. It's not like you can wake up one day and suddenly decide that you're awesome when all the evidence suggests otherwise. Or even, since coming to this forum, 90% of the evidence. And I would bet that Broken has had similar experience.
Obviously I don't act like I do here when I'm in front of women! This is how I "normally" act. When I'm in the presence of attractive women I get shades of 18th Century Nobility or something, lol.Maybe it has less to do with your looks and more to do with your lack of self confidence. Low self confidence is not attractive.
Yeah man I agree it's difficult and often feels "put on" more than usual. With my current state (of illness) I really can't do it very much at all. That doesn't mean I don't show flashes, though.Its hard for one to have self-confidence when one has been despised for his whole life by every girl in whom he has been interested. I'm getting better, but I assure you it is HARD TO DO. It's not like you can wake up one day and suddenly decide that you're awesome when all the evidence suggests otherwise. Or even, since coming to this forum, 90% of the evidence. And I would bet that Broken has had similar experience.
Its hard for one to have self-confidence when one has been despised for his whole life by every girl in whom he has been interested. I'm getting better, but I assure you it is HARD TO DO. It's not like you can wake up one day and suddenly decide that you're awesome when all the evidence suggests otherwise. Or even, since coming to this forum, 90% of the evidence. And I would bet that Broken has had similar experience.
Just a thought but if you're interested in girls who despise you, you probably need to re-order your preferences.
I have little pity for guys who moan and groan about how no girls like them when 1) I see girls right here on CF telling them over and over how handsome/great/awesome/nice/interesting they are, and 2) these guys refuse to accept that their own self-loathing and bitterness are probably what's keeping them single, because girls pick up on these things, and nobody wants to be around someone who doesn't value themselves. So what if you're ugly? SO WHAT? There's more to life than how many chicks you can hook up with! How about trying to find out what is good and valuable and worthwhile about yourself, and letting God use you, even if it's as a single man? Cheez whiz...this is what separates the men from the boys. Men don't sit around whining and crying, no matter how hard life seems, they suck it up and become stronger (note: stronger is not a synonym for bitter and jaded) and learn to make the best of what they've got, and be THANKFUL for every good thing God blesses them with, and do something good for the world around them. Men are selfless not selfish.
And all of that goes for the girls, too.
Sheesh, I'm older than 90% of you, and single, and you don't hear me crying and complaining about it, do you?
So this person's look (both body and face) happens to be a look that you find very unattractive. The thought of kissing this person and even seeing this person naked does not appeal to you at all. Would you still marry this person?
I have little pity for guys who moan and groan about how no girls like them when 1) I see girls right here on CF telling them over and over how handsome/great/awesome/nice/interesting they are, and 2) these guys refuse to accept that their own self-loathing and bitterness are probably what's keeping them single, because girls pick up on these things, and nobody wants to be around someone who doesn't value themselves. So what if you're ugly? SO WHAT? There's more to life than how many chicks you can hook up with! How about trying to find out what is good and valuable and worthwhile about yourself, and letting God use you, even if it's as a single man?
Sheesh, I'm older than 90% of you, and single, and you don't hear me crying and complaining about it, do you?
This!!I'm sure someone said it, but when I am with someone, or like someone, they are the sexiest guy EVVEEE! No question. No if ands or buts.
No I wouldn't marry someone who I find physically unattractive. I wouldn't want someone who didn't find me physically attractive to marry me.
P.s. I always wondered why God didn't make everyone attractive
So this person's look (both body and face) happens to be a look that you find very unattractive. The thought of kissing this person and even seeing this person naked does not appeal to you at all. Would you still marry this person?
You seem to be COMPLETELY missing our point on this. Nobody has said they whine or moan when attempting to date someone they like. If we like someone we will make the attempt and leave the drama at home, we are not going to just sit there telling the person all of our faults. You see it here because yes while there are many wonderful women here, the chances of any of us finding someone off this site is slim, sure it happens and marriages have come from it but we aren't here for a date. We are here to talk with others, sometimes that talk is about our problems, sometimes its about our good things. Judging us and assuming we are like this 24/7 is pretty sad.I have little pity for guys who moan and groan about how no girls like them when 1) I see girls right here on CF telling them over and over how handsome/great/awesome/nice/interesting they are, and 2) these guys refuse to accept that their own self-loathing and bitterness are probably what's keeping them single, because girls pick up on these things, and nobody wants to be around someone who doesn't value themselves. So what if you're ugly? SO WHAT? There's more to life than how many chicks you can hook up with! How about trying to find out what is good and valuable and worthwhile about yourself, and letting God use you, even if it's as a single man? Cheez whiz...this is what separates the men from the boys. Men don't sit around whining and crying, no matter how hard life seems, they suck it up and become stronger (note: stronger is not a synonym for bitter and jaded) and learn to make the best of what they've got, and be THANKFUL for every good thing God blesses them with, and do something good for the world around them. Men are selfless not selfish.
And all of that goes for the girls, too.
Sheesh, I'm older than 90% of you, and single, and you don't hear me crying and complaining about it, do you?
Sorry but I have to disagree, she was clearing trashing on us...Nakor, I don't believe she was trashing you. I think that is a harsh word to use for her comment.
I am sorry that you have gone through things like that with the women in your life. I am sorry to hear all the negative experiences you have had with women. But, I like to point out something if you don't mind. You made a choice to be with that woman. You had a choice to not get back in when you know how much of your life she sucked away. I know it is easy to say this. I say this to women as well when they have abusive boyfriends or husbands. But, I've never been in that position to know what it is truly like so my words might not matter at all. But, now you have that chance to get away from it. You are on that path. Don't be upset about what others say. Your life is in your hands. Always. Take hold of it. I hate seeing people like this. I know that I have gone through many things in my life, and doubted God and why he wasn't there. But He always was. I was just to upset to look at it. I was to hurt to feel Him near me.
I don't like seeing you like this. I hope you feel better!
2) these guys refuse to accept that their own self-loathing and bitterness are probably what's keeping them single, because girls pick up on these things, and nobody wants to be around someone who doesn't value themselves.
Men don't sit around whining and crying, no matter how hard life seems, they suck it up and become stronger
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