Would you marry someone you find physically unattractive?

[MicArmstrong]

So this person's look (both body and face) happens to be a look that you find very unattractive. The thought of kissing this person and even seeing this person naked does not appeal to you at all. Would you still marry this person?

 

[Fremdin]

Does this person have any redeeming quality aside from looks?

 

[Keri]

So this person's look (both body and face) happens to be a look that you find very unattractive. The thought of kissing this person and even seeing this person naked does not appeal to you at all. Would you still marry this person?

No.

But....
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So even if other people don't find someone attractive, and I do, that's all that matters. I do have to be attracted to them. I wouldn't want to marry someone I can't stand to look at.

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

Nope.

Kissing and nakedness are only part of the package of marriage of course, but its a big enough part to rule out the above person I'm afraid.

Perception of attractiveness can change, though. Someone you didn't find too appealing at first can become more appealing over time. If I didn't start finding reasons to be attracted to the person pretty quickly, though, it'd be best to let it go.

 

[broken_one]

Nope.

 

[septemberskies]

I wouldn't... I mean put the shoe on the other foot. I would want my husband to desire me and find me attractive. I wouldn't want to feel as though he "settled" for me when he could have had someone else.

 

[broken_one]

I wouldn't want to feel as though he "settled" for me when he could have had someone else.

*is probably going to have to settle*

 

[lostaquarium]

I don't know. Depends on the degree. If I'm physically repulsed by him, then I definitely wouldn't marry him. But if he's average, if I know he's not the epitome of what I'm attracted to, but he's alright, then I would.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

No. I think if you truly love someone then you would find them physically attractive.

 

[Blank123]

no, and in this culture i don't see how that would ever be an issue.

 

[MacFall]

No. Could be a flaw on my part, but no. I could not do that. I have a broad range of what I am attracted to compared to most people, but physical attraction is still a requirement for me.

 

[MacFall]

*is probably going to have to settle*

I've decided I'm not going to do that. Maybe I tend to be attracted to women who are out of my league, but I'm not going to settle for someone to whom I am not attracted. I would either have to lie to her, or hurt her by my lack of desire for her. I will not do that. If that means being celibate for the rest of my life... well, God's going to have to work very closely with me on that, but it's what I will do.

 

[visionary]

What makes you attracted to said "unattractive" person. The attraction makes that person attractive to you and that is all that counts.

 

[MacFall]

What makes you attracted to said "unattractive" person. The attraction makes that person attractive to you and that is all that counts.

But the question was about physical attraction specifically. For someone to be genuinely attracted to someone whom they found physically unattractive, he or she would have to have no capacity for physical attraction in the first place. Which means the other person would have to be free of physical desire for that relationship to work, otherwise their end of the partnership would not be fulfilled, even if the other person went through the motions of physical intimacy.

 

[LadyL]

I wouldn't... I mean put the shoe on the other foot. I would want my husband to desire me and find me attractive. I wouldn't want to feel as though he "settled" for me when he could have had someone else.

THIS

No. I think if you truly love someone then you would find them physically attractive.

and THIS

I could not marry someone who I was not in love with. And if I'm in love with that person, I'd guess to say that any slight physical flaw would already be addressed as I'd love that person completely.

Let me add that I've liked a few physically unnattractive guys before, it was their personalities that made all the difference. And while I liked them, their physical flaws were not an issue for me.

 

[Inkachu]

Probably not. But I need to add that 1) it's VERY rare that I find any man really "ugly" and 2) if someone touches my heart, their appearance means less and less to me.

 

[visionary]

But the question was about physical attraction specifically. For someone to be genuinely attracted to someone whom they found physically unattractive, he or she would have to have no capacity for physical attraction in the first place. Which means the other person would have to be free of physical desire for that relationship to work, otherwise their end of the partnership would not be fulfilled, even if the other person went through the motions of physical intimacy.

I have had people not see what I see as "attractive" in another person. But I have found that person extremely attractive and interesting. Usually because they remind me of my favorite relative.. whom I admire.

 

[MacFall]

Well good, that means that you aren't picky about your partner's looks. But you are still physically attracted to those people despite the flaws that others see, correct?

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

no

 

[Im_A]

So this person's look (both body and face) happens to be a look that you find very unattractive. The thought of kissing this person and even seeing this person naked does not appeal to you at all. Would you still marry this person?

Absolutely...positively...NO