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I would have thought so, but some here seem to have a genuine problem with promiscuous people being rejected romanticallyAs far as I can tell, no one here is saying that any Christian has to marry any other Christian. The whole locus of this thread, also as far as I can tell, has mainly been to exemplify a proper answer to the question: "If I wanted to, would it be ok to marry a Christian woman who was a former SW?"
And that was it. But here thus far, it seems tangents in this thread have been introduced and gotten out of hand, devolving more or less it into a needless "contest of rights."
It's not easy to avoid adding moral judgments to sins Christ has already forgiven.What is simple but not easy? The std test?
Yeah avoiding a disease is a medical issue.It's not easy to avoid adding moral judgments to sins Christ has already forgiven.
Beauty is the price of admission. It's not why I marry, though ugly and obese can be a show stopper. But that's because both can be caused by lifestyle. When I married my wife, I married the person within her body, and since her body was 43 years old I could tell how she took care of it. But the reason I wanted her was the person inside. And we've been married over 25 years and it only gets better. I honestly never had any expectations that it could be anywhere near this good.She’s beautiful and have great traits you would want in a Godly women
I look at forgiveness this way: You can forgive a lion for eating one of your children, but it's really stupid to continue to let the rest of your kids play around it.It's not easy to avoid adding moral judgments to sins Christ has already forgiven.
Well, that's an interesting comparison. Most people gain weight after marriage. Many actually get fat. So, now their sinning in the marriage, isn't that worse than someone having committed that sin before the marriage?
By your thinking, shouldn't Christians divorce their spouses if their spouses gain weight?
Here is the thing: There may well be earthly consequences to the actions of an unbeliever. Those consequences may be life-long. But under the ethics of Christianity, Christians should not add moral consequences after a person has become a believer and repented.
There are just as many situations where a woman can wake up with an STD from her partner. Maybe a godly woman should find out about her male partner's past before making a commitment to him.Yeah that’s all fine and dandy until you wake up with herpes, warts or HIV.
Yes, if they have shown the fruit of repentance over a reasonable period of time that would validate the genuineness of their conversion to Christ. It is then up to the person to voluntarily disclose their past if it is deemed to have complete honesty in the relationship. That would take faith and trust that the relationship is strong enough to cope with it.Do you believe it is the duty of all Christians to ignore someone's past if they've repented of the action?
I would have thought so, but some here seem to have a genuine problem with promiscuous people being rejected romantically
So there is a duty for men and women to overlook bad decisions, sins and evil committed by someone, if they've genuinely repented? When it comes to marriage?Yes, if they have shown the fruit of repentance over a reasonable period of time that would validate the genuineness of their conversion to Christ. It is then up to the person to voluntarily disclose their past if it is deemed to have complete honesty in the relationship. That would take faith and trust that the relationship is strong enough to cope with it.
Internet is an illusion where invisible people gather and minorites and outcasts can find a home that makes them seem the majority.I notice they only act like that online and never in real life.
Or if we do, we don't have to have sex with them, although that may more appeal to the older crowd lol. They usually know the meaning of friendship. Besides marriage just 'legalizes' a lot of things that might otherwise be found distasteful.That we should forgive our brothers and sisters. But we don't have to marry them
What would be signs she hasn’t healed?If she hasn't healed from her past, before marriage, I would recommend her to a Christian psychologist, or bring her to a pastor or priest. Some people get scarred for life. But hey, we all have scars. Just as long as she doesn't repeat any mistakes or goes back into that industry.
Not anyone specifically but it's an attitude I notice that comes up whenever this question is discussed online.Do you mean me? I'm sorry Brother. I just felt ripped off was all. We're supposed to get one virgin wife and till death do us part. Imagine my surprise when we consumated our marriage and I instantly knew that someone had stolen something from me.
It does give me a problem with promiscuous people that I would reject. Why would I want to get married to an ex SW? Is there an advantage to that? Is there risk to that? Yes there is risk. The world is full of people. There is not a wrongness in saying no I dont want to date or marry to a girl. Any girl. I mean, am I free to choose my own Wife or not?
It isnt any kind of discrimination or political correctness, thats malarky. Forget about that. You can't possibly think that I would be obligated to marry the girl who had been a SW? There's maybe 6 billion women who do not have a husband (if the women outnumber the men like they say cuz the men die in wars and fights and all that but I dont know the exact figures. But no man is without a wife if he wants one. And no one has to pay for it, Lol! Except wives are much more expensive than hookers are by far. But it's not the money that counts anyway!
Because the money is simply a means to an end. If the end goal is a Marriage to a nice woman, then ok you have to work and buy her a place to live and feed her and protect her. So when a man gets off work, his day isnt over! It has now just begun. I got the means to the end done for the day and am now home with my wife & family. She worked all day too, right? cleaning, watching kids whatever. That's admirable. Every man wants that family.
I could not say yes to an ex SW. That she would be missing a very large part of what I consider to be a "Wife". There's too much risk.
I'd try to do anything for the girl. To help her and not to judge her beyond would I want a wife like that? (Prolly not, ya know?) or to pray for the girl. But Marry her? How big could that can of worms be?!
Girls that do not have that spirit of Lust that undoubtably come with the territory of SW are easier and more pleasant girls to be around, in mine own experience. A young man may have enough oats to be able to marry that SW and keep her in line (for the Husbands health safety and to keep the Marriage undefiled...)
It's no offense to SW's but somehow, I was raised to not go in for those type girls
That we should forgive our brothers and sisters. But we don't have to marry them
Not anyone specifically but it's an attitude I notice that comes up whenever this question is discussed online.
It places an undue burden on someone to accept as marriage material someone who violated what is supposed to be in marriage. It almost reverses the guilt and places it on the person doing the rejection, not understanding that this is merely the consequence of your past actions.
That we are not entitled to be accepted as anything more than brothers or sisters in Christ. That is an obligation we have, to accept as fellow Christians those who have strayed, but we are not obligated to marry them. Nor should we be guilted for desiring something that is good (non promiscuity).
I also notice the same people who argue along these lines carve out exceptions for sins they in particular cannot accept. Such as physical abuse. Promiscuity cannot be held against a woman, but violence can be held against a man. There is a definite bias at play here.
Either we accept there are preferences that each person is allowed to have, or we have no discrimination against anyone for any sin. The latter being impossible, means we should rely on the former. Sex workers should understand that most men are going to not want to marry them and that in turn should serve as a warning to other women not to engage in it.
What is simple but not easy? The std test?
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