Would you date...

[.Mikha'el.]

...someone who uses recreational drugs on an irregular basis and only at social parties?

By the way, no I do not take drugs before anyone thinks that lol.

No.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

weed is decriminalized here. I wouldn't date someone who smokes it though. unless it were for medicinal purposes and even then.... if his health was that bad i'd probably question if he'd be able to be all in in a relationship.

my reasoning is if the Bible calls us to be soberminded and to avoid getting drunk, but be filled with the Holy Spirit, then the spirit of those passages would also refer to other substances which mess with your inhibitions and mind. i just see no good reason for a Christian to smoke it, and I wouldn't date a nonChristian.

Someone decriminalized weed in AB, Shari?

 

[Touma]

Question for people who simply said no: why do you say no? Would you be alright with a social smoker/drinker?

 

[Sonfest Rocker]

I drink alcohol and socialy smoke when I am with certian friends. But i draw the line at anyone who does drugs. My best friend and i had a discussion and as we have a friend that smokes weed. I will not even hang out with him as a friend. i have had people that smoke weed hit on me and i wont have that at all.. I do have some friends that smoke it but they have there life undercontrol and understand my views on it.

 

[mina]

social smoker=no
social drinker= I don't mind

I said no intialy b/c I've been friends with several people who have done drugs socially/at parties only, etc.... and over a period of time and the frequency that they party they become hard to talk to or have a conversation with and that's not attractive to me. Anyways it's easier to find someone who doesn't do drugs at all to date, so I went that route.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Social drinker is fine, social smoker of anything I would never do.

 

[hana14]

Nope. Social drinking is fine though.

 

[ks777]

I laugh at the idea that drinking is fine because it's legal but smoking isn't because it's illegal, to be honest alcohol seems more dangerous than smoking. However, I also agree that irregular social drinking is acceptable and smoking isn't for two reasons, one; smoking anything is pretty disgusting and a huge turn off to see, whereas drinking some wine out of a fancy glass is classy. And secondly, you can have a drink or two and not be drunk. I've never smoked so maybe someone can prove me wrong, but even a single bong hit has the potential to get you pretty smashed, there's no amount you can have without it altering your mind in some way. Some might argue alcohol does the same, but I don't think it's nearly as intense.

Having said that, if I really liked them I probably still would date them, but I'd encourage them not to. And if it develops into a problem for me I'll just cut my losses and date someone else lol.

 

[Schneiderman]

And secondly, you can have a drink or two and not be drunk. I've never smoked so maybe someone can prove me wrong, but even a single bong hit has the potential to get you pretty smashed, there's no amount you can have without it altering your mind in some way. Some might argue alcohol does the same, but I don't think it's nearly as intense.

I've never smoked either, but I work in the music industry and I am around people who smoke all the time. In my extensive experience with being around people who are either drunk or high on something or both, I am confident in saying that the intoxicating effects of alcohol are more apparent to the observer and have more potential to be dangerous than marijuana as well as many other illegal drugs.

 

[ks777]

I've never smoked either, but I work in the music industry and I am around people who smoke all the time. In my extensive experience with being around people who are either drunk or high on something or both, I am confident in saying that the intoxicating effects of alcohol are more apparent to the observer and have more potential to be dangerous than marijuana as well as many other illegal drugs.

I agree, my friends do a lot of both and when they're high they just seem to sit around and eat, whereas alcohol makes them want to start fights.

 

[Stravinsk]

Interesting discussion that's followed.

I said no primarily because of my past narcotics problem.

If that didn't exist - I'd have little problem with someone who smoked weed now and again - as opposed to someone who - say - does shots of spirits chased by cans of Red Bull. I've heard some crazy stories of how crazy people can get just doing this. Super drunk+super agro = not a good combination from a health perspective as well as a spiritual and social perspective.

 

[tapi]

Maybe. Maybe.

Marihuana once and then might be okay, as I'm most certain it's actually way less damaging and dangerous than alcohol for example.. something more potent.. in all likelyhood not.

 

[leothelioness]

...someone who uses recreational drugs on an irregular basis and only at social parties?

By the way, no I do not take drugs before anyone thinks that lol.

No, never.

 

[LOCO]

...someone who uses recreational drugs on an irregular basis and only at social parties?

By the way, no I do not take drugs before anyone thinks that lol.

No...we need to be discerning. Recreational use of drugs usually leads to more serious forms of drug use and addiction, it impairs judgment, work and social relationships.

 

[MacFall]

Drugs that are relatively harmless compared to legal ones (cannabis, MDMA to name a couple), I'd probably be okay with as long as she only used them occasionally and moderately. Anything "hard" - no.

Although I think that alcohol is actually one of the "hard"est drugs out there, so maybe that's not a very consistent position.

 

[MacFall]

No...we need to be discerning. Recreational use of drugs usually leads to more serious forms of drug use and addiction

Not really. People who are inclined towards abuse and addiction almost never start in easy. And the whole "gateway drug" thing is a myth. It is true that most hard drug users also use soft drugs, but it is NOT true that most soft drug users also use hard drugs.

it impairs judgment, work and social relationships.

IF one uses to excess and is addicted. Which is by no means a given. Certainly, there are drugs that cannot be used responsibly - but there are many that can. And there are many people who use drugs and do not abuse them.

That is not to say that using drugs at all is a good thing, but I find that many people, especially Christians, tend to view all drug use as "dirty" and reckless, and make unfair prejudgements based on that conceit. There's a pretty good chance that someone you respect smokes pot, or takes MDMA, or eats the occasional psilocybin mushroom or the like. You don't know about it because he/she is a responsible user.

 

[Thunder Peel]

I'm just posting in here so the forum will read "Would You Date Thunder Peel".

 

[LOCO]

Not really. People who are inclined towards abuse and addiction almost never start in easy. And the whole "gateway drug" thing is a myth. It is true that most hard drug users also use soft drugs, but it is NOT true that most soft drug users also use hard drugs.

IF one uses to excess and is addicted. Which is by no means a given. Certainly, there are drugs that cannot be used responsibly - but there are many that can. And there are many people who use drugs and do not abuse them.

That is not to say that using drugs at all is a good thing, but I find that many people, especially Christians, tend to view all drug use as "dirty" and reckless, and make unfair prejudgements based on that conceit. There's a pretty good chance that someone you respect smokes pot, or takes MDMA, or eats the occasional psilocybin mushroom or the like. You don't know about it because he/she is a responsible user.

Hello Macfall,


There is no such thing as a responsible user of an illegal drug.

As Christians we should obey the laws of the land.

We take this train of thought a little further 'oh well, what harm is it doing to you, I can function', and we stray into moral relativism. A common statement you hear is “What is true for you is not necessarily true for me.” This is a cleverly disguised way of saying that man can make up his own rules on what is right and wrong, IOW, there is no truth.

Truth exists.



'The truth is the truth even if no-one believes it, a lie is still a lie even if everyone believes it - Archbishop Fulton-Sheen

 

[ks777]

As Christians we should obey the laws of the land.

Personally I think that's a very corrupt translation. And I thought this picture from the brick testament from Romans 13 was relevent

 

[LOCO]

Personally I think that's a very corrupt translation. And I thought this picture from the brick testament from Romans 13 was relevent

What does this have to do with the price of fish in China.

Are you arguing that obeying the law which prohibits the use of illegal drugs leads to a Nazi State? That is a fallacy.


"We are moving towards a dictatorship of relativism which does not recognize anything as for certain and which has as its highest goal one’s own ego and one’s own desires." Cardinal Ratzinger