Would you date someone who didn't find you physically attractive -- a BETTER poll!

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Poll coming.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Edited as so not to skew the results.

 

[white dove]

Woman: No.

 

[metherion]

I am a man. No I would not.

I want someone to love me, ALL of me, including my appearance. Plus, a lack of physical attraction would PROBABLY wind up having a negative effect on anything in the bedroom should things get that far. That would be a huge negative for both of us.

Metherion

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I am married so my dating days are over, but I voted "no" because that's what I would have said when I was single.

 

[explodingboy]

man, and would, as stated in the other threads on the same topic. I don't tend to be physically drawn to anyone (bar Sigourney Weaver but lets face it, she's very out of my league.) physicall appreciation comes to me from knowing the personality and other such traits of a person.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I don't know. I'm not sure it'd be that simple.

 

[CrusaderKing]

Why would I date someone that I didn't find attractive? I'm a man and I voted no.

 

[~Lynz~]

i think u have to find some one physically attractive to want to be with them and do the stuff married people do.
saying that i have dated guys who i didnt find realy attractive. but it only lasted a few months. there was no urge to go further with the relationship. whats the point in going out with some one when all u do it talk. u want to want to kiss and hold them all day long.

 

[Rhye]

I said it in the other thread, I'll say it here.

I want him to think I'm hot and only have eyes for me. Thats it. I don't see it any other way.

I want that for him too, of course. And willlll!!!!

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Yes I'll agree with you. I'm married too but if i was single i wouldn't date someone unattractive for me. But maybe someone can be more interesting if have some of this gadgets mytinygadget.com. Take a look they are free and interesting. All you need to do is to fill some survey.

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[ProAntiRevolution]

It's really like any other standards issue. If you never get attention from males/females you find attractive then it's probably because you aren't attractive enough to warrant it. At that point you have to make a decision: create a realistic standard, or be alone.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I think being alone would be better than being with someone who didn't find you attractive.

 

[Rhye]

It's really like any other standards issue. If you never get attention from males/females you find attractive then it's probably because you aren't attractive enough to warrant it. At that point you have to make a decision: create a realistic standard, or be alone.

Hey! What's wrong with wanting to look hot in his eyes?


But, seriously, the answer is no. I think if anything, I would want to be something to him. And if he is dating me, I am sure he sees something that he likes or he would not date me. Unless, personality really outshines everything else, and because of that, physical attractiveness grows stronger.
Thats usually the case for me. I tend to end up thinking someone is better looking the more I get to know them. That little scar on the right side of the cheek always ends up looking sexier.

 

[ProAntiRevolution]

Hey! What's wrong with wanting to look hot in his eyes?


But, seriously, the answer is no. I think if anything, I would want to be something to him. And if he is dating me, I am sure he sees something that he likes or he would not date me. Unless, personality really outshines everything else, and because of that, physical attractiveness grows stronger.
Thats usually the case for me. I tend to end up thinking someone is better looking the more I get to know them. That little scar on the right side of the cheek always ends up looking sexier.

Well, nothing is wrong with it. It's just sort of like this: if you refuse to date someone you don't find attractive, but no one you do find attractive will date you then you've got a problem. Now, personally I agree with you. I've known some girls that looked very attractive, but once you got to know them the obvious personality deficiencies made them rather unattractive. At the same time someone that wasn't so physically attractive might be seen in a new light once you get to know them. I'm not saying every good looking person has a horrible personality either, and everyone that's ugly as sin is just the salt of the earth.

I just think that whole "I have eyes only for you" thing comes from the whole person, not just their physical appearance.

 

[Rhye]

I just think that whole "I have eyes only for you" thing comes from the whole person, not just their physical appearance.

Of course, and that takes time, and something you build with each other. Its never one time thing, nor can it always happen continually. And "eyes for you," thing is usually not just physical really...its so much deeper then that.

 

[xDenax]

I didn't see this so I answered the other one. Anyway, nope.

 

[Inkachu]

We need to differentiate between "doesn't think I'm bikini-model material" and "thinks I'm so repulsive he gags everytime we're together".

The first one, sure I'd date him, if he geniunely liked/loved me and didn't care about outer shell so much (I voted yes in the poll along this line of thinking). There are soooo many couples out there who are just plain ol' average-looking people, and they love each other, and that's all they care about. To think that you just can't love a person who isn't smashingly hot on the outside...is such a disservice to our humanity and the possible depth with which we CAN live if we choose to.

If the second one...umm...why would he even ask me out if he couldn't hold his lunch around me?

 

[leothelioness]

I voted no.

 

[Blank123]

woman: no. He doesn't have to be a supermodel, and he doesn't have to be attractive to everyone else. But he will have to be attractive to me