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Would you date/marry someone with drug problems?

Would you date/marry someone with drug problems?

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Stravinsk

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You're preaching to someone who heavily used drugs from age 15-22, Coach. Not just a toke on a joint now and again. A daily habit, with harder drugs in the latter years. I do not struggle with this addiction, it is years in the past - but just to make sure - I make nor keep no friends who use narcotics at all.
 
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speak for yourself. i know from personal experience and other testimonies that there is freedom from addictions. the temptations are what never go away.
 
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So the blood of Jesus can't deliver you? I believe it can.

I smoked crack for years, before that snorted cocaine, will never touch it again. Have no desire at all for it.... So I know that God can deliver you from addiction.
 
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It all depends on the type of drugs they're using and how production they are in quitting. If someone drinks or smokes, it would be frowned upon, but not a deal breaker. If they did meth or cocaine, I would have to be assured that it was 100% in their past.
 
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Yes, God can and does deliver us... but the consequences of our past is still there. Even if it becomes easy, the addiction never goes away, which is why like Stravinsk said, you keep your self away from that culture so not even the temptation arises. Alcoholics don't go to a party and think "I am delivered from my addiction now, so I will have a few drinks and be ok!" The addiction creeps back to the surface and controls them again.

I am not saying people can not and do not receive deliverance from addiction. I am saying it is silly to pretend the addiction truly goes away.

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Then you doubt the power of God.
 
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Then you doubt the power of God.

It's not doubting God, it's simple science that's been proven time and time again. If it were so true, why would things like AA advocate not spending time at alcohol-soaked parties and never drinking again, even socially?
 
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I'm not doubting anything. Even Paul talked about the daily struggles with the sin nature in himself. God delivered Paul from a life of sin and persecution and set him on a path of being one of the greatest preachers of the Word the world has ever known. Yet, because of sin in this world, he never escaped the consequences of sin.

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It's not doubting God, it's simple science that's been proven time and time again. If it were so true, why would things like AA advocate not spending time at alcohol-soaked parties and never drinking again, even socially?

AA also will allow you to have a pillow as a higher power. God is bigger than your addiction.
 
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AA also will allow you to have a pillow as a higher power. God is bigger than your addiction.

AA is proven to have some sucsess with alcoholics; religion, not so much.

Personally, I think it's a little irresponsible to suggest or insinuate that if people just pray hard enough they'll be cured of their addictions; or that if one is struggling with an addiction, they're just not religious enough. Considering I am assuming you are not Dr. Drew, I have to assume that you are providing us with only anecdotal evidence and limited personal experience (one does not speak for all), and no real studies or statistical evidence to show prayer (or similar) cures addiction.

It wasn't cool when Hume told Tiger he should just become a Christian to cure his sex addiction, and it's just as uncool to advocate religion as therapy on a public forum.
 
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I just don't understand how a rejection over drug use, and maybe even the past, is a Christian's way of judging their relation with God. Since when did a romantic denial have anything to do with theology?
 
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But the praying thing sounds so much easier than having to do all 12 steps, you're killing me here.
 
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What it really boils down to is many Christians have been duped into believing that all they have to do is pray, sit back, be lazy, do nothing, and everything will be magically taken care of.

God gave the Isrealites the promised land, but he made them work for it and earn it. He will give us the strength to overcome our sins, but God has never totally just removed sin from the world.

So What I am saying is simply that God will give us the strength and power to overcome addiction. We still have to do our part as well, such as staying away from the people/places that have the biggest influence on making the wrong choices.

Sorry, but God is not a vending machine, where you simply put a prayer in and get whatever you want back out.

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It is an ironic thing to think that some people that claim complete addiction recovery(note this is not aimed at anyone in the thread directly since I have no way of knowing such a thing, if some people do feel it is aimed at them, well I guess the shoe fits as far as I'm concerned) nine times out of ten, or all of them, no longer hang around their crack addict friends, the bars etc. So it seems ironic that some would go the route to proclaim themselves, 'not of the norm addicts' because they've done the smart thing to take away the outside agents that will lead them to relapse.

I also know a guy that quit drinking cold turkey and still goes to bars for his pool league that he's in and to hang out with his work friends. Its been 3 years since he's drank and that was a year ago the last I knew. With that said though, several years of break doesn't mean he won't relapse so only time can tell I suppose. The relapse is the sign of substance addiction.

The counselor that I had when I got my OVI, that guy still calls himself an alcoholic even though he has not had a sip of alcohol in over 10 years(note this was not AA. I will never go to AA because of the religious connotation and quitting and addictive substance). That right there, makes me trust his opinion of myself and the issue I had and how he saw me since it was based on him on how I would be perceived by the courts of the county of the state I was in, and made me trust his opinions on the topic more when I was younger. I typically don't put too much stock into miracle stories with addiction.
 
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