Would a Christian man date an ex-prostitute.

[LittleladyinChrist]

I (almost) certainly would not be able to do so. I am not saying there's necessarily a good reason not to, or that repentance is not 100%, but the simple truth is that the pandering lifestyle is horribly hard on the human body. There's just no way to live as a prostitute and not pick up at least one, if not more, permanent sexually transmitted diseases. I just don't think I could take that on.

It sounds to me like you really dont know anybetter and are speaking out of a stereotype you have for "people like that"

 

[LittleladyinChrist]

It's people like LittleladyinChrist that I want to hear preaching from the pulpit.

LOL, take it back. You dont want to see any lady taking a mans role. But thats a whooole nother subject.

 

[Gimpy]

I love all prostitutes.

 

[LittleladyinChrist]

I guess I'll add my two cents.

No, I would not date a Christian woman who while as an unbeliever was a prostitute. Why? Because when a person falls into such things when there is no fear of heavenly judgment, that is a demonstration of her innate person. I would prefer a woman who by nature does the things written in the law, who although without the law was a law to herself, showing it written in her heart, whose conscience bears witness. Romans 2:14-15. All may be wiped clean, but all do not become the same. What happens if she backslides? What happens if she just becomes extremely desperate for cash?

So you want a "good" Christian, who was saved all her life, but doesnt know how?

Confused,

Alicia

 

[simmeringabsolute]

So you want a "good" Christian, who was saved all her life, but doesnt know how?

Confused,

Alicia

Just because a woman lives virtuously does not mean she is saved. What I meant is that I would prefer a Christian woman who even if she was an unbeliever at some point and had no fear of heavenly judgment would still have had her conscience press upon her that being a prostitute is severely wrong -- that deception is wrong -- that abortion is wrong, etc. And then have the will and strength to do the right thing according to her conscience not because she desires Heaven or fears God and Hell, but because it's merely the right thing to do. Becoming saved does not suddenly remove the tendencies in a person's heart.

 

[Luther073082]

I guess I'll add my two cents.

No, I would not date a Christian woman who while as an unbeliever was a prostitute. Why? Because when a person falls into such things when there is no fear of heavenly judgment, that is a demonstration of her innate person. I would prefer a woman who by nature does the things written in the law, who although without the law was a law to herself, showing it written in her heart, whose conscience bears witness. Romans 2:14-15. All may be wiped clean, but all do not become the same. What happens if she backslides? What happens if she just becomes extremely desperate for cash?

I was an atheist til I was 19. I've only been a Christian roughly 4 years. What happens if I backslide? What happens if I feel like God has abandoned me? Should a good Christian girl who was raised in the church (unlike) me avoid dating me because my parents didn't bring me up in the church??? That smells of elitism, I wasn't brought up in the church never went to sunday school, wasn't part of the youth group or went on a mission trip so therefore I'll never be as good as those who have!

You know thats a ridiculous reason.

When I was 13 I mocked the bible. I remember picking it and reading an laughing at it. Its the most painful experience I have. So should a Christian girl who was raised in the church avoid me then? If you ask me my sin of mocking God and denying him for most of my life is a far worse sin then prostitution. A prostitute sins against her body and her future husband (this is true) but I sinned against God, I MOCKED God and his word. Are you sure that your fear of a former prostitute is not a worldly standard applied to her?

I understand that you could have some issues that may cause you not to. But I think you should at least admit that these issues are yours and not hers. I admit I might have a problem, but my problems would be my own ego, jealousy, and fears. Not her sins.

 

[overit]

Edit, luther I dont' think that should be held against you but people will choose who they choose.

Also, on a quick side note, in reading 1 Cor 6:18 or even 1 Thes 4:3-7....there is no scriptural backing that prostitution or fornication is a sin against the future spouse, it's only against our own bodies and God. Thought I'd point that out because I hear that alot on these forums, mainly taken from I think Josh Harris's book but there is not backing in the Bible for that assumption.

 

[simmeringabsolute]

I was an atheist til I was 19. I've only been a Christian roughly 4 years. What happens if I backslide? What happens if I feel like God has abandoned me? Should a good Christian girl who was raised in the church (unlike) me avoid dating me because my parents didn't bring me up in the church??? That smells of elitism, I wasn't brought up in the church never went to sunday school, wasn't part of the youth group or went on a mission trip so therefore I'll never be as good as those who have!

You know thats a ridiculous reason.

When I was 13 I mocked the bible. I remember picking it and reading an laughing at it. Its the most painful experience I have. So should a Christian girl who was raised in the church avoid me then? If you ask me my sin of mocking God and denying him for most of my life is a far worse sin then prostitution. A prostitute sins against her body and her future husband (this is true) but I sinned against God, I MOCKED God and his word. Are you sure that your fear of a former prostitute is not a worldly standard applied to her?

I understand that you could have some issues that may cause you not to. But I think you should at least admit that these issues are yours and not hers. I admit I might have a problem, but my problems would be my own ego, jealousy, and fears. Not her sins.

If you had not quoted my post, I would have no clue you were replying to me. I believe you have completely missed the point of what I wrote.

And, by the way, the message of my post was not dependent on the woman some time in the future backsliding or becoming desperate. Even if I had guarantees those things would never happen, I would still not date an ex-prostitute. It's not about future acts, but about the kind of person I am willing to knowingly bind myself to for life in such a way.

 

[jubilationtcornpone]

There's just no way to live as a prostitute and not pick up at least one, if not more, permanent sexually transmitted diseases. I just don't think I could take that on.

I wouldn't make that an absolute claim. It would depend on a good number of factors -- how long they were in the business, for example.

Is there a certain risk? No doubt. I don't think we should accept it as a foregone conclusion, though.

 

[neilius73]

What if the Lord has saved a woman who used to be an escort, and he cleaned her up and now she is a Christian woman who loves the Lord and follows hard on Him. Could a Chrisitan man ever see that she is a brand new creature? Just wondering. Thanks.

It's amazing the change that becoming a Christian can have in anyone's life. I don't see any reason why not.
When we repent, we have a clean slate so to speak.

 

[Sketcher]

I was an atheist til I was 19. I've only been a Christian roughly 4 years. What happens if I backslide? What happens if I feel like God has abandoned me? Should a good Christian girl who was raised in the church (unlike) me avoid dating me because my parents didn't bring me up in the church??? That smells of elitism, I wasn't brought up in the church never went to sunday school, wasn't part of the youth group or went on a mission trip so therefore I'll never be as good as those who have!

You know thats a ridiculous reason.

When I was 13 I mocked the bible. I remember picking it and reading an laughing at it. Its the most painful experience I have. So should a Christian girl who was raised in the church avoid me then? If you ask me my sin of mocking God and denying him for most of my life is a far worse sin then prostitution. A prostitute sins against her body and her future husband (this is true) but I sinned against God, I MOCKED God and his word. Are you sure that your fear of a former prostitute is not a worldly standard applied to her?

I understand that you could have some issues that may cause you not to. But I think you should at least admit that these issues are yours and not hers. I admit I might have a problem, but my problems would be my own ego, jealousy, and fears. Not her sins.

I understand what you're saying, but at least from testimonies that I've heard, Christians that come out of a life with a lot of sex, drugs, alcoholism, etc are more likely to return to these sins than a former atheist would to atheism. Many don't, thankfully. And being as this sister has been away from "the life" for 5 years, I'd say the chances are very remote. But I've seen people whose main sins were addictive vices such as sex and substance abuse go back into that lifestyle as young Christians and this backs up the things I've heard about this phenomenon in the pulpit. I wouldn't say this guy's fear is totally unfounded.

 

[Gardener101]

I understand what you're saying, but at least from testimonies that I've heard, Christians that come out of a life with a lot of sex, drugs, alcoholism, etc are more likely to return to these sins than a former atheist would to atheism. Many don't, thankfully. And being as this sister has been away from "the life" for 5 years, I'd say the chances are very remote. But I've seen people whose main sins were addictive vices such as sex and substance abuse go back into that lifestyle as young Christians and this backs up the things I've heard about this phenomenon in the pulpit. I wouldn't say this guy's fear is totally unfounded.

Thank you! This is what I have been trying to explain to others who think his fears are 'illogical'. It isn't. It's based on cold hard reality.

 

[Gardener101]

It's amazing the change that becoming a Christian can have in anyone's life. I don't see any reason why not.
When we repent, we have a clean slate so to speak.

Great. So are you saying you would have absolutely no reservations about marrying any of those listed below (assuming they were all females)

http://www.christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=33866634&postcount=150

Pls be brutally honest.

 

[Luther073082]

I understand what you're saying, but at least from testimonies that I've heard, Christians that come out of a life with a lot of sex, drugs, alcoholism, etc are more likely to return to these sins than a former atheist would to atheism. Many don't, thankfully. And being as this sister has been away from "the life" for 5 years, I'd say the chances are very remote. But I've seen people whose main sins were addictive vices such as sex and substance abuse go back into that lifestyle as young Christians and this backs up the things I've heard about this phenomenon in the pulpit. I wouldn't say this guy's fear is totally unfounded.

True but honestly think about it for a second. A woman who's made it that far found and married a Christian husband is suddenly going to say. Ahh I don't want this anymore so I'm gonna throw it all away and go back to prostitution? I mean yes its a risk but honestly everything is a risk. I've heard of women who where raised in the church, good little girls, virgins til marriage suddenly after being married for 6 years decide suddenly to run up a huge credit card bill in their husband's name pack up and take off with some joe they met yesterday at a gas station. I just don't think the risk is a significant factor in the decision.

 

[simmeringabsolute]

Great. So are you saying you would have absolutely no reservations about marrying any of those listed below (assuming they were all females)

http://www.christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=33866634&postcount=150

Pls be brutally honest.

To many people, the things a person has done in the past are important.

http://www.christianforums.com/t4678030-want-to-know-if-your-bf-or-gf-cheated-in-past.html

BTW, Gardener, where did you get that list?? lol

 

[jameseb]

The Energizer Bunny has nothin' on this thread!

 

[paul123]

What if the Lord has saved a woman who used to be an escort, and he cleaned her up and now she is a Christian woman who loves the Lord and follows hard on Him. Could a Chrisitan man ever see that she is a brand new creature? Just wondering. Thanks.

Yup.

 

[Niels]

A woman who disguised her email address so she could bypass a dating websites filtering process and thereby get something for nothing, when she is not a paid member (sin is sin, eh?)

I love the detail put into these.


Anyway...

Any kind of sin separates us from God. That is true, but not all sins have the same ramifications in this life. Personally, I'd much rather date a woman who stole a pen at work than a woman who shot four ex boyfriends. If I don't want to date the woman who shot her exes, it has nothing to do with whether or not God has forgiven her.

I've already given my answer to the OP (a resounding "maybe")... but I don't think it's wrong to use your better judgment when deciding who to date.

 

[Gilbertgrape]

With the amazing healings that an ex prostitute would have had, I think it would be a huge task to find a Man strong enough, and Worthy enough to be with her.

 

[Sketcher]

With the amazing healings that an ex prostitute would have had, I think it would be a huge task to find a Man strong enough, and Worthy enough to be with her.

Assuming that the "amazing healings" really took place. They don't happen for everybody. And this sounds like it is more motivated by anger than by reason.