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Worst Reason You Got Broken Up With

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I have no family to speak of. Just my Mom. I have only friends I've met on the internet. I hope that this does not deter one from dating me and they date me for who I am, and not who I associate, or don't associate with.

No, I don't think we're talking about the same type of person.
See you would hopefully introduce someone you're dating to your mum though. And friends on the internet count in my opinion.
It's just a yellow flag when someone won't really introduce you to their life. Or won't make an effort to incorporate you at all.

No Jennie, no one should be deterred from dating you. You're fabulous dahhhling
 
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I figured that's what you meant, I was more responding to Goodbook.

That's the thing though, He did incorporate me in his life, his church life, his family life, his friend life. Lol I told someone that if I took off all his people from my FB I'd have only 15 friends, Lol.

But yes, if I were dating someone, and they shielded me away from their life... that would be a warning flag.
 
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Its ok i wasnt meaning you specifically CS although FB doesnt necessarily mean true friends. He could know heaps of people but be utterly alone cos he only knows them through work..having lots of friends also is not a good indicator he could be superficial.


But anyway. If you concerned over your break up and he doesnt want to tell you why you could ask his friends whats going on.
 
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I will also say not talking about any of their family and friends is a red flag. Those people either have problems or is a scam artist with a hidden past.

One also have to be careful to observe if they are lying about their family and friends.

I would be careful of a man who came to your country all by himself. And all his relatives and friends are back home. Be careful of those strangers from afar.

And if you go onto his facebook and he hides his friend list, that's another major red flag. Why is he so secretive? Why doesn't he trust his friends to see each other? Do you think you will ever get a honest connection with this guy?

And if you feel something is wrong when looking through his history on facebook, that's another red flag. Like all his pictures are him by himself at some scenery. That he is rarely in any group settings. And if those "travel" photos of his are photo chopped.
 
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Oh I know! He seems well rounded in his life, he has work friends, a big church family, a tight knit family (mom, dad, brother, aunts, uncles, etc).

You do raise a good point though, about having a lot of friends indicating he could be superficial. There seems to be people who just want to add people to facebook just to make their friends list large and look good to others. This not really directed at him, but I have noticed this with some people.
 
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That's why it is important to check for those group photos. You want a guy who is at least sort of out going and has friends in his life.

To me travel photos of him by himself at some scenery tells you nothing about him.
 
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This is never a "LOL" and I'm sorry. I'm guessing then the reason he did what he did had absolutely nothing to do with you...and I'm sorry that you got hurt. Please don't use this to limit your future or fear other men whom God puts in you life. I had one relationship that ended that I was sure was a "sure thing" but then God reminded me that both people have the option to follow God when put in a potential relationship. Even if it is one God plays a part in. We both have free will and can opt to make the mistake of walking away from good relationship as well as a bad one.
 
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And here I thought it was something about me.
 
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Lol. No, how cute he was.
Even if he looks like the incredible hulk now, even the incredible hulk must have once been a baby and had a mum who adored him.

Or he could have this horrible mosutache and wear low riding jeans and you think ew.. Why would i even go out with him. But long ago, when he was a baby his mum dressed him and he had no choice to make the wrong choices in attire.
 
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Baby photos are a mother's best material for blackmail. Be kind to your girlfriends, guys, and the baby photos will stay safely tucked away.

Well, unless I get ahold of them, then they'll be displayed all over the place.
 
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Baby photos are a mother's best material for blackmail. Be kind to your girlfriends, guys, and the baby photos will stay safely tucked away.

Well, unless I get ahold of them, then they'll be displayed all over the place.


I have no fear with baby pictures...... so that "blackmail" doesnt work on me. She could blow the picture up and put it on a billboard all I care.

Im kind to muh lady cause I just flat out want to be. If she needs to blackmail me into treating her right..... then we just have no business being together. (I know you were joking, but I still had to say it.)
 
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There is a balance between paranoia and blindness. Fear, doubt, and distrust lead to the dark side. Why bother when you are going to kill off the magic anyway? Then again, you might want to step in if your mother or sister takes a lot more interest than you.
 
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