Work frustrations

[yuppers]

Just me complaining about my work problems..
I was working at a company for 11 years. It was a decent job and generally speaking I enjoyed it. But in the last few years things started changing. A coworker who got promoted to supervisor started acting weird towards me. Kind of power tripping me.. One of the owners also started acting weird so I was becoming very unhappy. I applied to a few different places and got an interview and job offer somewhere else quickly. I genuinely believe God was helping me out and it would be a good place and room for advancement.. But the boss pretty much just dumped me into a little corner with a “supervisor” and one other coworker. Right from the start the “supervisor” was also power tripping, and when I had questions and made a couple small mistakes here and there learning new skills and techniques he was extremely rude and condescending. This year my mental health hit a massive wall and I broke. I had to take a lot of time off work just trying to process work problems and personal life issues.. this made boss mad and frustrated with me. You can tell that he barely cares about me and only cares about my work speed and getting onto the next job.. I’m so frustrated trying to mentally figure out how this is a life that God “chose” for me and this is our(my) purpose in life. I truly believe that God was helping me, but my life is no different now than before (almost worse to be honest). Now I don’t know if I should look for a different job and somehow believe that God would actually care about anything. Pretty much my plan is just to stay where I’m at and just deal with the mental anguish I feel everyday.. everyone I talk to just says that’s life. Deal with it. Could be worse

 

[yuppers]

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[peaceful-forest]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I know it seems like God doesn't care about you, but He does.

Let me tell you something I experienced that is somewhat similar to yours.

This was 5 years ago. I used to work for a big and well-known company. I didn't like my job for various reasons, and one of the managers was the last straw for me. I quickly found another job at a small business. I thought I had a good deal and that God was providing for me. I ended up finding out the hard way that this small business was worse than the other place. My boss was a compulsive liar, and him and other workers were setting me up; I believe he was demon possessed too, as there would be paranormal things happening at the building. The day he took me into his office to go on one of his self-centered mentally ill power trips to fire me, I ended up quitting. It was a very bad day. I chose to believe that God would take care of me. I'm someone that has trouble finding work. I was able to find work quickly and have a new job the next week.

Are you in a position to financially quit? Have you prayed to God about this problem?

I will be praying for you because I know what it's like. And make the decision that if you quit or get fired, that God will take care of you no matter what, even if you can't imagine what it is or how He's going to do it.

I do think you should look for a different job. I know you're not the only one dealing with unreasonable madness at work. I believe Satan is doing this, I guess as a way to water us down and get us away from God.

 

[Zceptre]

Our purpose, whether we like it or not, is to love the unlovable. Those people are, apparently from their behavior, very miserable people.

With that said it is extremely difficult to do sometimes. Some people were fighting today in front of me at a happy social gathering for absolutely no reason. I've also dealt with a lot of persecution at many jobs, and it makes life agonizing. There isn't really much to it besides the world is cold and heartless and unconcerned with God's law of loving Him and one another. "Self" is the number one idol, and most people are under that delusion.

I won't try to speculate on whether you should find another job in specific terms. If I had a work history as solid as yours at your previous job, I think in my opinion and if it was me, that I would look for another. I know of a brother in Christ that says we shouldn't look for another job, that we are meant to be light in the darkness and we should stay and love those people, but we must pray and follow God's guidance for us personally in the end. Like the parable of the unjust judge and the widow, we should not stop praying until we hear God in our heart, or until He opens new doors. Whatever you choose, I know that He is with you no matter what path you end up walking down, and that includes the path you are on right now.

I share this particular "layer of protection," as one of my friends called it, to those who suffer this kind of injustice or cruel treatment, cold and condescending attitudes. It's the "It's just business" mindset. While many of us, especially believers, have a renewed heart and know a God who is love and that we should be loving... the rest of the world is blind to this truth. The "It's just business" mindset is the mentality that they run on, and it helps them to keep the work arena just that, the arena. It isn't "personal" to them, and that is where they feel justified in their behavior, because well... that is how their boss treats them too. So to guard the heart and pull it out of the situation, "Yes boss, right away boss, whatever you say boss, sorry about that boss, I'll do better boss" and "It's just business" ourselves through the situation without ever investing our personal emotions in the situation.

Like I said, I wouldn't hesitate to search for new employment with a solid record at an occupation for as long as you had. If you decided to stay and could love the people enough to overlook their cold manners I don't think it would be bad, but that depends on our ability to take it and what God's guidance tells us. The "It's just business" mentality will not solve everything, but if fully adopted can resolve mountains of rude comments, cold reactions, insults, and more if done right and the heart is not invested in the work environment. If it doesn't solve it or the situation becomes severe, maybe finding a better environment would be the answer.

I do pray it will help. It isn't a fix-all but it has worked for many people and helped them to regain their emotional stability by protecting their heart and emotions through removing them from that environment.

 

[timf]

People who see God as controlling every aspect of our lives can come to see God in an unfavorable light when things go bad.

One technique I found useful in the Army for surviving poor supervisors is to adopt what I call the slavery mentality. If you find someone micromanaging you or yelling at you, you can picture your self like a slaving digging a ditch. If the boss yells at you to dig faster, you can picture yourself saying, "Yass sir boss man, Obie be digging as fast as he can" all the while digging at the same speed.

This might be called self regulation. If you can separate what others say into what is true and useful from what is nonsense, you can get to the point where the nonsense rolls off your back.

If you look for alternative employment, you might consider working for a temp agency. Some employers use them to check out someone for awhile before offering full time employment. An employee can apply the same tactic by checking out the job for a while to know if it is worth accepting a full time position.