Women Longings?

[redblue22]

A woman friend was reading a Christian book that said women have five great relation longings. Here are the five. Do you have any of these longings? What order would you rank them. Or is this completely out to lunch?

(if you are a man, feel free to add your thoughts)


escape reality

to be cherished by a man

to be protected by a strong man

to rescue a man

to be physically alive


(please note, none of this is to be taken as sexual)

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[Messy]

A woman friend was reading a Christian book that said women have five great relation longings. Here are the five. Do you have any of these longings? What order would you rank them. Or is this completely out to lunch?

(if you are a man, feel free to add your thoughts)


escape reality

to be cherished by a man

to be protected by a strong man

to rescue a man

to be physically alive


(please note, none of this is to be taken as sexual)

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2 and 3, 4 not anymore like in missionary dating, 5 sure why not, 1 no that was only when I was very depressed.

 

[fromtheAsh]

A woman friend was reading a Christian book that said women have five great relation longings. Here are the five. Do you have any of these longings? What order would you rank them. Or is this completely out to lunch?

(if you are a man, feel free to add your thoughts)


escape reality

to be cherished by a man

to be protected by a strong man

to rescue a man

to be physically alive


(please note, none of this is to be taken as sexual)

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1) To be cherished
2) To be physically alive
3) Escape reality
4) Rescue
5) To be protected.


I never liked the idea of "being protected".

 

[graciesings]

A woman friend was reading a Christian book that said women have five great relation longings. Here are the five. Do you have any of these longings? What order would you rank them. Or is this completely out to lunch?

(if you are a man, feel free to add your thoughts)

escape reality

to be cherished by a man

to be protected by a strong man

to rescue a man

to be physically alive

(please note, none of this is to be taken as sexual)

.

Nope... Not here, at least.

1. To be respected by someone I can and do respect.

2. To be free - specifically, "freedom to err", as in, the freedom to do/say/believe something my partner thinks is wrong without being (emotionally or physically) "punished" for it.

3. To be given and to give affection, in physical and emotional forms.

4. To give and receive intellectual stimulation. Philosophical arguments, researching things together, studying together - that's actually very important to me.

5. Mutual trust.

I don't desire to be protected or provided for. I can take care of myself. I also don't desire a man who "lets me live." I have the right to live, thank you. I desire to be alive, but I don't desire someone who will "keep me alive and not kill me."

 

[KitKatMatt]

A woman friend was reading a Christian book that said women have five great relation longings. Here are the five. Do you have any of these longings? What order would you rank them. Or is this completely out to lunch?

(if you are a man, feel free to add your thoughts)


escape reality

to be cherished by a man

to be protected by a strong man

to rescue a man

to be physically alive


(please note, none of this is to be taken as sexual)

.

To be physically alive is definitely number one. It's just instinctual.

Escaping reality is something I used to do fairly often as a coping mechanism, which I do not do nearly as much now since I have more healthy coping mechanisms. I'm not sure if I could say it even ranks on a list for me, but compared to the other choices I guess it would be number two.

I don't feel anything on the other three at all. So I think number three is a tie with all of those.

It's hard to rank things that have little to no meaning with yourself. I definitely don't think these "five longings" define me, aside from wanting to avoid death, which I think is something most people of all genders have.

 

[Neve]

Three seem realistic to me:

1) escape reality

2) to be cherished by a man

3) to be physically alive

I don't feel the need to be protected by or rescue a man.

 

[ReesePiece23]

escape reality

Chocolate

to be cherished by a man

Chocolate

to be protected by a strong man

Chocolate

to rescue a man

Chocolate

to be physically alive

Chocolate

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Just edited your options there...

 

[Tess]

This seems really weird, what was your friend reading? haha!

'To be physically alive' - like, what?!

Cherished and protected by a man, sure, I guess so.

Escape reality? what?

Rescue a man...?

 

[Messy]

This seems really weird, what was your friend reading? haha!

'To be physically alive' - like, what?!

Escape reality? what?

Rescue a man...?

Maybe it means that you don't want a man who's gonna kill you.
If you want to escape reality you're in a real bad relationship.

 

[redblue22]

lol . . .

 

[Cute Tink]

escape reality - maybe a little, sometimes

to be cherished by a man - not really necessary

to be protected by a strong man - not really necessary

to rescue a man - lol

to be physically alive - unless I'm missing something, I need to be physically alive to do much

I think ReecePiece is onto something though...

 

[pittsflyer]

Why? Women would have no rights without the military and police. Women are protected by men whether they like it or not.

1) To be cherished
2) To be physically alive
3) Escape reality
4) Rescue
5) To be protected.


I never liked the idea of "being protected".

 

[blackribbon]

cherished...absolutely

protected by a strong man...this isn't physical strength but strength of character... A real life example for me might have been hearing my husband stand up to his mother in my defense even once... He defended me in other places, but this would have been tremendous.

the rest...nah...not so much...

 

[blackribbon]

Why? Women would have no rights without the military and police. Women are protected by men whether they like it or not.

umm...are military and police male only organizations?....news to me....

 

[fromtheAsh]

Why? Women would have no rights without the military and police. Women are protected by men whether they like it or not.

I meant that because I'm a woman that I'm defenseless and need to be protected by men.

 

[Athena18]

A woman friend was reading a Christian book that said women have five great relation longings. Here are the five. Do you have any of these longings? What order would you rank them. Or is this completely out to lunch?

(if you are a man, feel free to add your thoughts)


escape reality

to be cherished by a man

to be protected by a strong man

to rescue a man

to be physically alive


(please note, none of this is to be taken as sexual)

.

These seem odd. I also wonder what book she is reading to list these.
Obviously we need to be alive physically.
I don't feel the need to escape reality. Reality is what it is.
Goodness gracious....to rescue a man? What does that even mean?
I have this vision of a weak, wimpy man needing to be protected by his woman and I'm sure that would make most men cringe.
I do love the idea of being cherished by a man.
I also like the idea of being protected by a strong man. I think of that as a character thing more than physical strength. I see it as standing behind me and building me up in all I do. His strength giving me the courage to accomplish all that God calls me to do in this life.

 

[blackribbon]

Feeling "alive" is different than being alive. It probably is referring to that giddy "in love" feeling that goes with falling in love. I felt it every time my husband reach out and held my hand or we bumped legs ... just a connection.

"escape reality" is probably tied to feeling alive...it is probably that feeling that makes young in love believe that they can "live on love" and things like money don't matter...

rescue a man...means that we need to find a man that needs us...and he recognizes it...I had a guy in high school who quit drinking so he could date me because he found out that I didn't tolerate drunk boys...considering the track he was on, I did kind of rescue him and I think even today (we are friends) he would say that I did....I "rescued" my husband in a very different way (but that is personal)...but I know he felt loved and valued by me in a way he never felt before....

they aren't as strange as they sound...

 

[Cearbhall]

to be cherished by a man

This is probably the strongest for me of the five on the list. I want to cherish someone and be cherished. I think that's a cornerstone of a long-term relationship, and "cherish" should not be confused with "worship."

to rescue a man

As a fantasy, yes. In reality, no. I find myself attracted to fictional male characters who need this type of relationship, but real people, not so much. I'm happy to be the man's friend and help out, but I think it would be problematic to let this be a draw in a relationship. I try not to view people this way, men or women, especially in a romantic context. I think it devalues a person.

to be protected by a strong man

Not really. Society is safer than ever (strange but true). I feel pretty safe, and in situations where I don't, I'd rather rely on means such as law enforcement and common sense than have to walk around with a man all the time. The idea of society becoming safer and safer so that there's little reason to depend on someone in this way is much more attractive to me. However, if he and I suddenly find ourselves in a dangerous situation where brute strength is going to determine the winner, and my man is stronger than me, then yes please!

to be physically alive

I don't struggle with feeling alive at my age, so it's not something I need from a relationship. I can see how this could become a longing in the future.

escape reality

Not at all, since you said that this shouldn't be interpreted in a sexual manner. I like reality.

 

[miss-a]

In no particular order:

Well, here's the thing, if a guy with a knife comes through the door, I don't want my guy to hide behind the cat, so in that respect I cover two of the criteria. Yes, protect me if I need it, and no, neither the cat nor I wish to have to rescue you.

Escape reality: who came up with this stuff? Reality happens, man or no man.

Cherished: Of course, if we're life partners and not cherishing one another, why bother?

Feel alive: Who doesn't want to feel alive? And having a real connection with another human being does enhance that feeling.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Well, here's the thing, if a guy with a knife comes through the door, I don't want my guy to hide behind the cat

The guy with the knife might be a softy for cats though... And if that's the case, then he isn't going to stab a poor defenceless kitty is he?

See, that's not being cowardly. That's being smart.

(Toro, I've set you up son... Here's your cue.)