With the recent posts of questioning the worth of marriage...

[PetraFan007]

A God written love story is priceless!

Wow, that is such a cool quote!!!

 

[Quiet Storm]

wow, you girls rock!

Don't they just? You've got to love our true sisters in Christ. Priceless beauty that girls of the world just can't compete with.

 

[mina]

Don't they just? You've got to love our true sisters in Christ. Priceless beauty that girls of the world just can't compete with.

Do Christian guys really think things like that? Cause physical beauty seems mighty important to them, no matter if the girl is a Christian or not.

 

[KeilCoppes]

I so it would have to be just us.. which means it wouldn't be fancy, but there would be an abundance of love.

I know a remarried couple in our church - one was divorced when he became a Christian, the other lost her husband to a drunk driver in an accident. When they married their primary concern was to bring their families to hear the gospel. As a result they were married on the Lord's day immediately after the morning service. Mark sat on one side of the aisle in the front, Jane sat on the other side of the aisle across from him. After the benediction my father asked them to come forward, they stepped into the aisle, and he performed the wedding ceremony. After the ceremony was done, they both sat down on his side of the aisle and we sang a hymn. Very simple and it very much accomplished its purpose. Mark is a deacon in the church and they now have two children.

As a honeymoon story, two outdoorsy types in the Ft. Collins church took three days of supplies, a tent, and backpacks and went and lived off the land in the mountains for a month. Very cost effective, but I'd starve to death, so I'm going to have to opt either for Hawaii or any place where someone else does the cooking (and the catching of the food). :^)

 

[SandyLou]

If I met you and we fell in love and we decided to get married after getting to know each other enough...and we decided to get married soon---would you be expecting a huge wedding and some expensive ring? What if I said I was poor, and I could only afford a small wedding and a ring valued like $500-1000 tops? And we went on a simple honeymoon. Would this change you're whole marriage experience?

If a girl has dated and gotten to know you well enough that you are talking marriage - she KNOWS what you can afford! Omigosh! Give females a LITTLE credit! Hopefully you aren't wandering the mall, asking any girl who walks by. . . And by the same token - if you are asking someone to share a life together, hopefully you know HEr well enough to know her tastes and preferences.

Personally I wouldn't want a guy to spend a lot of money on a ring or really fancy wedding and then start our life togther in debt. As long as we are there and we invited God - everything else is optional

--SandyLou

 

[Tink]

Any guy that spends two months worth of income on my ring is gonna get "smacked" for being irresponsible!

I don't care how much money a man has. God will provide for our family.

 

[bubblegirl23]

I don't even like jewelry. The only piece of jewelry I own is a pair of gold sleepers in my ears. I prefer junk jewelry. When thinking of getting married one day, I imagine a home wedding that the food was home-cooked, dancing to CDs, a VERY simple ring, and I'd like to wear black and him a white suit to be traditional, but something slightly different. I think $500 would cover the whole wedding !

BG

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I would wnat my wedding to be somethign that will make me very happy and that I will remeber being as the best dya of my life, so if you cna do that I would not have a problem. It also relaly depends on what you clal a simple honeymoon. I wnat a honeymoon where the 2 of us cna so somewhere romantic and fun and just relax before we get back to the real world. As long as the wedding has all my family and friends and a nce dinner and a dance and ceremony everythign woudl eb fine.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Personally I wouldn't want a guy to spend a lot of money on a ring or really fancy wedding and then start our life togther in debt. As long as we are there and we invited God - everything else is optional

Similar thought. My parents used to talk about going to Christian college to get married as an opportunity to give a man a -$40K dowry and for him to return the favor to their new family. On the other hand, the alternative? I'm thinking the answer isn't a toaster oven....

 

[KeilCoppes]

...I'd like to wear black and him a white suit to be traditional, but something slightly different. I think $500 would cover the whole wedding !

Before my sisters were married they were very different and had different outlooks on finance. We joked that when Kris married, we'd have people in the church get together and do it. On the other hand we thought that when Kellie got married we'd have to buy a new church building....

(ps - stick with white - a black veil and dress makes it look like a funeral, which I hope it definitely wouldn't be. Maybe both wear white, or full tails on his tux? )

 

[bubblegirl23]

Ok, not complete black. Black & purple....he could wear a purple shirt with the white suit.

I was thinking something really classy... but no veil. I thought something off the shoulders, medium length and plastic flowers in my hair. All the flowers would be plastic and I'd keep them for future uses. Everyone would give money rather than gifts and that would go into the bank for a rainy day.

My little dog would be the ring-bearer and while making her dress I'd make my wedding dress. I'd prefer to do a lot of the work myself because it would make the day even more special.

As for the ring - those plastic 20c ones. I LOVE plastic jewelry! It;s cheap, never discolours and comes in cute little sets at bargain stores. Short of that, those kids metal ones.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Ok, not complete black. Black & purple....he could wear a purple shirt with the white suit.

I was thinking something really classy... but no veil. I thought something off the shoulders, medium length and plastic flowers in my hair. All the flowers would be plastic and I'd keep them for future uses. Everyone would give money rather than gifts and that would go into the bank for a rainy day.

The colors are getting scary! watch out for the purple... I'm still not getting the black, though - that's the guy's job. You might try silk flowers, though - they're even nicer. I'll definitely pass on the purple shirt... somehow I've never understood purple. Plum yes, but not with a suit... though I've had a blue-violet shirt I've been looking for for a while....

I'm betting you could get a little girl to do flower girl for free - definitely classier than your puppy.... on the other hand, you do have a sense of humor, don't you?

 

[bubblegirl23]

Sense of humor? I'm serious! I'm unable to have kids and so my dog is my baby. I choose my puppy to do it. We'd tie the rings on a ribbon around her. She's well-behaved so she wouldn't eat them. And I prefer plastic flowers because they last a lot longer. I'd kepp them and use them for a table piece for the annual wedding anniversary.

As for colours, I like funky things. I have a rainbow striped bedroom! I picture an attractive purple bodice with a puffy black skirt. I'm thinking purple as in the colour of Grimace, the McDonald's character. For the guy the suit would be white, much like the suit in Saturday Night Fever, only with a purple shirt.
BrandLee, my dog, wears baby nighties because she's prone to colds, so on the day I would replace it with a purple velvet one I'd make.

Of course if my man (when I find one!) didn't like it I'd be willing to compromise. Although the man I was with would have to find my unusual spirit at least a little attractive to love me. The vows are the important bit - the rest is about celebrating. God made me unique and I'd like to celebrate it on my wedding day. If my man was individual we would celebrate that too. If he wanted to wear heels or an unusual hat or something I would embrace that too.

 

[2Timothy2]

Hey, it will be your wedding, so whatever you and your man decide on, go for it. Who cares what anyone else wants?

I would personally want a ceremony like this: "Do you? Yes. Do you? Yes. Ok then." Failing that, which I'm pretty sure I will, she can have whatever she wants. As long as she is there I'll be happy. But the reception, now I will have a say in that. Short, very short.

 

[bubblegirl23]

With nice simple food! Mud-cake wedding cake, seasoned roast chicken - no dishes I can't pronounce!

Why do you want a short reception? Is it because you are annoyed by family? Or is it you want to get onto the "honey"moon?

The reception is the best bit! Having fun with friends, dancing, food, presents

BG

 

[2Timothy2]

Why do you want a short reception? Is it because you are annoyed by family?

You know, I never even imagined that could have been taken that way.

As for the honeymoon, you betcha. I will have waited long enough. I'm only half joking here. Family and friends will be there when we got back.

 

[Brittany108]

Short reception? No way! That is a time to celebrate & have fun! (especially if you have family and friends coming from out of state)

 

[2Timothy2]

Short reception? No way! That is a time to celebrate & have fun! (especially if you have family and friends coming from out of state)

This is why I will insist that she gets to plan the ceremony, and I get to plan the reception. And a short reception will allow us to celebrate and have fun.

 

[KeilCoppes]

This is why I will insist that she gets to plan the ceremony, and I get to plan the reception. And a short reception will allow us to celebrate and have fun.

You know, I wonder about the old-fashioned weddings - the several-days long bashes with the whole family and friends celebrating. I'm also remembering what my favorite adopted Italian uncle told me about Catholic weddings when he was growing up. (remember, this is an idea in progress)

What about the idea of everyone coming from the four corners of the country and out of state on Friday for the rehearsal dinner and fellowship, getting married on Saturday morning, celebrating and fellowshipping through the day, perhaps with picnic and activities and a get-together dinner, later retiring to some unknown place across town, coming to church for the Lord's day and then flying out on Monday for the honeymoon? Most weddings I've seen everyone has dashed off. If you're going to bring everyone together, make the most of it!

My mom once said to me - Make sure that on your wedding day everyone is more glad you're here than glad you're going to be gone....

Note - these kind of ideas may be some of the reasons I'm still a bachelor...

 

[Thithy]

I wouldn't mind a small simple gold band, or a small wedding. However, I would want the honeymoon to be something better than a few nights at a motel 6 in Vegas. Personally I wouldn't mind waiting to save up the money to have a nice honey moon. However, if I couldn't have the "perfect" honeymoon right away I would be content waiting a few (or 20) years to have one. A second one I guess. Although I don't think it would be my husband paying for everything. I would help, and I know my parents would too. My mom's got enough time share that she could give us a week, and then have a wonderful honeymoon. Although I guess it doesn't really matter where we would go because we would be together and make the best of it.

But I wouldn't say no to a guy just because he was poor. Money isn't everything. Although I don't want to be living pay check to pay check for the rest of my life, so that's why I plan on having a career, so if the guy can't be the bread winner I will.