Wishing i were special

[Macchiato]

I feel when I meet people I can point out what makes them unique. Me I just feel I'm looked over often, very invisible it's been that way all my life and I'm 32. Don't really have friends and I feel if I were special people would gravitate towards me.



I feel I'm just longing to be special and noticed but i feel like a Grey lump, no different than the average person. Nothing about me makes someone do a double take. To add im also pretty shy, ive gotten better. I just feel i have no special talent. I just feel i have nothing to offer. I try to pursue education to make me more useful ( i have certifcates and a degree-- that I cant use. I feel stuck at dead end jobs and it makes me feel like this is all i can do) This hits hard even more bc after dealing with a guy I was recently seeing he was so amazing. I truly wanted to be like him. He inspired me on every level.. I messed it up though.



And I feel ill never find someone special like that again or someone that amazing won't notice me. Idk I feel be was too good for me anyway ..



I'm working on how I see myself this year and I wrote down affirmations. I'm going to repeat them.



Any advice is also welcomed.

 

[DragonFox91]

Do you go to church? I struggle opening up to people too (used to be really really bad but am much better) but it's easier at church b/c you automatically share common beliefs. You're sure to find someone genuine at church who will take an interest in you. It's the House of God! Go to Sunday School after. Go even when you don't want to. Go even if it seems hard. Let me know what you're doing & we can evaluate. We would like to see you do well & don't like to see someone upset because we have been in your spot too.

 

[sandman]

I feel when I meet people I can point out what makes them unique. Me I just feel I'm looked over often, very invisible it's been that way all my life and I'm 32. Don't really have friends and I feel if I were special people would gravitate towards me.



I feel I'm just longing to be special and noticed but i feel like a Grey lump, no different than the average person. Nothing about me makes someone do a double take. To add im also pretty shy, ive gotten better. I just feel i have no special talent. I just feel i have nothing to offer. I try to pursue education to make me more useful ( i have certifcates and a degree-- that I cant use. I feel stuck at dead end jobs and it makes me feel like this is all i can do) This hits hard even more bc after dealing with a guy I was recently seeing he was so amazing. I truly wanted to be like him. He inspired me on every level.. I messed it up though.



And I feel ill never find someone special like that again or someone that amazing won't notice me. Idk I feel be was too good for me anyway ..



I'm working on how I see myself this year and I wrote down affirmations. I'm going to repeat them.



Any advice is also welcomed.

Do you realize that YOU are the only YOU. ….that alone makes you special

But that is not all………………..not by a long shot!

The person that you are …..has something very special …. actually, it’s priceless!!!

You have the spirit of God within you …You are His dwelling place, a chosen gem polished by God and His Word, and you are absolutely beautiful in His sight.

If you only realized how special you are … You could flip the world right side up.

You don’t need a college degree or a PHD in psychology. You can change peoples lives with the love of God in your heart you can bring them from death unto life from the power of satan to the power of God. You can transform someone from a life of misery to a life of joy, peace, and purpose.
That same spirit of God that is in you, is the same spirit that raised Jesus Christ from the dead.

So yeah …you are special….but someone (probably yourself) has talked you out of it.

It’s time to reclaim the real you and become aware of who you really are in Christ…. God believes in you …you need to believe God ….and in the qualities and abilities that He has given you as His daughter ….A daughter of the most high God.

 

[DragonFox91]

I was never good at anything either. I remember in school watching everyone had a talent. Even the middle of the pack people seemed really talented.

I never was. I was the worst of the worst at everything. Not athletic. Not musical. Not the comedian. Not an actor. Not popular. It completely killed my confidence & self-esteem. B/c you need talents to fit in & be accepted. I was the biggest loser.

Then what do you know, those are the same people that get the good jobs, they get the get the nice families, they’re the ones who lead the world & change it.

I heard a sermon recently that called it ‘the problem of righteousness.’ Jesus fixed that problem.

Romans 8: “Who shall bring an accusation against you? It’s God who accuses. Who can condemn you? Jesus was already condemned.”

Read Romans 8 over & over & over. Pray it. Memorize it. Meditate over it. It’s really good. It’s really helpful.

Id say more about Jesus but sandman already answered that part good.

But knowing you’re a child of God thru Jesus is one thing, now you got to let him act. In addition to attending & getting involved in a church which would be helpful for you, you mentioned job situation. Are you applying anywhere? What are your strengths & weaknesses? Is the door on what you’re pursuing really closed, what is the evidence for that? Are there other things you’d be willing to try?

 

[Macchiato]

Do you realize that YOU are the only YOU. ….that alone makes you special

But that is not all………………..not by a long shot!

The person that you are …..has something very special …. actually, it’s priceless!!!

You have the spirit of God within you …You are His dwelling place, a chosen gem polished by God and His Word, and you are absolutely beautiful in His sight.

If you only realized how special you are … You could flip the world right side up.

You don’t need a college degree or a PHD in psychology. You can change peoples lives with the love of God in your heart you can bring them from death unto life from the power of satan to the power of God. You can transform someone from a life of misery to a life of joy, peace, and purpose.
That same spirit of God that is in you, is the same spirit that raised Jesus Christ from the dead.

So yeah …you are special….but someone (probably yourself) has talked you out of it.

It’s time to reclaim the real you and become aware of who you really are in Christ…. God believes in you …you need to believe God ….and in the qualities and abilities that He has given you as His daughter ….A daughter of the most high God.

I really wish that made me feel special but God has a lot of daughters I'm one of many and also you can be different in a good or bad way and I feel mine isn't all that great.
Idk I just want to be a phenomenal amazing person that people can't forget but most don't remember me.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I feel when I meet people I can point out what makes them unique. Me I just feel I'm looked over often, very invisible it's been that way all my life and I'm 32. Don't really have friends and I feel if I were special people would gravitate towards me.



I feel I'm just longing to be special and noticed but i feel like a Grey lump, no different than the average person. Nothing about me makes someone do a double take. To add im also pretty shy, ive gotten better. I just feel i have no special talent. I just feel i have nothing to offer. I try to pursue education to make me more useful ( i have certifcates and a degree-- that I cant use. I feel stuck at dead end jobs and it makes me feel like this is all i can do) This hits hard even more bc after dealing with a guy I was recently seeing he was so amazing. I truly wanted to be like him. He inspired me on every level.. I messed it up though.



And I feel ill never find someone special like that again or someone that amazing won't notice me. Idk I feel be was too good for me anyway ..



I'm working on how I see myself this year and I wrote down affirmations. I'm going to repeat them.



Any advice is also welcomed.

I really can't advise you because I'm in the very same position. But I'll give you some hugs . I hope you feel better soon. Feel free to message me if you ever need to talk with someone.

 

[Macchiato]

I really can't advise you because I'm in the very same position. But I'll give you some hugs . I hope you feel better soon. Feel free to message me if you ever need to talk with someone.

Definitely thinking of therapy.

 

[Paul4JC]

Most of the time, I don't feel special either. Many who are surrounded by people are still lonely.

One door closes. God opens another.

David spent many a lonely night, (while being hunted down like an animal, by King Saul and his army) with only the the Lord to look to. The sentiment is revealed in many Psalms. Through the years I've found much encouragement in them. Sometimes we can't change our circumstances, but we can change our response to what's going on, or not. A Psalm a day is of much benefit.

God bless you.

[Psa 73:14-17a NIV] All day long I have been afflicted, and every morning brings new punishments. 15 If I had spoken out like that, I would have betrayed your children. 16 When I tried to understand all this, it troubled me deeply 17 till I entered the sanctuary of God;

 

[Macchiato]

Most of the time, I don't feel special either. Many who are surrounded by people are still lonely.

One door closes. God opens another.

David spent many a lonely night, (while being hunted down like an animal, by King Saul and his army) with only the the Lord to look to. The sentiment is revealed in many Psalms. Through the years I've found much encouragement in them. Sometimes we can't change our circumstances, but we can change our response to what's going on, or not. A Psalm a day is of much benefit.

God bless you.

[Psa 73:14-17a NIV] All day long I have been afflicted, and every morning brings new punishments. 15 If I had spoken out like that, I would have betrayed your children. 16 When I tried to understand all this, it troubled me deeply 17 till I entered the sanctuary of God;

This is so true. I'm also dealing with a bit of depression. It comes in waves and I'm just feeling down. Could you all keep me in your prayers please.