- Feb 19, 2017
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As someone who comes from a line of broken homes, I'm just thinking about what I want out of life now at the age of 27. I'm going to be thirty before I know it, and I'm excited to reach that milestone if it is God's will. That being said, there's a wish I'd love to be fulfilled during my thirties. In thinking about my future, I think I'd like to be a mother to a baby all my own. My only problem, however, is that I haven't got a husband with which to start a family with. I'm someone who has never been in a romantic relationship before, and while I don't see that as a personal failing in any way, I have to admit that is has been a bit lonely. I'm thankful for the time that I've had to develop further into my own person, and as I approach year thirty, I hope for more instances for personal growth among different life events.
If I should ever find someone with whom to fall in love with and marry, that would be wonderful, provided that he is a good man... but I think the thing I'd be looking forward to the most would be becoming a mother... I've had plenty of dreams in the past where I have had children. Those are some of the best dreams ever. The only difficult part of the dreams, however, is waking up to realize that it was only a dream and that my children were just a figment of my imagination. Because of how much I miss my dream-children during my waking life, it actually makes going into places like the baby section of stores very hard for me.
I know it's not all sunshine and rainbows having children of your own, and in fact I'm worried that I wouldn't be the best mom my kids deserve... but I'd still like to try all the same, even if I only had one child. I think the anxiety comes from the fact that my family was always unstable and I ended up growing up with a single mom who struggled to get by. My dad was around too, but his first re-marriage ended in a divorce that impacted me more than his original divorce to my mom. Then my dad got into another relationship that resulted in a marriage that's still going strong... but dad got sick and isn't able to do as much as he used to do. Extended family is no better either, with them being toxic and turning on each other whenever it's in their best interest to do so.
I feel like I don't have much of a safety net in place for if anything were to ever go wrong and I needed help. That's what makes the thought of being married and having children such a daunting thing for me, even though I want both very much... but I think with therapy and continuing to try and reach out to friends at church, I'll be able to quell at least some of these fears... and above all else, putting my trust in God to keep an eye out for me.
If I should ever find someone with whom to fall in love with and marry, that would be wonderful, provided that he is a good man... but I think the thing I'd be looking forward to the most would be becoming a mother... I've had plenty of dreams in the past where I have had children. Those are some of the best dreams ever. The only difficult part of the dreams, however, is waking up to realize that it was only a dream and that my children were just a figment of my imagination. Because of how much I miss my dream-children during my waking life, it actually makes going into places like the baby section of stores very hard for me.
I know it's not all sunshine and rainbows having children of your own, and in fact I'm worried that I wouldn't be the best mom my kids deserve... but I'd still like to try all the same, even if I only had one child. I think the anxiety comes from the fact that my family was always unstable and I ended up growing up with a single mom who struggled to get by. My dad was around too, but his first re-marriage ended in a divorce that impacted me more than his original divorce to my mom. Then my dad got into another relationship that resulted in a marriage that's still going strong... but dad got sick and isn't able to do as much as he used to do. Extended family is no better either, with them being toxic and turning on each other whenever it's in their best interest to do so.
I feel like I don't have much of a safety net in place for if anything were to ever go wrong and I needed help. That's what makes the thought of being married and having children such a daunting thing for me, even though I want both very much... but I think with therapy and continuing to try and reach out to friends at church, I'll be able to quell at least some of these fears... and above all else, putting my trust in God to keep an eye out for me.